In Previous years, my birthday was the day I used to truly celebrate the culmination of a year! It seemed, anything I chose to think of, I would try to package into one day of creation to seize a memory. However, today, as I embark on the gateway into my future, I use this birthday to ask a simple Question..............
As we age, how does one reach us to LOVE us, is it physical, is it mental, or is it a combination of both?
Although, Adults do what Adults want to do, I truly feel "When you Know Better, you Do Better?" So internally, I feel with age comes wisdom! Give me your take as I celebrate my milestone birthday~ !
H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
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Here is my take.. Physical is great but I need mental moreso at this point and time in my life. When you have someone that loves you for you, you see nothing but beauty when you look at them. Physical appearances change but I want someone's love that never changes for me. The key is not just loving someone but being in love with that someone. There is a hell of a different. I want someone that will love me and spend the rest of our life together as one. I want the Lord to send me someone that will love me unconditional.
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ReplyDeleteYour response is very heart warming and took some of my own words, but you said it best. Unconditional Love. I never had it and truly desire it. I'm a physical and mental person who loves stimulation. I find myself a better person and still improving to do better. When love comes into my life I will cherish each moment celebrating God's gift to me. Thanks for sharing...
Happy Birthday Anatomy!!!!!
ReplyDeleteMay your day be filled with joy and peace. I love you my brother and very proud of you. Keep going and may the Lord continue to bless your journey. Semper Fi!
I believe it is both. For me it begins with the mental which then flows over into the physical. I am a very affectionate person and if I am really connecting with someone conversationally I have a tendency to reach out and touch them during the conversation several or numerous times depending on the circumstances. Great conversation stimulates my senses. Now when I was younger, I wouldn't have been able to say that, I would have leaned more toward the physical. As you age your hormones change among other things plus mentally you mature so your priorities change in what you desire in a relationship and from a mate. You do look for that unconditional love as mentioned by Anonymous and Byron.
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday again Doc! I believe it is both and the order varies by person. For me as I have ages, if a man can truly capture my mind he has a better chance at holding my heart. Winning over the mind of another or causing what I term mindgasims is not an easy task. Sex is very mental for many so it is understandable that this notion holds truth. To go someplace in the mind increases the ability to go there in the body, according to quantum physics.
ReplyDeleteAs I age I realize my love language lies in the mental stimulatinal brought on by the man that has captured my attention beyond the platonic level.
When and if I am honored to meet such a man I will treasure him as a rare gift that I was created for.
Enjoy your night and celebrate wisely.
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ReplyDeleteThank you for your well wishes and wise words of wisdom. For me, I think like you Tanya and CindyLou, my mind is a tool that must be captured for the physical to work properly. When I was younger, it was all about outward appearance and what that instant picture did for me. I would say I was a bit superficial. What I learned quickly is, it's hard for whomever you date to maintain your attention with just their looks. Hence the term, "dumb blonde!" Sure you like how hott they may seem, but it doesn't take long for the looks to wear off and your frustration to set in. Give me a "Smart Lady" any day of the week, and if she just happen to have a "bangin" body, that's OK too. Today's question centers around us getting wiser as we get older. At forty, I know better, so currently, I do BETTER!
Thanks for each of your kind words. Tomorrow's question will center around A unique PLACE and your thoughts!
H. Williams, MBA