Mr. Anatomy,
I appreciate you allowing me to come back to your blog site to address the mass confusion of gay / bi sexual men. I am the twin, Matthew from a few topics ago who interacts with men, but dodge the titles society has placed on me. I'm Not Gay, I'm Not on the Down-low, I'm just living my life.... My question is .......
Why must I be labeled as anything? I have a man friend in my life, but if I choose to date a woman, Isn't that my Choice?
Well bloggers, he returned so I thought I would start the week with a very controversial topic in an effort to allow TWIN to answer all of your questions. Please, keep it respectful, but get out what you seek!
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Mr. Anatomy, please let me start the discussion since I got my twin brother into this "speaking out" by coming to your blog in the first place. My brother was married for 4 years, his wife hurt him very deeply and he turned to his friend for comfort. What started as "homies" just hangin out, became a relationship I have been against since day one. My brother IS NOT gay, he is confused and we are in deep Prayer to get him to realize he didn't owe his friend nothing for helping him through a bad time! He is SO CONFUSED and I respect him for not accepting labels! He is my "lil" brother, but is also my Twin!
ReplyDeleteAS Long as you inform the men and women that you engage in sex with that you batting for both teams I dont care how you label yourself. Use protection EVERYTIME with everybody. You get into trouble makin silent agreements with people by not being upfront and makin them be a part of something they know nothing about. Spread love not disease, mistrust, and dishonesty.
ReplyDeleteMs. Miller,
ReplyDeleteI never have sex without first protecting the person I'm having sex with. I enjoy being with both men and women. I live in Atlanta and for the most part, I travel the same circles over and over. I have pride in what I do and I don't walk around hurting people like my ex wife hurt me. I look for substance and not just looks. I am always careful and I don't spread disease because I don't have one to spread. Why is it when men are with men, we are always identified as the ONES spreading disease. Hey Ma'am, got some news for you, HIV, Aids and STD's are not only spread my men with men! We get them from women as well!!
-Twin-
In Memphis alone the STD and HIV rate is astronomical so some aint being honest whether its men or women. Who you like or love is your business and I applaud you for being one of the honest ones who cares enough to protect yourself and those you engage in sex with. If more people would talk like you and I are and stop pointing the finger then maybe it would make it that much easier for people to be honest with themselves about their sexual preference. Secrecy is a silent killer. Thanks for the dialogue Anonymous! much love
ReplyDeleteI am Matthew's ex wife, and to be honest, it was a lot going on for us back when I changed our family by telling you what I did. Your sister keep texting me and ask me to clear my conscious, well, I don't have anything to clear. You were a good husband, and are still a good father, but our sex was never where it should have been. Maybe I shouldn't have blamed you, but the past can't be erased. To me, when I heard that you have gone to men is a sad state of affairs because I agree with your twin, your ass is confused. D---- (your punk b-friend) was always a gay in the closet, he just came around when he knew you didn't have nobody else. This whole thing is sick and when the kids ask, I lie and tell them your daddy and D just roommates but as they get older, these lies ain't gonna be enough. For our kids, can you please grow up and come back to where God meant for you to be. I join your sister, your family, and everyone who loves you in prayer. Please, for your own sake, come back to Texas before Atlanta eats you alive! (Twin, will you please stop texting me now) I've moved on!
ReplyDeleteTo Twin, Your Sister, and your Wife.
ReplyDeleteI am not sure where to go with this one. So, I will take the VERY high road. Twin, live your life and be who you are in the name of safety. Stay at the Dr. and make sure you limit your exposure to what is NOT good for you! Try to keep track of where you have been and make sure the people you are with have a safe track record. I am not sure about your mental state as it relates to men or women, but try to choose where you are most comfortable and stay there! We all make mistakes, we are all hurt, and we all have to heal, but do your best to bring happiness to self with limited harm to others. Everyone beyond your ex-wife represents something NEW and people who are not aware of your plight. They are not at fault. Sister and ex-wife, don't judge, just support and believe in your faith to bring him the right answer that suites the life he should be living. This is serious, so focus on who you are Twin!
H. Williams, MBA
I dont knock people for what they do but stay on one side of the fence. If you're gonna be with Men then fine be with men and leave women alone because thats how diseases get spreaded. Jus my thought
ReplyDeleteSis, you know I love you, but you should have let that sleeping dog "LIE" I didn't need her to show up here. She has done enough damage. I almost called her name so the world would know how much she hurt me, but I'll be civil. What my ex did to me was life altering. You hurt me deeply and beyond what everyone wants to believe, I chose to change my lifestyle because of it. I dumped everything into that marriage, and to be told your "member" tickles them, is painful after being with them for so long. On this blog, everyone talks about the obvious as if I am a heinous individual with malicious intent. Well, this may shock you, but my sex life, while active, always involves condoms. I don't want anything NOT meant for me. No one wants to talk about why men that straddle the fence are there. Women can sometimes hurt us really deep as was the case in this situation. I am professional, not a JON, not a Stripper, not a young boy with bad intentions. Newsflash, all men of alternative lifestyles are bad people. We just paddle upstream and not with everyone else. Is that so wrong. Ex Wife, NEVER returning to Texas and the pain you caused me. Leaving helped me deal with your fake ass!
ReplyDeleteMatthew- Twin
Dear Matthew,
ReplyDeleteWhile contemplating on what to write to you I keep getting this vision of a heart covered in a hard crust resembling the bed of a dried pond. There are some cracks in that crust and one of them is seeping out what looks like blood. The wound is deep and still fresh. I am not sure how long ago this happened but the hatred and bitterness definitely is still apparent. My heart aches for you!! You obviously are a very tender hearted young man. I am sorry that you have had to endure such pain that would make you turn an about face. My prayer for you is that God will begin to break that crust and expose the wound so that you may get the healing that you need in order to get past this season. Your anger and bitterness is only hurting yourself and no one else. It will begin to affect every area of your life. Because of the rejection you sustained and the insecurity you felt from what your ex said to you, you turned to your friend where you found total acceptance, your value. I want you to know your value/acceptance does not come from man nor woman but it comes from God. What will you do the next time something shatters your security? When you rely on people for your value it is not lasting but when you learn where your acceptance comes from then nothing can shatter you to a point of changing your life so drastically. Find your value in God then make your decisions.