Mr. Anatomy,
You rarely have questions just for "US" men, so I got a very simple one that I want ladies to really answer. I have this lady friend who I talk to sometimes and I have always liked. Deep down inside, I don't think she likes me 'at all' but every now and again, I get a call where she invites me out to dinner. Well, when dinner is over, the check is always slid over to me. My Question is this ............
"Am I just a free meal to this lady? Do women really only call us when they are hungry for a good restaurant?"
You know what Mr. Man-type......, that is a really good question that I'm sure other men would like to know the answer to. We have all been through it and since our questions have been really serious of late, I thought this was a really good one to slow things down. Happy Bloggin!
Hurchel Williams, MBA
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Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
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Well I'm going to say yes you are just a free meal for this lady. And she knows that when she calls you your going to come running because she knows you like her. And I'm also going say no to women only calling when they want to eat at a nice restaurant because I need no man to pay for me to eat when I can pay for me to eat myself no matter where I choose to go for dinner...I'm not about what you can do for me but I am about what can do for each other. Now you know the only time she calls you so when she wants to eat and want you to pay for it so why do you even answer your phone? I mean even if you answer the phone and she ask you out to dinner just say you have plans. Change it up hell make the tables turn the way you want them to. Once the tables turn its all on your terms....Some women will use you if you let them....
ReplyDeleteBabegurl summed it all up!
ReplyDeleteSo y'all use the good ones for the free meals, and here I thought the world had changed!
ReplyDeleteH. Williams, MBA
No Mr. Anatomy, Im agreeing that He is being used not that we all do that. Girls do that women call they friends and go to Flight on they own!! Check my pics sweetie! Lol
ReplyDeleteShe is using him...that is sad. Why is he paying if SHE asked HIM out. She should pay....like Babygirl said---turn the tables
ReplyDeletePhyllis, sadly that's the case when it comes to dating! You'll hear, "hey, wanna grab a bite to eat, they'll pick the spot and at the end of the night you are left thinking, Damn, did I miss something!
ReplyDeleteH. Williams, MBA
But your not DATING!!! That is called we are only friends!!! And if she asking you out to dinner and she picks the spot you can meet there and it is all so easy to say we are paying separate when the waiter or waiterss ask how will you being paying. It's not hard at all!!! I mean you don't have to pay... But if you want to made a fool of you can pay all the time... A woman know when she can run over a man just by looking at him....Just like when a man can tell he has a duck.... It's all the same!!!
ReplyDeleteI said i really like this lady and everytime we have lunch or dinner, I thought maybe we would get to know each other better. But when we finish eating, nothing changed, except we are full on appetizers, dinner and dessert. I always think to myself, why she always inviting me out, and never pay? and I also think, why can't we ever eat at a fast food place? that's when I start thinking she just be hungry and probably don't want to pay herself for her appetite.
ReplyDeleteDear Mr. Perplexed,
ReplyDeleteNow that you have seen this pattern with her I think it is time for you to move on or confront her with your feelings and ask questions. That is the only way you are going to get your answers. It appears that she does not seek a relationship with you but just an evening out once in awhile on your tab. Find a new lady to focus your attentions on at the hopes of the relationship that you desire. Good Luck!
Sir,
ReplyDeleteI must say, I've been there and done that!!! I think often times women key in on the ones that will actually pay. You never know a person's financial situation and what appears to be someone who can pay their own way, may very well be someone who struggles just to do that, or she's cheap as hell! Be leery of people who never offer to accommodate or facilitate the meal. Even if you choose not to let her pay, you like the fact that she actually offered. What I do is give them a few attempts at being civil. If she invites me out a few times and I end up with the bill too many times and it wasn't going anywhere, we part as friends and keep it moving. I never have to discuss it, I just don't accept the offer anymore because fool me once, your fault, fool me twice, definitely my fault! Key sign that they are that way, simple, they order something that cost more than what you did THEN, they always order dessert and rarely eat it. Final thought; the get every course, appetizer, meal, dinner, drinks, dessert, and even fancy coffee at the end. Then, they have the nerve to have the attitude of, "I can pay for this myself, I don't need NO man to buy mine!" OK then, Show ME!
H. Williams, MBA
Dear Mr Perplexed, all you have to do to get the answer to your question is call her up and invite her to dinner and if she accepts without asking you who is paying, slide the check over to her when the meal is over! If she pays, then she may consider you a viable friend, if she refuses, ask the waiter for separate checks and pay for yours on your way to your car.
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