Love and the purpose of a committed relationship is a good thing. Often times when we find it, the acceptance gives your core a warm and secure feeling. With that thought in mind, today's Question is.......
In your best explanation possible, what gives you a warm and committed feeling for another human being? What makes you feel safe when a sincere connection is made?
Take us to the depths of your mind, take us to your water, then allow us to drink. Tell it only the way YOU can about Self; We're waiting!!!
H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
I do my best to walk with eyes and ears of the heart from a spiritual perspective so this is from my own experience. My warm and committed feeling begins with a spiritual connection that is supernaturally dropped into my heart by God. It is a feeling or I should say a desire that pushes past my selfish nature to want to honor the other person rather than serve myself. It's a choice rather than a feeling. It is a genuine love that cannot be denied but be fulfilled by honoring them. I hurt when they hurt. I rejoice when they rejoice. I listen when they need to be heard. My desire to be there for them even when the feelings are not reciprocated because my love for them is a selfless love. It is written in scripture that love covers a multitude of sins. It truly does when you are able to reach beyond your own selfish desires to be there for someone else in their time of need. I have encountered so many wounded people in which most of them are seeking what they can glean from the relationship they enter into rather than what they can offer, which more often than not leaves them unfulfilled in it.
ReplyDeleteI truly believe that when there is a sincere connection, it is God ordained. This ordination is what makes me feel safe knowing that He is the one that set up the divine introduction. "For He knows the plans He has for me...plans to prosper me and not harm me, plans to give me hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11. I don't believe in coincidences but God-incidences. In my experience, these are the relationships that most often last a lifetime but there are those that only last a season. I just know that when God does something He does it right. We are the ones that get in our own way and mess things up!!!
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ReplyDeleteWhen we fall in love, things start to change,
we take pride in who she is, and remember her name!
We acknowledge the smiles, and all that you do,
and take special emphasis in her, by saying I Love You!
When we fall in love, things start to change,
the purpose of your life, can never be the Same!
H. Williams, MBA
Phyllis Lester says: "Acceptance"
ReplyDeleteI feel safe knowing my heart is valued and love is pure reducing all feelings insecure...the fibers of my skin is rejuvenated and explorated....I feel safe knowing my love is enjoyed not painfully endured...
ReplyDelete...When he sees me clearly! My soul opens up when He sees my spirit naked and unashamed. I guess like previous posts, it's the acceptance.
ReplyDeleteI believe our love can be a whisper
Our love can be a touch
Our love could get us through life's pains and such
Our love could be perfect in an imperfect world
Hand in hand, heart to heart He as my man and I, as his girl.
Byron, I can relate to your post. Acceptance and another desiring to truly know you as well as connect can cause such joy. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDelete@ Anatomy.... Doc, thanks for sharing your prose. Love is a splendid thing when it's shared between two committed hearts. Keep your heart open....
ReplyDeleteTanya,
ReplyDeleteA sincere change in on the horizon. To see different, you have to do something different with your eyes! I finally put on "glasses" and took off the blinders! The best part of clarity, is the truth you see beyond!
"I've been to the mountain top, and I've looked over, and I've seen the Promised land!" (MLK)
H. Williams, MBA
Cindy Lou...
ReplyDeleteI like your spin. It seems, based on your assessment, two people are breathing as one. Two people are acting in unison and caring how their counterpart feels. I feel it takes an individual a while to understand the "rules" of engagement when it comes to love! Love is not a free feeling of self, it's a complete understanding of your partner and then acting to keep that person uplifted and blissfully correct!
H. Williams, MBA
Yes Mr. Anatomy you are correct in your response. I would like to add that honoring your mate is the number one foundation in a relationship according to what I have been taught. You are saying to them that they are the most special and important person in your life. It's an attitude of seeing their value leading to the action of genuine love. As this process unfolds it allows both parties the freedom to express that genuine love regardless of the cost because it is a choice not a feeling. You are caring more about how the other person feels rather than your own feelings. You take time to understand them and to really hear what they are saying, feeling and experiencing and as you do so you become one. You desire to please them and they desire to please in return. That is why it is so important to get inner healing from past hurts so you are not filtering what the other is saying through those hurts. When communication is filtered through past wounds of the heart, then it becomes broken down and misunderstandings arise. When a person is holding on to hurt they tend to lash out to inflict hurt because of their own pain, therefore, creating an unhealthy relationship.
ReplyDeleteLaura Prins said.....
ReplyDeleteBeing IN LOVE is.... You are mine and I am yours,
The others fade away like the shores,
We are engraved in stone, not sand,
Our home will be our breeding land,
Our love grows stronger with each coming day,
Our time together is full of play,
Our souls pain when we depart,
We feel the pounding in our heart,
Security stands to reason,
This is not only for a season,
You are mine and I am yours,
With Almighty God this love outpours.
Cindy Lou....
ReplyDeleteAll you have outlined is correct and speaks volumes as to why men and women have to communicate their feelings towards one another. If a person knows what they are up against, they can better prepare themselves to react when opinions vary. Life is a total learning experience until you are NO longer a part of this life. When you find a good nerve to strike with your loved one, stay there and nurture it.
Thanks for letting us hear your thoughts.
H. Williams, MBA