Mr. Anatomy, my friends and I want your opinion on something that may help us solve a debate we are having. This may possibly be your ....Question of the Day.....
Do Guys ever date a girl that sleeps with them on the first Date ?
Sadly, this question is near and dear to me, because YES, I was that girl. Met him in New Orleans, one thing lead to another and "bingo-BANGo" we were in bed!
Alright Bloggers, let's help this young lady with our opinions. We don't judge here, we just tell the facts as they relate to the subject. Let me hear ya!
Hurchel Williams, MBA
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Nope...that's not dating...I believe that's sleeping with. Sound alike but different. ((LOL)) Thus the confusion on lust vs love. Here is a topic of discussion for you. How is LOVE defined by you? I bet a lot of your responses will be lust driven. Love is not a feeling, its an act driven by the feeling which oftentimes begins with great sacrifices.
ReplyDeleteYou can't change your family........ I slept with a man the first night and we were married 16 years.....
ReplyDeleteAt the end of this great debate, one thing will remain, a man knows the woman he wants to spend his life with regardless if there's sex on the first night or not. She may not have slept with him on the first night but at some point we have all behaved recklessly
ReplyDeleteWell, for me yes I had a "one night stand", but at the time it was just something to do I had to get off, and no we did not date he was not dating material just screwing material for both of our satisfactions that Night. I feel if you do a one night stand for some people there could be a connection, but it depends on that individual.. That " One Night may be able to knock your socks off and touch you like you have never been touched before but it is up to that individual on if they want to continue to pursue each other or just have their minds and hearts open for each other. I guess to each is own for me it was just get me off and that was just it sounds harsh, but we both knew what we were getting ourselves into just as long as you keep it 100..
ReplyDeleteI have had several one night stands and have no remorse. I am a highly sexual woman and sometimes, the suspense of something new helps me enjoy it more. While I don't go out looking for a sex partner, I meet people out that I find attractive and things start to happen. However, most pretty boys are not that great in bed, but for some reason, when it's a one night stand, they seem to get harder because they feel like they are stealing something so the mood is intensified. So, to answer the question, I think it depends on how good YOU make that one night stand. IF it's good, they want to play house and be boyfriend and girlfriend, if it's not good, they NEVER come back. IF I don't like them once their clothes are off, I purposely make it bad. I'm just sayin.......! Please, don't try to judge me, cause I will come back with a response.
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Yes if the parties involved seek a relationship with each other.
ReplyDeleteLife has truly evolved over the years. So much so that individuals make the decisions of who they want to love and not society. Although one night stands are frowned upon, at the end of the day, a man just wants what he wants in reference to a woman! I have been receiving in box messages all day on Face Book and via text that say, "I don't have time to be waiting on someone to be bad in bed, I want to test drive my car just as soon as I see it on the lot!" We are truly a microwave society that wants things NOW and NOT later! Do I agree, well, the younger Mr. Anatomy would have, but as I have progressed in age, I believe in learning a bit more about my subject than just their name and underwear color. But again, different strokes for different folks. Like fine wine, or even a great steak, timing is not as important to me, as is the quality of my product. I like my steak Medium which tells you I don't like waiting too freakin long, even for dinner! Thanks to everyone for chiming in on todays first wave of this question, we will run it again tomorrow. I am sure there will be different opinions.
ReplyDeleteH. Williams, MBA
I just LOVE YOUR BLOG!!!!
ReplyDeleteThank you Monique, I sincerely appreciate that. Our goal is to be heard, no matter how far fetched our ideas may be!
ReplyDeleteI will say yes men do date a woman he has slept with on the first date...but why have doubt about it after you have slept with him on the first date? A woman knows who she wants to sleep with the moment she sees him...So why worry if he will date you afterward? You wanted to sex him anyway...I'm just sayin...
ReplyDeleteI believe that if the two parties involved made a connection as well as enjoyed one another and it was the BOMB, then yes the man will return. But it truly depends on the individuals and their own ideas about the encounter.
ReplyDelete@CindyLou what would be the reason for his return? Because it was the BOMB? Meaning that all he wants to do is have sex...Are beacuse they made a great connection and now he want to start dating? I mean both parties have a motive...He could have just wanted to have sex with her, she could have just wanted to have sex with him. For him it could have been a true one night stand. For her she could have done the one night stand in hopes of gaining a relationship with that person she had the one night stand with...To me if you do a one night stand don't worry about the out come. You both did what you wanted to do.
ReplyDeleteBabegirl, I agree with you but the question is, does a guy ever date the girl that he slept with on the first date. I just answered yes there are instances that he does based on the reasons I gave above. Plus, I said that it all depends on the individuals meaning it depends on their motives as well. The connection, enjoying one another's company and good sex are all intermingled. One leads into the other as mentioned in prior blogs. If there is no connection then it would probably be just a one night stand depending on each individual and their initial intent of the date.
ReplyDeleteCindyLou I understood what the question is, I also understood your answer to the question. I just ask you questions of my own that had nothing to do the question above. My questions were based on your comment. That's all. It's not that I didn't understand you or the question that was asked. Your comment left the door open for the questions I asked you.
ReplyDeleteCindy Lou and Babygurl,
ReplyDeleteTo close out this session, and to speak from sheer experience, based on the comments from the masses, and my own indulgence, I'd say yes, this practice, while rare, is very common once an understanding can be reached by 2 parties. If you go into the situation with "Eyes Wide" open, then you get out of it what you sought. Good IS as Good Does!
Thanks everyone for a truly healthy discussion.
H. Williams, MBA