Mr. Anatomy,
Let me start out by saying I value your opinion, as do so many others and I feel like I am having a crisis and I need intervention by your bloggers. About 5 years ago, my husband was diagnosed with testicular cancer and our lives changed significantly. I have been in prayer at the church and since I don't work anymore, I make sure I am there for my husband in so many ways. My husband is impotent and we have sex through our emotions and touch without any penetration. We live in an exclusive high-rise community here in (Not Gonna Say it) and our lives have been good. My problem is, a young bachelor moved in across the hall and I was very helpful with his moving. I stayed at his house waiting for the cable man, At&t people, etc. My husband has been very supportive and wanted me to help out our new neighbor, because, as he put it, "it's being Neighborly." However, last week, when I was over helping him interview housekeepers, we ended up in his bedroom and Lord, I don't know what came over me. He lifted my skirt and that young man took an older woman around all the bases! I am 49 years old, and that young thing is 28. I should know better because he is my son's age. But, I snuck out of the house Saturday, knocked on his door and when he answered, he said, "I knew you wanted me again!" My Question is ........
Oh what a web we weave........! (LoL) Oh Ma'am, I have a lot to say about these actions, and actually, I had another episode similar to yours a few months back. I encourage you to read that Monday, 1/30/12 - Temptation is Testing me (http://theanatomyofacheater.blogspot.com/2012/01/mr.html) I will chime in after my bloggers have had an opportunity to address your situation. From this point forward, we will address you as Ms. Cougar. Please remain available for any questions my bloggers will ask in reference to your situation.
Hurchel Williams, MBA
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Ms. Cougar, I want to address you first and tell you to go and read a similar blog that we had on this topic back in January of this year. Maybe that outcome can help you. This lady appeared twice the first @ http://theanatomyofacheater.blogspot.com/2012/01/mr.html
ReplyDeleteand then an update @ http://theanatomyofacheater.blogspot.com/2012/07/update-temptation-is-testing-me-from.html
Please read both for some insight!
Mr. Anatomy = Hurchel Williams, MBA
First things First! Do not Fall in Love with the New Young D! Understand what it is ? SEX! So keep Playing Player! The D is also way too close to Home. So there is a Good chance of being CAUGHT! Seriously, Just go get some toys with your Husband? Get Him a Strap Color is and Size Optional. Cut all ties with your new neighbor. May have to move ,cause you have had a Taste of some Good Young D! Ain't Nothing like New D or New P, so watch it . Grrrrowlll! You Cougar. Pleasure P says it's nothing like Cougar Luv!
ReplyDeleteYour question is HOW DO YOU STOP WHAT YOU STARTED? SIMPLE..........DON'T DO IT AGAIN!!!!! YOU JAD YOIR ROMP IN THE PARK TWICE NOW BY ALL MEANS TELL HIM YOU CAN NO LONGER INDULGE IN THE ACROSS THE HALL RENDEZVOUS YES IT'S THAT SIMPLE.
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ReplyDeleteYOU BET NOT TELL NOBODY BUT GARD!!!!
ReplyDeleteSherita you are stupid. Lol. But you right. Don't tell your husband that would hurt him. If he caught you would it hurt him? If so whin yourself off of him. But don't keep going back. It's to close to home. You don't play where you lay your head. You ate taking it to a new level. Good luck
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WHAT LENA SAID!!!
ReplyDeleteUnless u want to end your relationship with your husband u better not tell. I can also tell u that while your enjoying him he's probably enjoying others as well so I hope your having safe sex. Next like smbody else said DON'T FALL IN LOVE. He's young and not to say your old but he's gonna want smbody his own age when all is said and done. I also agree with Lena. Get sm toys and go at it if penetration is what you need. It's gonna be hard but you can't keep playing in your own back yard and expect not to b caught
ReplyDeleteOooooh Ladies,
ReplyDeleteI know I am sooooo wrong, but that young man uncorked some passion from somewhere deep in me. That lil boy touched me on my back, my neck, and thighs! I know, Lord knows, I know I am wrong and I need some prayer and intervention. I feel I got my Groove Back, I have Waited to Exhale, and now I am trying to rock this young man's world! If you guys knew how long its been, then you might try to understand. OK, with that said, let me return to reality. I am so wrong, and last night (LMAO) when I got back from his place, I took a shower and prayed to GOD in a whisper and said please LORD take this appetite from my soul! I am so wrong, but just for a few minutes, it feels so right. My husband's medication knocks him out, and for years I just would just read my bible and have some me time. Last night, that little bugger knocked on the door with a sugar bowl and asked me to fill it up for him. I went to my kitchen, open the bowl, and when I lifted the lid, his little note said, "come let me touch your body Soo Good! I promise not to bite! P.S. unless you want me to!" I stood in that kitchen, and my body trembled with anticipation. I raised my hands and said, "I need Jesus!" I prayed, and said I wasn't gonna go. I gave him his sugar bowl back, and went to bed. The DEVIL woke me up at 11:00 P.M. and I went out to my balcony, had a glass of wine, and tip-toed my ass across the hall until 3:30 A.M. Mr. Anatomy, I am being honest and descriptive because this woman needs some help and self control. Please, please, please, say something to stop me from crossing this damn hall again. I'm across the hall from Morris Chestnut's color, Shemar Moore's body, and Will Smith's personality. I can't stop laughing.
signed Fit to be Tied!
Sherita she need to be close to home just in case her husband need her. She just cross the hallll!!! We all going to hell in a hand basket!!! Lol!! See I can justify when I need to justalie!! Lol
ReplyDeleteLenaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!! you sho right he may need some milk and cookies!!!!!!!!! GASOLINE!!!!!
ReplyDeleteShe need to get a baby monitor and put under the bed and she will know when he get up. That way she can come home and she say was out for a walk. Lol
ReplyDeleteYou seem to be a very smart lady. Now use your head. First of all stop with young dude it is onl going to get more intense because it is taboo sex. Second, you still love your husband. Dont tell him what you have done leave that between you and the Lord. Third, make some trips to Crystals of any adult theme store and go on a shoping spree. open your mind up and let your inhibitions go. Be frank with the personnell they are usually very helpful tell them your husband's condition and you needs some things that would hlep you guys out in the bedroom. Try out some strap ons, vibrators, oils and creams you will be surprised at how advanced the sex industry is for people in your situation. DONT GO BACK ACROSS THAT HALL
ReplyDeleteOk, ladies, I am going to have to exhibit some will power so please start praying for me now. My name is Melissa, please help. I was just in the living room, and heard a noise in the hall. I looked out the door and that young baby was coming back from the gym with a tank top on all nice and sweaty. He knows better than that. Sherita, ooh girl, you and Lena seem to know what I am dealing with. Have you ever felt butterflies in your stomach and ran to the door every time you hear a noise. My poor husband is back there sleeping and dealing with his issues and my body is here with him, but my mind is across that damn hall! I'm gonna go sit my ass in this tub and read a book! Y'all are right, and ain't NO good gonna come from this. Mr. Anatomy, give me a word, please!
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ReplyDeleteDear Ms. Cougar,
ReplyDeleteWhile I am seriously laughing at some of the "REAL" responses you have received from my bloggers, you are dealing with something far more serious than my laughter. On one hand, you are missing out on passion because of your husband's condition, on the other hand, you are testing your own Vows by going across the hall in the name of twisted passion. I am NEVER one to judge, but you are going to have to get your emotions in check and get back to being that supportive housewife you were before you started venturing across the hall. Let's think of some outcomes: One, if he continues to do to your body what he is doing, you will get your emotions all involved in this young guy. You and I both know, he is just enjoying the stroll in the park with "Momma-Love" because you represent something he has never had. Experience in bed is something that is HARD to find! Second, what happens when the young-buck starts to bring home other "bacon" and you are peeking out the door? Even though you can't rightfully say anything, you know that is NOT going to stop your anger from festering and your jealousy to show its ugly head. Third, and most important, hubby will eventually find out you're Missing in Action (MIA)at some point and wonder what tha Hell is truly going on! You definitely don't want that. So, my advice, stop while you are ahead. Show some self constraints and admire this young man from a far until you can handle the heat that has set you on fire from the inside! Just continue being neighborly just without the extra antics. By the way, talk to your husband about how you feel and like my bloggers have suggested, venture out to the toy stores and make it a fun time for the both of you. Technology had come a long way!
Mr. Anatomy = Hurchel Williams, MBA
Ms. Cougar,
ReplyDeleteYou have gotten some hilarious responses but as Mr. Anatomy eludes to, your situation is no laughing matter. I have been there with my EX. He was impotent most of the last four to five years of our marriage. For a man that is extremely devastating to their manhood and psyche. We did however manage to have passionate sex for quite a while even with his issue. There are ways to ignite the flame. You need to do some research and find devices that will work for him as well as you. My ex had ordered a device that brought him to an erection and held it for the duration our times of intimacy. Oral simulation works great as well. Believe it or not there are ways to bring him to an orgasm while semi-soft, you just have to experiment. You are truly playing with fire in what you are doing and you just have to make up your mind that you are going to quit. You cannot give into that temptation!! It will hurt everyone in the long run and I know you understand that. Seek counseling. There are a lot of good therapist out there that have dealt with this area before and it could help your husband greatly!!! Dea suggested going to a sex store and that is a great idea too. His Dr. should be able to give some advice and where to get help. There are plenty of options if you will just do the research and have determination to try to make it work. During those years with my husband I was traveling and had plenty of opportunities to stray but I chose to maintain control which I am now glad that I did because I can move forward without guilt or shame. Like I said previously, there are other ways to ignite your passion with your husband and not have to resort to seeking it outside your vows. Blessings to you and I hope this helps!!