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Mr. Anatomy,You don't usually have questions from men, so I thought I would try my hand to see if you would publish a question that a lot of men want to know the answer to. You seem to have the crowd that don't mind tackling question everybody else run from, so here we go. I met a lady about three weeks ago that I have been looking at for about 6 months. I spoke to her every morning and even sat in my car until she pulled up and acted like I was just getting to work so I could walk in with her and spend a moment sniffing her perfume on the elevator. We work for different companies in the same building. Well, we went out last week and after a long night of fun and drinking, I finally made it to her place. She had a beautiful condo in an upscale downtown building. I was impressed but when we made it to her bedroom and started to kiss and touch one another, she got up and got a Magnum condom out of her purse! I was like WTF and I thought to myself, "I can't fill that up! Who the hell you use to sleeping with? I'm not Shaquille O'Neal," but I used it and it wasn't the best I've ever been. I have kinda been avoiding her every since that night because she shocked me. My Question is ..........
"What exactly is the woman who carries condoms in her purse, a real woman, or a sleezy freak? Should I avoid her type?"
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ROTFLMAO!!!! REALLY???? I CANT EVEN HONOR THIS WITH A RESPONSE!!! IMA JUS PUT THESE MAGNUMS IN MY PURSE AND PUSH ON PAST THIS "LIL" PROBLEM!!!! LMAO THINKING BIG THOUGHTS!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteIt's just a preference no more than most men preferring model types with athletic builds. Don't get caught up with that because we are genetically different. Secondly you should not be afraid of her because she just a woman who casually dates and practices safe sex. You should keep pursuing her as a friend and not judge her. Women like confident men who can whoo them and pleasure them. Don't let the condom size deter you from being happy. Otherwise you had an experience with her and should just leave it at that. I'm not well endowed but that hasn't stopped me from pleasuring women. It's what you do with it. Stay confident and secured with who you are. We were made different for a reason.
ReplyDeleteSherita you a damn fool! But seriously speaking, I am a woman who also carries condoms in her purse. But I never carry magnum sized ones because I don't think it takes all that to satisfy me. The main point is that she carries them. You as a man should be carrying your own because you only knew her 4 minutes ago From seeing her around the building. If I were you and I really liked this person then I would ask her out again after I apologized and took it from there.
ReplyDeleteKim I'm responding to u not lil man. He said she a sleazy freak cause she carry Magnum not just that she carry condoms. Don't he know they come in different sizes??? Did he think his lil penis was the biggest they had???? Does he even know that Magnum is not the biggest condom made??? Don't hate on this sista cause you lacking bruh yeah now I'm talking to you!!! Oh and Shaq don't need Magnum I heard. Size don't matter but common damn sense does!!!! I can't stand a man who finds fault in a woman because f his own insecurities! Call me bruh ill tell you what to do when you can't fill up the Magnum!!!
ReplyDeleteI didn't read wat yall read evidently! Hurchel did I miss something? Is it another part?
ReplyDeleteNo Sherita, you are with us now. His real issue is her having condoms and in her purse like she is always doing it!
ReplyDeleteGo Big or Go HOME.....lol. He don't want to meet me then cause I got them in my purse, wallet, dresser drawers, closet and traveling kit.
ReplyDeleteSS. in MEMPHIS
WTF shouldn't you be happy she came prepared most "sluts" (if that's her label ) wouldn't even use a condom maybe you should have brought your own...did she complain about your size or are you so small that your too insecure about...Look in the mirror first then ask yourself is it her or me
ReplyDeleteMy thought is, the lady is being responsible by carrying condoms "just in case." but yes it seems like she's used to being with magnum men. U better step up ur game sir if u can't fill that magnum, I recommend u be on ur "A game" in every other area of how u can please her
ReplyDeleteMr. Anatomy, thanks for taking my question. It seems like the ladies trying to clown me because I'm not well endowed, well, everybody ain't 10 inches with girth. I feel I am a nice size, pretty average and I can usually make a lady say my full name! The question I was asking was why she carrying such big condoms and do all ladies have condoms in their purse? Does that mean they having sex a lot or just being careful. I asked the guys here in the office and they all agreed, she probably getting her share of penises and she like one size not the average guy. That's all I'm saying. Good looking out Byron, I challenge other men to speak up because you know y'all all ain't that big like society would have you think! - Average Joe -
ReplyDeleteYo cuz, speak for ya self. I ain't no Dexta St. Big Cock, but I handles mine. Every manne out dere kno if they got a nice chunk or a little squat, so dat ain't tha issue. I'm 53 years old but I am known here in Miami for being the Cuban love manne! Like cuz said up top, you got to kno what you got and kno how to use it! Women, is it da size or the motion? Talk to me. And, if she got some condoms in her purse, manne, congretulate her, dats less you got to spend cause down here, the bigga tha condom, da more they cost.
ReplyDeleteYou said SHE pulled out the condom. So you faulting her for protecting herself versus getting HIV OR PREGNANT????? but YOU made of point of saying it was magnum and that you couldn't fill it up. Where are u from that women don't care enuff to protect themselves and not wait on a man to NOT do it for her. And most guys who can't fill a magnum don't carry condoms because they don't use them period because they already can't FILL the woman up and they can't feel it. Not saying you do this but like SS said hunnie and I'm paraphrasing, don't blame the hole cause the rabbit don't fit!!!
ReplyDeleteAverage Joe- I don't think anyone was "clowning" on you. I think that we were just responding. I personally have been with different sizes. Yes I believe size matters but so does ability to please Be confident, avoiding ur friend isn't solving anything. Only causing more insecurities. She may even have some of her own.
ReplyDeleteNo Sherita and Lindsey, I'm not saying she a whore or nothing because she is very professional. Chick drives a 5 series BMW with all the trimming. I just wondered why on earth does a woman who got it going on like her, got condoms in her purse? I had some condoms in the car, but I didn't know I was getting ready to get me some. It just freaked me out that she had her own condoms, and a BIG boy style at that! Do all y'all ladies assume we all walking around with a Giraffe Neck in our pants? I couldn't even focus after she assumed I was packing like that. Then I started wondering if she was an undercover freak or something. She's been calling, but I have been selective about answering her calls and going in the office through a different door. My boys here agree with me, she probably getting some all over town because sometimes professional women are too independent to let somebody in. Tell me I'm wrong????? Come on dudes, back me up!
ReplyDelete-Average Joe-
Ok plain n simple... Responsible for carrying condoms. Magnums come in all sizes. & dude get back in there! A lot of times the first time w someone esp if you're really into them n you're thinking too much can make things a lil awkward. Pick your head back up and holla back at her if your truly still interested... And yea of course there are many other ways to please a woman. Don't lose confidence in yourself.. Put that game face back on!
ReplyDeleteHave you even taken the time to ask her you spent 6 months waiting to be with her and now cuss your insecure with your abilities your pushing it off on her cuss she had magdom condoms....if you don't ask you will never Hell maybe that's all they dad in stock lol she would use them then nothing at all!!!
ReplyDelete......Had damn it..lol
Dear Average Joe,
ReplyDeleteI wasn't going to say anything until later today but I have to chime in and speak my peace a bit early. First and foremost, a MECHANIC always has his OWN tools!! You have to always assume you are getting some even when you aren't because if you do, you will always be prepared for what could possibly happen. Now, about her carrying condoms, MAN, I stand and applaud her with all I got. She is doing what EVERY woman out there should be doing, "looking OUT for self!" This is a new day in sex and with that being the case, assume everyone is not clean and has issues. IF you think like that, then you will always bring a big dog to the mentality. I press upon ladies and men alike, always protect yourself and forget what your counterpart thinks or feel. You do this life thing once, you don't want to check out early on your own mistake. As for the size, you carry your load your whole life, at some point, you accept what you have and master the way of using it. Men find the best way to make others respond. Don't run from her, use your best attributes to make her special and come to you!!
Mr. Anatomy = H. Williams, MBA
He don't get it cause his mentality is that she a slut cause she carry condoms! I GIVE UP!
ReplyDeleteI am with Sherita I too thru if he is not willing to man up and speak his mind then nothing more can be said
ReplyDeleteDear Average Joe,
ReplyDeleteI believe you are making an unfair assumption that she is sleeping with every Tom, Dick and Harry. She is being very responsible by carrying her own condoms since guys do not always have some on them. As you said, you had left yours in the car and did not have one in your pocket. I don't think you need to avoid women that choose to have safe sex regardless because they are watching out for you as well as themselves. I agree with Mandy in that the first time being with someone is always awkward and I don't think you should be concerned. If you like her continue to pursue her since it sounds like she may like you as well considering she is calling you. You might have a chance at a real relationship that could be rewarding.
Ladies, Ladies, Ladies, I wasn't trying to call anyone anything, I was merely asking what's up with a professional women that have condoms in their purse. I'm old school and I hear you Mr. Anatomy, we should bring our own tools. I compliment all the ladies that spoke up and gave us some insight. Ms. Sherita, wow, you brought it, love that passion young lady. I reached out to my friend last night and we had wine at my spot. I told her I had been real busy and she understood. I'll admit, having the Magnum in her purse shattered my ego, but next time I'll be prepared because she is a real woman. -Average Joe-
ReplyDeleteMr. Anatomy, I just donated $10.00 to your work. The guy you are working with here seriously need your help and needs to make a change for the better. I think he's underprivileged so we gotta help him out. You got some great advice from everybody here and it looks like you are actually using it and maybe learning something. Walk in with confidence and when you leave your mark on her, maybe she will make you a priority.
ReplyDeleteI know this is almost a year old but since I came across it, im sure others will as well.
ReplyDeleteI came across this.... site, when i was looking for a carrying case for my magnums [like the ones for cigars/cigarettes] (about to check ebay, because i know they exist). Reading some of the crap i hear from the women. Do you all come with ad-hom attacks and illogical foolishness?! If the vast majority of you weren't so quick to run your mouth and took the time to understand, you would see that the guy
-wants to know if she’s what is considered a whore by society in general (simple fact is virgin mary types [or anyone close to it] don't carry condoms)
-wanted to know what kind of guy she’s been letting stretch her out
The reason he’s been avoiding her (on the surface) is because he probably thinks she’s competing for numbers with actual pro on the street. The hidden reason is probably embarrassment that he couldn't fit what seems to be her standard.
Then there are the s on the chest-simp-trick 'men' on here that didn't check any of the 'women'. Too busy rubber stamping any and every foolishness that most if not all said.
The guy never said she shouldn't have had condoms, or got other about being safe. Truth is if any girl pulled out a mag xl, I’d be wondering how lose as a goose she is.
To the original poster of this thread, here is one bit of practical advice that no one else mentioned.
- Never use a condom that a woman gives you. They have been known to put holes in them. You and you alone dispose of the condom properly; don’t trust her to do it. (There are some men paying child support right now because they let the woman dispose of the sperm). (and the real or supposed exceptions that I no doubt will hear about from one and all, doesn't disprove the overall rule/trend (i.e. average). Then there is the fact that any storage other than in the box in a cool dry place will compromise them condom itself. (Another reason why I’m looking for the carrying case made for them). Yes people this means that purses, hand bags, cars, etc. are not places to store them. , Unless you want the constant temp change to degrade the condom.
Hope this helps.
ps to anyone that's about to try the ad-hom/non-sequitr/shaming tactics route or any other imbecilic foolishness, I’m not the one. I suggest you sit down, shut up, and do some un-biased research.