Dear Mr. Anatomy,
In 2012, I heard you speak for a group of professors at (Not gonna Say It) at (Not gonna say it) University. You gave a very high percentage of men cheating and at that time I questioned your numbers because I thought "It could NEVER happen to me!" Well, It did!!! My husband and I work out a lot at the gym. We are both pretty athletic, but he started going to the gym more in the afternoons after work, which is not our normal time. I didn't think anything of it, because I trust him deeply. Well, a few days ago, I was contacted by the other woman and she informed me she and my husband have been seeing each other for over 6 months and she has even been in my house. They met at the gym, and she was told that things at my house are not good because he's not happy and was asked to give him time to straighten things out. (As she put it) so they can be together. Well, that is certainly news to me! When I questioned him, he said yes, he knows her and yes they have been together, but the facts are a little more detailed. He said we would talk when he got back in town next Monday, and shut me down because he is away on a major business trip. My question is,
"Can a marriage survive cheating and infidelity? If so, how do we get back on the right track?"
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Yes a marriage can survive cheating. The question is do you have it in you to trust your husband again? Because, if you are not able to establish full trust in him again then no your marriage will not survive his affair. And; also you must discuss this with him to see if he truly still wants to be married to you and if he stills desires you. Because we all know it takes two willing participants for a successful marriage.
ReplyDelete1st things 1st...no one ever thinks that this will happen to them because each of s feel we are being the ideal mate or partner and wwe are blinded by what the actual issue our mate may have because the issue possibly doesnt exist. #2 trust me the chances of him wanting to leave home for that outside female is normally very slim. He married u for a reason and hopefully he will stay for the same reason. #3...the conversation with most cheaters is the same for the mate and for the person outside. The person outside gets an earfull of how things arent right at home. They are perfect for the job. They make them feel complete and soon they will be together. They are even told they love them and how goood the sex, convo and quality time is compared to home. THE MATE ON THE OTHER HAND...hears the same exct thing. Baby i love only uu. No one can replace you. Im imperfect and shes crazy if she thinks imma leavve u for her because ur the best thing to ever happpen to me. WWHATS CRAZY IS....hes telling both of yall the truth at that time hes telling it. He does love u both, he does wanna be with both, u are an imperfect wife and at the time she does fall into that perfect spot. Can it still work out with ur marriage? YES AND NO!!! Yall can be together for the rest of ur days BUT u will question each and everyday. YOU WILL NEVER BE THE SAME WOMAN TO HIM AGAIN! And ur view of him is now DISTORTED. No if ands and buts about it
ReplyDeleteNow if u wanna go BIBLICAL....it says never put ur faith and trust in man. This includes ur husband. Why trust and put faith into someone just as imperfect as urself.
ReplyDeleteIt does not work anymore when someone else has Sexual Intercourse with the Person you live with and are married too. I Hate to SHARE! Sharing is not cool when Your Married or in a Monogamous Relationship. And don't do that thing were You tell yourself that you want him, cause she wants him? If You let him Go She Win's? The Facts show that he is not Faithful, let his Ass Go? You can't accept that he will not Cheat on You again? He's on a business trip right now possibly with someone else. The Gym check got Mad and told You? What was her reason? Think cause she was Guilty? No, he possibly kicked her ass to the Curve for someone new. If you get back with this Dude , buy him a Norditrac so he can just workout at home.
ReplyDeleteu may try to make it work, but it want. the trust is gone(u can't get it back) your sense of security in your marriage is gone(u can't get it back)and you will sometimes feel second best and always wonder where your other half is and what they're really doing
ReplyDeleteSorry, do not know at all. I have seen many that have, but there's always a defensiveness or strain on the relationship
ReplyDeleteKick rocks!!! Keep it moving!! I know it seems harsh, but thats a "huge" chance that u r taking w/ your life. Life is 2 short 4 that BS! Aint nobody got time 4 that...even if u stay nothing is guaranteed, men continue 2 cheat bcause women continue 2 take them bk hoping 4 the best (Not). If u take him bk he will lose Respect 4 u!!!! Then u will bgin 2 lose respect 4 yoyrself!!!! Now he has plenty of time 2 come up w/some fantastic lie. No Mam love yourself some1 else will appreciate u btr. Appreciate yourself! !! Dont waste time! Stats show they will leave anyway...
ReplyDeleteits true there is a possibility that your relationship can work but the question is will you be able to work along with it.... as everyone rightfully said trust is gone so how can you build on a relationship if you cant trust your partner... As for the other woman i think Willie Hudson was correct...cause why after 6mths she comes to you Guilty you say i don't think so, maybe she is trying to expedite the process of your divorce or maybe she was also burnt by your husbands deceit. What ever her reason bet your bottom dollar she is up to no good.....And i cant go without speaking about him brushing you off cause he in a meeting crap.... any man concerned about his wife finding out about his affair don't have time with no meeting, and wouldn't wait till he gets home to deal with the situation...What he don't have a phone at his hotel......HIS ASS DISRESPECTFUL AND ITS CLEAR HE DOESN'T CARE.....
ReplyDeleteLet me say this. IF A PERSON COULDNT CHANGE THEN THERE WOULD BE NO NEED FOR PRAYER! Your mate and ur situation can get better. Many times it takes the pain, hurt and loss of a loved one to know exactly what you have on ur team. NOPE U WONT be satisfied wwith his reasoning, u will wonder how she looks, wht did they speak about u, did he spend ur households money on her, did he use protection or wrongfully put ur life in jeopardy and blah blah blah...the thought never leaves. The questioning never stops. Never will anything he say satisfy u because in ur mind THIS SHIT 100% SHOULDNT HAVE HAPPENED. Hell u may even go cheat urself because u THINK it will make u even or feel better. POINT IS...nothing is going to work unless yall work it together. Just like anything else worth having....U GOTTA WORK FOR IT AND AT IT. I am a well known person in my community and i have yet to find one couple or marriage that isnt suffering from something. Now u can let ur husband go and get another mate but ill put it on my life that u will be losing one issue just to gain another. NOPE not fair, NOT right and damn sure wont be easy. Dont be anyones FOOL either sweetie just takin whatever BS that comes to u. Weigh ur options nd give it at least one yr before u haul ass and leave ur husband.
ReplyDeleteErika a whole year,now while i understand your points a whole year have me thinking if that woman didnt call her maybe a year might of passed or even more before everything comes into the open... why should she put herself through it all for so long... especially since to me he dont care... now i could be wrong about her husband but you see that "wait till i get home NEXT MONDAY" not resting to well with me cause if he can wait that long to talk about his marriage, then he dont care about it, he dont care about me what i am going through or even what i'm thinking.... So why wait for a whole year
ReplyDelete@ Kami Elcock...yea i undersstand ur point on that timing. Im thinking hes simply a coward and scared as hell to face his lady knowing the anger and pain thats gonna be in her eyes and words. Plus cheating is way too darn deep for a phone call. Honestly i would have waited till he got home to say anything about it PLUS HOW THAT CHIC GOT HER NUMBER ANYWAY? I say a yr because she doesnt need to react or act on a life long decision so swiftly. Talk about it, think about it, pray on it, work on it, evaluate it and then decide on it. Yea he messed up big time but he shouldnt mess herself up just pickin up and haulin ass. Get set financially if u gonna leave, make darn sure this is it because there should be no lookin back. Whats the point of her leaving him if shes still messed up in the head over him and being sexually active with him. Now he has all the freedom he needs. An empty house, sex with her and whoever when wanted and his space....thats too easy. REMEMBER SHE LOVES HIM STILL and believe that him cheating doesnt stop the love she has JUST THE TRUST AND RESPECT
ReplyDeleteIf he got back on Monday he would come home to.(A) an empty house or (B) he would come back to divorce papers on the front door with a restraining order. If he doesn't make time to talk to you the minute he got checked into his room I would say that his acknowledgment of the affair is step towards leaving you anyway.
ReplyDeleteWell that sounds good BUT wont happen because once again SHES STILL IN LOVE WITH HIM and even more than that SHE WANTS SOME DAMN ANSWERS and i bet my last dime that she really wants to see who this woman is
ReplyDeleteRegardless if anyone wants to believe it or admit it or not but chances is we have all been cheated on in a relationship or either have cheated on someone and decided to continue on with the relationship because there is more aspects of a relationship that outweighs a cheat. Notice i said A CHEAT....lol no one should stay and continue to be cheated on but if its A CHEAT then this may can change and work out.
ReplyDeleteits true Love makes us do some stupid things and i see her question is"how do they get back on track" Well in reality this has to be on both sides cause you wanting to work it out and forgive him and move on isn't necessarily what he wants.... I guess she have to wait till Monday to find out but until then she should do some soul searching as Erika said think about all that happen and what are your choices if it dont work out...also think about if he does want to try again an salvage his marriage how will you get pass all that you know and build back the trust without having negative thoughts carry you away...Man no amt of gym can make you strong for this but put everything in Gods hands
ReplyDelete@ Kami Elcock...ur right. U instantly feel traded, neglected, rejected and abandoned. When u get married u dont usually set ur self up for this but with th cheat and divvorce rates maybe we should. Nothing hurts more than knowing u have been faithful and gave ur all to someone just for them to give whats suppose to be yours to someone that hasnt even earned it. Brings out emotions and hate that u didnt even know exsited inside of u. Quetion every word and emotion ever expressed. And this will affect their sex life forever
ReplyDeleteAuthor Hurchel Williams i you step in and help her now before we do more damage than good lol cause i'm sure she is probably more confused than when she started.... But seriously i feel for her as some parts of me can relate to what she is going through and i can tell her that if she decides to stay she will have to live with and take whatever he throws her way, as well as keep fighting her own demons of uncertainty ....and if she leaves its gonna be sooo hard...cause her life will change, No more husband or companion or lover.... sometimes finding ourselves is the most challenge we face.... But i'm not worried Author Hurchel Williams will fix this
ReplyDeleteIf this man really loves you and wants to salvage your marriage he will realize how he has hurt you and spend the rest of his life trying to make it up to you. Since you love him and want to get past this see what he really wants , sometimes people make mistakes and do not realize what they have until its gone or they feel the threat of losing it. I think that a if you both want the same thing you can put this behind you and regain the trust. Im not saying stay and cintinue to let this happen, I'm just saying think before you make your decision is he worth you staying and trying to work it out? Does his good outweight his bad? If not then let him go you will be hurt but you will get over it. Also you should be his first concen at this time so waiting until monday is not acceptable.....please dont ignore the signs ,the WIFE should always be a priorty!
ReplyDeleteif in your mind you have the best relationship/marriage only to find out you have been betrayed by your mate, it almost send you into shock, you don't know, what to do, say, r who to blame and it takes a lot out of u as a person.but at the end of the day every relationship/marriage is different and it's all about what you really want for you and what you r willing to put up with
ReplyDeleteI am losing my mind with anxiety. We have talked but he said he don't want to have a full conversation until he gets home. I read all of what you all are saying and all I have ever wanted to be was a good wife. The only thing he will tell me is everything the other lady is saying is NOT true but he did sleep with her once because I said I wouldn't allow another woman in our bedroom. I told him we are professional people and if that type of thing got out, it would ruin our credibility. He said he wants more in the bedroom and that is how their conversations started on side by side treadmills. I will do anything to keep my husband, and I read where you (mr. Anatomy) said on your website that I should NOT let infidelity shock me. I told my husband that I came to you and asked him to read this blog. I am searching for true answers and I took my vows seriously, but it's obvious one of us didn't. Mrs doubtfire? that is funny, its the only laugh I can get in the midst of my tears. Willie, you are the only man here, have you cheated and been forgiven? You all are so passionate and I thank you all. Simone, you say I shouldn't put up with it, Kimberly, you say he would come home to an empty house. I have a son, how do I explain to his son why we had to leave so abruptly? Kami and Erika, your words are inspiring. I have Never experienced anything like this. This is not what I signed up for. I keep retracing my steps to figure out if I could have brought this on myself in any way. So many questions and all I can do is stare at the wall and wonder if he is alone on his business trip. I keep telling myself, like Willie said, maybe the girl here is mad because he left her alone. I am so confused.
ReplyDeleteCheated on: Mrs. doubtfire (too funny of a name)
What woman doesn't want to save her marriage. And by all rights we should want to especially since we 've put so much into it rite, worked real hard at making sure its the best thing that we have going for us rite but in the process we ignore what's really happening within the marriage.
ReplyDeleteNow I don't know what your sex life is like but for him to have discussed it with a stranger at the gym and not you is stupid and says to me that he was looking for that affair cause if you approach any woman/man with your bedroom problems that's an invitation for them to step in.
But then maybe it was a simple flirt gone the rong way. Who knows what really transpired... Hun if you decide to fight for it go right ahead but keep in mind shit does happen and it won't be as it was before... Hunny don't be afraid to talk your mind spill your guts and let his ass have it cause he has to understand that there won't be a next time Be strong and stand your ground... God bless you hun
The devil is a lie!!!! Stop it! Absolutely do not blame yourself. .... stop questioning yourself, stay focused. ..the vert bottom line is "he cheated bcause he WANTED 2" he chose 2 step out on the marriage, not u. If u allow him he will take u on an emotional roller coaster. I say get off now. Leave & give yourself time 2 process this information on your on. & take your self-respect w/u. If the situation was the other way around, how would he feel, what would he do? Instead of asking those wimpy questions (no disrespect ladies) ask him some "real" questions! Make him make u want 2 stay! !! Make him fix it! Stand up & stand strong during this battle. He violated!!! If he is really sorry & TRULY wants his marriage "he" will fight 4 it! Men know what they want & knows how 2 get it. WE dont give them enough credit. They may not b as stupid as we would like 2 think. Im talking from experience, how would u feel if u stayed???? 2 fight 4 marriage only 2 divorce after 15 yrs, 5 children, several more incidents, gray hair, extra lbs, & a host of normal everyday issues. He moves on w/ another woman as soon as u batt your eye. Hmmmm...as if u never existed. Yes u will get over it, but thats 15 yrs of your life gone. U hv a very important decision 2 make that could alter your future, dont take it lightly. This is the moment that u think w/your head NOT your heart! PRAY ask God 2 heal your broken heart, give u understanding, wisdom & courage. & 2 b able 2 accept what ever His will 4 U!
ReplyDeleteLet me tell you this. im not speaking because your situation is closely related to mine but im speaking because your situation is exactly like mine. they met at the gym, struck up convo, affair started and then she wanted to spill the beans because he wasnt leaving me fast enough. only one huge exception....they also worked together. meaning she was surely getting more time in than i was. everything ur thinking was my same thoughts. when did he find the time? Did he have oral sex with her? what did i do wrong? Is something wrong with me? and damn it i want details. NO U DONT WANT DETAILS.....everything u think happened sweetie please believe it happened. this is your worst nightmare coming true and thats raw and uncut. You arent the reason directly why he cheated. he cheated because and only because he wanted to. Its like this....if yall were having financial issues would him having sex with her change it NOOOO? If you didnt cook and clean like he desired would having sex with her change it NOOOOOOO? If yall were having communication issues would sex with her change it NOOOOOO? even if yall were having issues in the bedroom would sex with her change it at home NOOOOO? now saying all of that him cheating was because he wanted too. nothing at all directly with you so now is the time to stop blaming yourself. And another thing he enjoyed every bit of it with exception of getting caught. NOW MOVE ON AND MAN UP because there is a child involved and it needs to take a hell of a lot more than some outside sex to end ur marriage and seperate the father from his son. no maam dont make light of it but please dont allow it to consume you. THATS WHEN IT GE$TS REALLY UGLY! There is 2 things at this moment u need not do #1 DONT LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND until ur completely done and #2 DONT CHEAT trying to make it right
ReplyDeletelol im so sorry for continuing to comment on this but im so pissed lol. I knowingly started an arguement with him last night because of this issue. Im literally sitting here angry at him because i know how exactly how ur hurting....especially if u were a faithful wife. If ur anything like i was everytime u turned around a man was trying to get with and at u and u were so proud to turn them down and tell them OH NO THANK U SIR IM MARRIED....just to find out hes telling someone OH YES SWEETIE IM ENDING THIS MARRIAGE.Damn how one man can change the fait for anyone after him. This is a wound that seems to never heal. OK im done lol nothing else from me on this topic before i burn this damn house down with him in it.
ReplyDeleteI truly wish I had the courage to do what some of you have suggested but honestly speaking I don't. I am on my way to church and I want to have a special session with my clergy but I don't have all of the facts and my husband has asked me to refrain from speaking to anyone about this until he and I have had a chance to talk about it. I cried myself to sleep last night and he and I did discuss this bull because he had an opinion about me airing our issues on this blog. But, I told him no one here knows us and each of the stories shared gives me hope that we are not the only couple that go through these types of adversities. Thank you Erika, Simone, Kami, Tlisha, and Juanita because I feel my strength through your words. I am so broken but I guess all of this will make better sense tomorrow when he gets home.
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lol im so sorry for continuing to comment on this but im so pissed lol. I knowingly started an arguement with him last night because of this issue. Im literally sitting here angry at him because i know how exactly how ur hurting....especially if u were a faithful wife. If ur anything like i was everytime u turned around a man was trying to get with and at u and u were so proud to turn them down and tell them OH NO THANK U SIR IM MARRIED....just to find out hes telling someone OH YES SWEETIE IM ENDING THIS MARRIAGE.Damn how one man can change the fait for anyone after him. This is a wound that seems to never heal. OK im done lol nothing else from me on this topic before i burn this damn house down with him in it.
ReplyDeleteErika Sunshyne Pittmon Jones girl breathe now.... you gone and gave a summon this morning hun lol.... niceeee
ReplyDeleteLol hahahahaha @ Kami Elcock u aint lying because i keep thinking about this issue. Just too close to home an im really angry. Ok this time im done forreal lol....
ReplyDeleteDear Mrs. Doubtfire,
ReplyDeleteYour question has generated a lot of responses both publicly and secretly behind the scenes. It seems there are men who feel I am about to say the wrong thing and have asked me not to speculate. Without bias, I say this: "While I don't condone cheating, I do recognize that it happens!" What your husband has done is wrong. There is no other way to say it but your marriage can be saved! There has been a lot of feedback, so I will try to expound as much as possible. In my opinion, the reason you were asked to hold off on speaking to him about this tragic circumstance is he has been speaking back and forth to the woman who started this ordeal. When we are cheating, we know what we have at home, who needs the most attention, and who to tread carefully with. You have to remember, the information you are receiving is only coming from one source. If we, as men, can get to that source, shut it down and alter what is being said, we can do damage control! Like one of my bloggers has alluded to, something set that lady off for her to have reached out to you after 6 months. Only your husband knows what that something is! So, he circumvented you by going back to her and calming her. I'll bet you haven't heard from her since the initial conversation because all an outside woman wants is "to be heard!" She is probably second guessing her decision to contact you because of what the final ramifications are. Trust me, that's where your husband has been spending his Long Distance dollars, ON the phone; trying to shut her Up! Next, don't let this rattle you, but make you stronger! Infidelity is a part of growth. I am not saying it's a right of passage, but it happens and people get stronger after it. For those who say run for the hills, I say remember your vows; For better or for worse! I speak from experience when I say what doesn't kill us, changes how we react to certain situations. You can survive this and I have emailed you other ways to communicate with your husband about "WHY" this was allowed to happen in the first place. Cheating is like virus, when not treated, it spreads and affects more than just the body it inhabits! When hubby returns, listen to what he has to say, ask your questions, try to be tactful when questioning him. Anger makes us (men) shut down and no one wins. Get to the bottom of how it happened, and husband, if you are reading this, come clean and be honest. I have a new approach to how I deal with cheating and I say this. Cheating is when you lie about how it happened, or won't share! IF you come clean, be truthful, and explain your feelings, anything can be forgiven, for we are all humans, and we all err. Remember this, if you tell your wife everything, the other woman can't have another "Ah ha" moment. Please, do me one favor, man to man: Don't work to save the outside affair, work to save the "at home romance!" She is yours, and your home life will thank you for it in the long run!
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Mrs. Doubtfire i'm touched that i can give you hope... my grandmom always taught us " What dont kill yuh makes you STRONGER." you'll get through this have no doubt and that saying is so true cause this situation will make you different, how you look at life, how you look at people and how you look at yourself, it will all change however dont allow it to get the best of you hun...cause this kinda shit can turn you bitter and you dont want to go down that road....have a good day at church open up to the lord for he alone knows and feels your pains and he alone can fully comfort your situation....oh and Author Hurchel Williams lol..... ps whispering" oh and Mrs. Doubtfire if you feel that your husband is feeding you crap its because he is... feel free to go Waiting to Exhale on his ass...put all that gym workout to use and only break the cheap stuff lol shit look what i telling you #justtryingtomakeyoulaugh
ReplyDeletePerfect......now let me move on. Absolutely perfect wisdom. Peace Yall!
ReplyDelete@Mrs.Doudtfire, sorry busy weekend in the FLA. Straight up ? You ain't pack his Shit Yet? I know, I know You thought Ya'll had the perfect relationship? From the Outside looking in... By now You've had a chance to analyze your marriage? Have You realized that Your significant other is a Hoe? Not Husband, cause he is not showing Husband qualities? Everything in your relationship from day one that's in your mind you said ,Hmmm too the answers that your Spouse gave you is or should be analyzed...Usually his answers were brushed to the side an you possibly never thought much about it. Well in Your "New Relationship" if you work it out ?Your going to analyze every answer he gives You. That's not a Healthy Relationship? You asked if I ever CHEATED? I am saying Officially No. And Don't ever plan too since I am Married. Phuck wit me You Stuck wit me! on the married end, unless she Cheats! Until then if I don't get it from my Wife, Lefty&Righty got Me til the drought is over.If she does Cheat? Certain things will happen? I am not leaving my House! Her Shit will be packed? I want to know why you and your son would leave? Is your Name not on the Mortgage , Deed, Lease or any mail? Phuck Him and feeling sorry for Him? Last time I checked Infidelity Spouse's don't get the House , they pay alimony and Child Support. You gotta show Mista you ain't playing around! Next I live by the "Wish Factor?" I Wish a Mutherphuckingman would call Me! Tellin me my Wife has had a six month affair. Oh, and he has been to my House! MF Can tell me what color Sheets are on my Bed and type of pillow case's. We are DONE! Because what it all Boils down to is if YOU are Happy and have Peace of Mind. I would not ever again have Peace of Mind with her.Can't save it even if she gave away 10 Free Couchie Passes that allows me to do whatever wit who ever 10times. Plus have me doubting myself? Also he works with this person,I would not be able to trust her during peak work hours. I was Wondering if You were ever invited to any Work Functions or Parties? Cause You cannot introduce me to the MF You Phucking at Work. Noooo! These are just my views, the Trust has been broken. Remember Peace of Mind goes along way. If I don't have No Peace, there damn sure won't be No Peace. It's your relationship Boo! If You like it I Luv it. Best wishes to You!
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ReplyDeleteThank you for being men and telling me what to expect. I had a very long conversation with him last night when he finally decided to come home and face me. He tried to make this my fault for not allowing extra activity in our bedroom. He says he will consider going to counseling, but only if I promise to not harp on what he has done wrong. My argument was why are you the one who gets to make rules and consequences. He said she came to our house only once to get dressed and I think that was absurd. I feel like he is taking my kindness for weakness and it's not fair. I have never cheated, or even thought about it. I also considered his proposal of a threesome but he didn't give me a chance to even think about it before he cheated. I have asked to meet her and confront her but he says that is not necessary and he will not speak to her again. Mr. Anatomy, he said you were wrong about what happened this weekend. He did not speak to her but once and just asked her not to contact me anymore. What should I believe? Thank you for the list of ways you sent me to deal with this issue. I found them quite helpful. My tears are drying up, and my anger has really escalated. I will not be a doormat. Thank you Simone. I am gathering my strength! Thank you for getting back to me Willie.
Not Doubtfire anymore! I know it can happen!
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ReplyDeleteNo it will not work. No need to try. Your trust comes first in everything! !!!!! The Only way it could work is if your trust doesnt matter to you!!!! If you forgive him based on your own guilt. If you have done the same to him in past and you look past it. And if that's is done the other partner will know that you have cheated too. And that then it will end unless your relationship is no longer monogamous but you both agree to open relationships and only together. There are ways get creative. The world and society works differently this day in age!!!!!!! To easy to cheat. To easy to for.the cheater to blame and accept to transfer guilt. So it's best that you tell yourself that it's done cause you aren't being loved and save your dignity and not destroy yourself and feel less of a person of yourself. Cause you didn't force him away. Vows state what you go through. Your work shows what you actually work for. Leave while you have a chance to do so before it gets worse. I am sorry this DoucheBag couldn't stay the course. Let alone the woman is to blame just as much cause she knew you were at the gym and that was your husband. She is a whore just the same. Let the cheaters be with one another. And hopefully they keep cheating and are truly empty and alone in the end. And you find you a mate that is for you about you and with you in the relationship the way a man is suppose to be. Good Luck!!!!!!
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