Mr. Anatomy,
I am a larger woman who have my sights set on a guy who, I think, normally dates smaller women. I think I have all the moves of the next lady, and the looks too but often times my confidence isn't always there. My Question is .......
IF a man normally dates smaller, more defined bodied women, will he change his taste and date a larger woman?
I honestly believe this is a really good question. I have known this to be the case in several situations and I look forward to the feedback. Let me hear you bloggers!
Hurchel Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
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hell ya!!!!!!!so girl stop an go for wat u know.....u want know unless u go for it.....
ReplyDeleteYES HE WILL!! if he rejects your advance then move on to the next one, long as you got breath boo you keep it moving!!! ITS SOME(BODY) FOR EVERY(BODY)!!!!!
ReplyDeleteWat u said miller! N out of 100 mens 99 of them had a plus size women b 4 n they life! Just keep it real! Dnt knock it until u try it!!!!!
ReplyDeleteMake it about ur Taste. Ask urself is he worth you time. Women today need realize that God has someone just 4 them and quit mking sacrifice for men who dnt deserve their time. Forget size. "I am a Beauitful Woman who has my eyes set on a guy that likes smaller women is he worth my time" Do you girlfriend and eyes will turn because you are a Blessed and Child of GOD." Keepit100".
ReplyDeleteVery healthy discussion, I have my take because I used to be a little shy about size until I got my world rocked by a Monique like lady who made no excuses for her size. I was like WTF!
ReplyDeleteWe all have different taste but Real Love is what we all deserve. Ppl miss out bc they see the outside not the TRUE HEART of a person. We all deserve to be Happy with no string attached because we are all going to get OLD. Either way Fat or Skinny. Ijs
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you Sam!! When a person becomes tunnel visioned they miss out on so much in life in general. So often men don't see what a good woman they have in front of them until it is too late. But that goes for women as well in regards to men in their life. It serves no purpose to close your eyes to ALL possibilities and miss out on a truly rewarding relationship. I say go for girl!!! You only live once and you might as well go for the gusto and see what happens!!!
ReplyDeleteMr. Anatomy,
ReplyDeleteI once met a girl, name Veronica. She was an office lady by day, but a freak beyond words, by night. Veronica was in her mid 40's but could easily pass for 35. When I met her, it was at a group meeting of important people. After the meeting, we made eye contact and our conversation took off. Veronica quickly realized I wasn't as experienced as she was. She was a bigger, shapely woman, but her confidence equaled her passion. We had cocktails the first evening and she told me all about how she loved sex and romance. Although she wasn't on the menu the first night, she made sure she told this little boy the next time she saw me, would change my world. I was scared to believe her because fairy tales are only true in the movies.
Veronica and I met a few days later. Veronica was dressed in a dazzling outfit of black with black boots to match. We hit the town together and I let her lead me around by my nose all night. When dinner was over, Veronica drove me back to my place, and shyly came in for a spell. When Veronica and I sat down, I felt her hand on my thigh. I was scared to react so, we turned to the TV and I put on some PORN to soften the mood. Veronica explained what she liked and how she liked it as she started to heat up. Before I knew it, Veronica was pulling out my snake and massaging the venomous mouth of the snake with her opening under her nose! I was thrown a bit, but I let her continue. Then, something really strange happened, Veronica stood up and started to spit pure filth out of her mouth. Four letter words, harsh phrases, and nasty expressions about what I better do to her body. The Exorcist took over Veronica's body and she ended up on all fours screaming "P-LUCK ME - P-LUCK ME" but the P L was replaced by a letter between E and G!! She put my hands in her head and said if I didn't pull her hair and choke her neck, she would beat my ass like a Nun at the Catholic school with a ruler! Veronica made my Snake real mad and I kept spitting venom on her. She soaked up my Venom all over her body, face, and hair, but kept cussing for MORE. The more I played hide the snake in the jungle, the more she made this very unusual noise. It was a grunt and growl! Veronica was not the nice office lady I met, but a porn star the likes of Vanessa Del Rio with the beautiful tight sauna with heat and fluids! Finally, when I couldn't take being treated like a Witch (replace the W with second letter of the alphabet) anymore, I got mad and grew some balls, I pushed and prodded her until she fought back. We were like Rocky and Clubber Lane going round for round. She screamed "Stop MotherPlucker" I got to Pee! I told her I was mad, so PEE where she laid! If you want up, you will scream and let the neighbors know your pain. She did, and I looked out the window as the lights of the adjacent homes start to come alive. I felt like I was in a dog fight, and a clear winner wasn't in sight! I pulled her by her hair, and led her to the living room couch. She asked me to be rough, and kept telling me I was soft because I wasn't rough enough! I pushed her over the arm of the couch and took my third leg and beat her like a bass drum! I wouldn't stop until she used her free hand to wave me off. When I realized she was serious, and wanted me to stop, I did, and our episode drew to a close! When this was over, her arms had carpet burns, her knees were raw, and her walk was a stumble. All and All, I can't tell you who really won after the rumble, but we both felt good. Sad thing Mr. Anatomy, this was indeed a true story. My Jersey Girl wasn't backing down from the strong "Cowboy Soldier" from the South!
Big Girls rock, and I can't explain it any better than that!
Wow, what a story. While I can't even touch that experience, I can offer this; Years ago, when I was a young cub-ster, I was a bit superficial and typically avoided the likes of the healthy women. I had NO idea what I was in store for once I crossed over to the wild side of the bigger, plump women. The lady that came my way would put you in the mindset of Monique with her style and pizazz. She actually came to me and said "Mr. Anatomy, I know I am not the size woman you usually go after, but if you swing this way, I will surely send you back with a different mindset of the larger ladies of the evening!" I kinda admired her style, but in the back of my head, I doubted her confidence and the barking she was doing to her ability. But, as they say in Louisiana, "BEBBEbay, when this young tender got her chance, OMG, she took Mr. Anatomy for a ride I certainly will never forget. While I always try to be a gracious blog host, and not reveal too much, let's just say, this one woman changed the way I would view this type of association for the future of my entire existence. So fellas, don't count out the big babies, in some cases, they have a lot more to offer, than a big butt and a smile!
ReplyDeleteH. Williams, MBA
WOW! Mr.Anatomy she was a bad girl! A healthy woman that goes after a man knowing that he only dates little women must have confidence out of this world about herself. There is no room for doubt or low confidence. If you doubt yourself he will doubt you too...
ReplyDeleteJust call me a "bad big girl" turned good!
ReplyDeleteWhat I have learned is this, whatever a little woman can do, I can to and maybe even better if I put my mind to it. What y'all men have to understand is this, some of us big girls use to be little girls before the kids, before the late years, and before life took its toll on us. I am so comfortable being me and I ain't worried about what no one else think because at the end of the day, before I settled down and became a good girl that is seeking a higher purpose, I was out there getting looks from you small heffa's men, and sometimes, I even looked back......Watch out 'der nah!
Go for it! As plus size women we must realize that we do not fit every man's mold, but that goes even if we were small. There could be an array of factors to deter his interest. However, be yourself and present yourself well to him. Trust me, there is always a time when people's taste buds shift!
ReplyDeleteConfidence is the KEY..... IF you know who you are and where your comfort zone lies, then you are two steps ahead of your counterparts, your peers, and even your Nay-sayers! There are more men out there than you think that love to roll your way. Statistics are there to support my theory.
ReplyDeleteH. Williams, MBA
Well said Doc!
ReplyDeleteHey Anatomy, I'm big too and I let so many guys get away because I am so scared to approach them. I'm a good person, smart, and pretty but I need some confidence. I'm 32 and have lost the desire to date. I had the same boyfriend for 8 years, but right before Thanksgiving, he moved away for someone he met on Match.com. I have been heart broken every since. I'm in Northern Florida and you sat next to me on a plane. You were talking to a lady but when we got ready to get off, I asked you if your were famous....do you remember? You said "No, Not yet," then you smiled and gave me your card. I'm not the most memorable person, so I'm sure you don't but can you tell me where do I start trying to meet people that like big women. We are nice too. Thanks for your topic. I will wait for your answer.
ReplyDeleteHey Anonymous...Plane lady,
ReplyDeleteI do remember you, I have a memory like an elephant. You sat close to the window and I was talking to the lady to my left across the aisle. It was a Dallas to Houston Flight but was continuing on to Panama City, FL. (Is that enough background for you?) Oh, and if that wasn't enough, you had an IPad and you were watching Big Momma's House with Martin Lawrence. You were either bi-racial or Hispanic! Now, with all that said, you were an attractive woman, as such, learn to be the best YOU you know how to be! Meaning, position yourself for the next guy by being very confident and poised in your own body. Unless losing weight is your focus, don't worry about what others think, just worry about the things YOU can control. When you reek of Confidence, others notice and wonder what you have to make you so powerful within self! They start to notice and then you are creating a 'buzz' around yourself! Don't be afraid to hold up your chin and look like you've been there before. Remember this, when the "Chin is Up" so is the rest of your existence! Check out this link http://kittykatbug.wordpress.com/2010/02/23/reek-of-confidence-how-do-you-do-this/ and let me know what you think!
H. Williams, MBA
"Plane Lady"
ReplyDeleteI must confess, I sent the question to you and yes I am so timid and scared. I did, however like the link you provided. YES- YES- YES, that was ME. I am bi-racial, my father is Cuban and my mother is all American country white girl. The guy I am looking at is Black and I have NEVER done anything like this. He works with me and is really nice, but nothing beyond that. He's single and just got promoted to my floor from downstairs. He is nice looking and dresses real nice too. I keep asking myself, why would he want me! The other day, we were getting coffee and he remembered how I took my Cup of Joe and I thought I would die when he turned and gave it to me as I was walking up. Mr. Anatomy of a Cheater, is that a sign, or am I reading into something? Are there any bigger ladies that has had this happen or showed interest by a cute, black, smaller guy? IF so, ladies, please help me, Monday is tomorrow and I am trying to build my confidence to say something or ask him out! What should I say?????
HELP ME !!!
Dear Plane Lady,
ReplyDeleteLet me just tell you this, even if he's not into you, at least you know he remembers you and is courteous. I know exactly how you felt. Just the other day, I was in a business setting and meeting a very nice lady for an eventual business transaction. Well, when I arrived, like you, she had remembered my coffee selection from a few days before and when she gestured by handing me my cup with all the fixin(s) I thought I would just die! It was the most professional personal business gesture that had ever happened to me! It's like walking into a bank and they call you by name but to the 25th power! In business, people forget the personal side of transactions. At that point, I would have bought whatever she was selling because she showed effort which goes much further than political correctness! For me, we will be friends for life. In your case, explore him slowly. Start with conversation and use your cup of coffee as a catalyst. Let him know what his kindness did for you, and see if he will take an interest to ask you to lunch. Or, be creative, tomorrow, beat him to the coffee pot and have his cup ready when he shows up, but go one step further and have a Krispy Kreme waiting as well! Hope this helps!
H. Williams, MBA
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ReplyDeleteAnonymous, I wrote the Reek Of Confidence that was recommend. Go for it! Girl, I am a plus size gal (over 200 lbs) that found myself in my late 30's dating for the first time in 20 years. My thought was "who in the heck is going to want to date a "Big Girl". What I found out was that as long as I was direct and to the point. Honest and open in my communication. That my attitude is what the Men were attracted. Good Look'n Men! I asked one day "What's the attraction? Honest,what is about me that has you chasing me?" I was told it was my confidence in myself that was so sexy! "Your straight forward and honest and that is sexy. You know what you want and you are not afraid to go for it.". I was going out with Men between the age of 25 to 55, good looking, athletic men.
ReplyDeleteIt is all in your attitude.
Women can be sexy at any size. How can you show off your sexiness? It isn't necessary to have a movie-star smile or a perfect body to be sexy. It is more important to feel good about yourself, to carry yourself with confidence. It is about how you act, how you walk, how you talk. Showing skin isn't always sexy, sometimes keeping things hidden is more tempting. You can accentuate your sexiness.
Feeling sexy is the key to looking sexy, which is simple but true. Confident women give off a sexy aura.
Have An Orgasmic Day!
Kat
"It's Way Too Easy To Be Hap
I must say I'm a nice size lady and went after this guy I knew wasn't into women my size. It started off with us seeing one another everyday, we started talking everyday, we started flirting everyday and that was only because he would come to the office everyday. And with all that was going on we started noticing things about each other. I notice he like to chew gum, so I made sure he always had gum, then we started going to lunch with each other everyday. When my confidence was right with the help of him I made my move. And when I say with the help of him I mean: he told me how pretty I was everyday, if I changed my nail color he would say something about it, if I cut my hair he would say something, no matter what I did he would notice and say something to me about it. It was hard at first because I worked in an office and it was only 3 black females in the office and the other to was little and they where going after him like he was piece of meat. Like to the point of wearing long shirts to work with 6 inch heels. I could have went there with them because of the way I'm shaped up but I kept it classy. When I say shaped up I mean nice breast, No stomach, Hip and Ass. You MUST HAVE CONFIDENCE!!!
ReplyDeletePlane Lady you like this guy. He's has notice things about and have show you that he notice you. Do something for him that you have notice and just go from there.
ReplyDeleteKitty Kat Bug, Anonymous, and Babegirl, (I am Plane Lady)
ReplyDeleteThank you, Thank You, and muchas gracias! I am so elated, I am going to go for it tomorrow. I went out today and bought a new dress. I am going to take your advice Mr. Anatomy and take him a pastry of some sort! I'm a big girl who can cook so I will try to see what his interest are and maybe one day I may bring something from home to test his taste buds. Ladies, I was seriously sitting here waiting for responses and I appreciate all you have said. Today, my confidence is through the roof! Kitty Kat Bug, I read your page from start to finish and I am ready, I am sexy, and I feel confident! Wish me luck!!!!
Thank you Mr. Anatomy for giving me somewhere to speak!
GOOD LUCK!!! Wishing for a GOOD outcome!!
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