Dear Anatomy,
I have been referred to you by a good friend of mine. She says putting my question out there might help me get some clarification with my issue.
Here is goes!! My husband and I have been married for over 8 years and things are definitely at a breaking point.When we got married 8 1/2 years ago I would have never thought this man, whom I respected as a man, would turn into the biggest loser, in my eyes!! About 3 years ago my husband got into an altercation with a guy at a club on the west coast. Well, no charges were ever filed, that we knew of, at that time. March 2011 there was a search warrant out for his arrest from this altercation and the cops came to pick him up. He was later released but the charges were not dropped. After the long journey of court dates we found out that he will only serve community service and 3 years probation. I said all of that to say....Although he has a charge on his record, that does not mean life has STOPPED!!! Bills are still due, children have many needs and our bellies need to be fed. This man has a Masters degree in Biology. He feels like its his right to have a perfect opportunity handed to him. If he can not work in the same field that he was in prior to the arrest, he will not do it. I mean it has gotten truly horrible that he's not trying at all. I would respect him more if he would just work at McDonald's, a Donut shop, walk some dogs or something that doesn't require a background check. I just want him to be a man. I am starting to learn there are two types of men in this world. A MAN that is the sole provider for his family and a man that acts as a lil bitch!!! I am at my wits end because he finds no shame in asking his parents, my parents, my sister and friends for money. I now have a friend at work and I don't think I want to go back to my husband because his actions are disgusting me. One last thing, I don't knock him or put him down in his face so that's why I'm seeking advice. Please Anatomy, what do I do?
Sincerely,
Struggling to Respect
H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
