In life and relationships, we rarely get a chance to "Do Things Over" or try it again. Last night, I witnessed my neighbors having a squabble which escalated to the authorities being called and each of them sleeping separate of one another! So, today's question is.........
Remember.... we all make some mistakes, today, for the sake of conversation, let's try to right a wrong!
Come share with us and let's make this a fruitful exchange!
H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
Good Morning Anatomy
ReplyDeleteLet's see "do over relationship"...hmmmm
I cannot say that there is a relationship I would like to do over. However there are some things I wish I had done differently. For example the relationship where "Tameka" was lost I wish that I had been stronger. I wish that I cared more about my feelings than his. I wish I had stood for more of what I wanted, than just kept quiet for the sake of not starting an arguement. If I could do it over, I would not have stayed as long as I did.
Tameka,
ReplyDeleteI can always count on you to start all conversations and give us a real peak into how life responds through you. WE all have those relationships that me may have stayed just a "smidget" too long. WE look back and say "why on earth did I give so much of myself when he or she never really showed me they gave a damn. I think its all a learning process of growing up. You know the relationships were bad when you look back or think about them and your stomach gets that sick feeling. I can guarantee you are probably stronger because of it!
Thanks for sharing.
H. Williams, MBA
Thanks
ReplyDeleteI am stronger for it. I would not take anything for my journey now. Everything I have been through has created the person I am today. Had I not gone through it I would not know how to recognize a place I dont want to go again. I always say you have to go through to get to. So one of my mantras are, "Don't just go through life grow through life."
Tameka,
ReplyDeleteI couldn't have said it better myself. When you know better you DOOOOO better! Right. Growth, maturity, and better romance, they all go hand and hand. You have to experience life in the bad to know what "in the Good" means!
H. Williams, MBA
Tameka, are you absolutely positive we didn't date the same man? Every word you typed relates to one of my past relationships and like you I wouldn't take anything back but length if time I wasted to leave what I knew was a lost cause. I stayed for my daughter thinking that she needed us to stay together in order for her to have a "picture perfect" upbringing. After praying for God to send me signs...the alarms sounded off repeatedly telling me to exit the stage to the left. Leaving was the best decision I could've made because I lost myself as well but found myself again and I'm loving every second of it.
ReplyDeleteJust as a side note...I knew from the day I met "him" that he wasn't right for me but I was young and had the stupid idea that I could change him only to find out that I was the one that changed to adapt to his lifestyle. Go figure...we'd create a beautiful daughter out of the union. Wouldn't take her back for the universe itself! So no do overs or take backs , just a few hard lessons learned.
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ReplyDeleteI dont have children but looking back and knowing what you know now can you say that had you stayed your daughter would not have had a "picture perfect" upbringing. I think alot of paents make that mistake thinking that the children need 2 parents in the home and dont get me wrong 2 parent homes can be better than one but if the parents are constantly fighting or violent toward each other is that really better for the child in the long run. They suffer in the long run and the cycle continues. I am glad for anyone that can look in the mirror and recognize that the person looking back at them is not them or who they want to be and be able to make a change. As for us dating the same man, Im sure it was not the same one but there are several out there like them. lol...I am also loving the me that I have regained because she has learned from the experience therfore making her stronger than she ever knew she could be.
Ok Latoya that side note summed it up. Maybe we did date the same guy, lol.
ReplyDeleteExactly! Tameka...and yes from what I hear there are several of these tragedies on the "RECALL- Do NOT date this guy list". lol!
ReplyDeleteTo you both Tameka and Latoya.....
ReplyDeleteNo, you guys didn't date the same guy however, you have unlocked a key of mass proportion; most guys think, act, smell, and are ALIKE. The key for ladies to do better is find that rare breed that is different. I was a cheater and being so, I mastered women. I didn't brag and I didn't lie. In my mind, I was single and I would say, "you are not my only Friend" and they respected me because of it. I learned how to listen to what was said from my females and I taught all of them to get along; How you ask, by being honest enough to care about their feelings. That is what my book will outline, but it will also show I had my own demonds I was dealing with. BUT, you have to find the RARE breeds who will listen to your wants and desires. I always said, "I always want the truth, on both sides," and that let's all parties involved make their own mistakes and their own decisions!
Ladies, thanks for letting us inside your heads, Together, we may just learn something.
H. Williams, MBA
Demons, not demonds .... Wow, smart guy! LOL
ReplyDeleteLike Day-Day said in Next Friday, Players F--K up too!
I believe that everything happens for a reason. There have been times that I spoke the words "I wish I never met him" but through dealing with him I have my beautiful children who love me unconditionally. So do over.....no sir.
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