Love, sex, and Marriage ......... NOT !! Like the Show on HBO's Big Love .........
"Could you date multiple Men/Women and make it work?" This topic was on Good Morning America and Polyamorous Societies are popping up all over America; What do you think?
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H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
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Anatomy, I have dated multiple men and I truly want to show my name, but hate being judged. Men date who and what they want but the minute we pull the same thing, we are called names! I dated 3 guys at one time and I told the 2 that were important enough to know. The 3rd one was strictly a booty call and I didn't see a need to divulge that information to him. (he probably wouldn't have cared anyway) The 2 I told always asked questions about each other, but the whole ordeal worked for us and I'm still living my life and being taken care of by both!
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Well Doc, most of my life I've been married so my experience here is limited. However the little experience I've had as a single woman I can say I could date multiple people but in a sexless fashion. I could not spread myself amongst multiple men. My good girl radar goes off. I could dare them openly, meaning it is known that I am not being exclusive with anyone. I would draw from them the characteristics I need from the specific individual.
ReplyDeleteOne may provide the stimulating conversation, the other a reprieve from corporate thinking.
Anonymous,
ReplyDeleteI feel if you are going to do multiples, don't do it the "Man" way? What do I mean, you ask; Be honest with all parties involved. YOU ARE AN Adult, and as such, adults don't have to lie about their affiliations to spare anyone's feelings. As a man, it's typically a secret because the flair is bigger that way. Take the high road and let EVERYONE know what they are dealing with.
H. Williams, MBA
Tanya,
ReplyDeleteYour post means you are a typical woman with morals. Doesn't mean you are a good girl or bad girl, just means you desire to live a life of personal respect for "just one!" Personally, I feel women are built differently and are more acceptors than initiators! In my opinion, when people date more than one person at a time, the reason is deep rooted and the chase of feeling eases a pain that nags! Thanks for Sharing!
H. Williams, MBA
Yes I can date multiple men and make it work. To make it work you have to be an adult about what it is your doing. And understand what will and could happen if one was to find out about the other one. I'm dating two men now and I'm happy and I hope they are too... I thought I would never cheat on my boyfriend. The second guy came into my life and changed everything. Like Beyonce says Love On Top...
ReplyDeleteThe Polyamorist Sovieties are designed to protect relationships while seeking the desirables. I think it's deep growth for those who partake and keeping transparent behavior. Surprising it's becoming a part of our black culture as well in small areas. Also there aren't any murder/suicides or high divorce rates. Love at the optimal level. Thx y'all.....
ReplyDeleteI could not do the poly-amorous scene due to my belief system that I have developed over the years. If it works for others, then more power to them. You will find no judgement here. I am in agreement with Mr. Anatomy in that all parties need to be aware of the situation. I would also hope all parties would be taking the necessary health precautions as well and protecting themselves from any diseases.
ReplyDeleteBabygirl,
ReplyDeleteYou have always been a free spirit who has decided to live her life as she see fit, based on what you have shown our community on the blog. However, has the paths of the two men you are dating ever crossed? What happens if your men find out about each other? Will you be honest or lie? Please talk to us!!! Do they both NOT know about the other?
Thanks for sharing!!
Cindy Lou,
ReplyDeleteEverything "ain't" for everyone! So I completely understand where you are coming from. In this life, different people need different things to get their "point" across. Explorations is for explorers ONLY. IF you are a farmer, you have no business walking into Wall Street and trying to be a trader! Stay in your lane!! As life progresses, people need different things to feel whole about their presence. Thanks for Sharing Ms. Lou!
H. Williams, MBA
Yes both men paths have cross...we were at the same place at the same time. The second guy knew who my boyfriend was...he spoke and we kept it movin. My boyfriend did find out about the other guy and I told the truth about everything...every question he asked I answered. Because if he didn't want to know he would not have asked. Now they know what each other look like.
ReplyDeleteYes, in the past I too have also dated Mulitple men, and this can be a bit much mentally and emotionally. I say this because if you are not honest with the others involved it can be a bit much and VERY time consuming, I feel if you are going to do it Just be Honest and let ALL Parties know up front what your intentions is and how you feel about them. I failed to do that because at that time I was not real knowledgable of juggling three men at a time and really thought I was doing something I was until I got caught up because I was not honest. Just Keep it Real is ALL i have to say!
ReplyDeleteBabegirl,
ReplyDeleteSo, it seems all things have come full circle! It looks like you are still indulging in this behavior. Be safe and please don't allow both men to attack you raw. Don't want any Maury Polvich episodes involving you where they say, "I am NOT the Daddy!" Thanks for being honest and opening your heart to our bloggers!
H. Williams, MBA
Anonymous,
ReplyDeleteExperience is the best teacher and always give us insight into the future. I firmly say, "If you can't juggle multiples where you can be completely honest, please, don't do it!" There is nothing good that can come out of the complete secrecy that you are displaying. Men and women are stronger than you think. If you feel you have to have more than one, open first with COMMUNICATION. Discuss the possibilities first.
Thanks for Sharing,
H. Williams, MBA
Anatomy, when I was out here like that I made sure i was ALWAYS protected because life is TOO short to be playing with my life. I only was doing that to be truthfully honest because of past HURT so i was like I am going to do me! I was going to treat them like they did me. I know that is really wrong, but hey i believe the saying " you reap what you sew" I can assure you I am very careful, but now I have changed my life completely I do not do that anymore. I am currently married , but seperated now but it is not because I was cheating, the cheating was before I got married...
ReplyDeleteAnatomy, I totally agree with you 100%. That is why I DO NOT do it now! Thanks for the advice!
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