Scenario; I am in one of my many cities for work; a member of my sponsor team invites me out for a drink with she and her boyfriend. I noticed, the whole night, she is very attentive to his needs. She rubs his back, his neck, fetched popcorn from the bar, and is always at an arms reach; my assessment, "He could care less about her continued affection! Finish this Statement for our question of the day.......
When in a relationship, "When we love you, we show it by ...?"
Share your heart with me because there are so many ways to say those 3 words but sometimes we just don't take the time or show the effort to reciprocate!
H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
Actions speak louder than words. A person can tell u all day long that they love u. It means nothing when it's not shown. Acting on your affectionate emotions towards your mate means so much more. But that's just my opinion. Women tend to display more affection towards their mate publicly..I think.
ReplyDeleteKnow this all to well.....its always the ones we can't have that we want!
ReplyDeleteI like to display my love openly and be the envy of the moment. Unfortunately my mate didn't feel the same..
ReplyDeleteI can't answer this question without asking "what is love"? Something I have been seriously contemplating of recent with my impending divorce and seeking answers so I may do it right the next time. While asking what love is I find that there are three kinds of love: Agape = spiritual/unconditional love; Philos = friendship love; and Eros love = erotic or physical love. Most relationships, in my opinion, begin with the eros love which is more of a selfish love desiring to fulfill the lusts of the flesh. Now that I am older, wiser and more mature I realize that I want to graduate to a real and lasting love. I choose the agape love which binds you to others spiritually with an unconditional love that most desire as well as everlasting. The agape love can grow into a much deeper and passionate love that tends to last a lifetime. It is shown by kindness, patience and IS NOT envious, boastful, rude or self-seeking. You don't anger easily or keep a record of wrongs. This love rejoices in the truth and always protects, trusts, hopes and perseveres. God is the creator of love so what better person to learn from. When you have these qualities it is easy to show love in other ways that encourages your mate. The key is to learn what makes your mate feel loved. Every person has a love language which is their way of expressing and interpreting love. You can then express your love for them in those ways that make them feel it so your relationship may not lack. When love is felt between two people it opens up the flow of passion for deeper intimacy. The five languages of love that I am aware of are: Words of Affirmation; Spending Quality Time; Receiving Gifts; Acts of Service; and Physical Touch. So I leave you with this question, what is your love language?
ReplyDeleteFor me, I like to actually act like the subject of this question for the blog. I like to reach out and know the person that I love is close by. When I am laying in bed, I touch the person all night, just to let them know even in my sleep, I am thinking of you. When I kiss the person I love, I take my hand and guide their face to mine as if I was a blind man. I play in their hair in an effort to feel all things "them!" When you love, you show you love, when "IN LOVE" we give you an extension of ourselves, whether our hearts, our souls, or our physical passion. You just want it reciprocated. My most asked question in all group situations of speaking is this, "Hurchel, how do I know I am involved in great sex?" My answer, when the person seriously responds to the passion you give off. When you separate from them and before you get to your car, you want them again. You feel like you are sinking in quicksand until you see them again. That's how I finish the above sentence. We have all been in situations like I describe but sometimes we may take it for granted, and then we lose it. When you find it, claim it!
ReplyDeleteH. Williams, MBA