This is a question I get on a regular basis. I have my own ideas of happiness, but let's get the thoughts of the masses............Today's question is ........
Is it OK to date and/or eventually marry the ex-boyfriend/girlfriend of one of your friends? Why or Why Not?
Everyone has an opinion but I guess your ultimate happiness is what's important to you! Let's see how everyone feels about this one.
H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
You cannot help who you are attracted to or whom you fall in love with. Hopefully my friend would be mature enough to recognize this but unfortunately that is not the case in most situations. Most times a person has to choose between the friend and the one that could be their soul mate for life. I would choose love since I am the only one that is in control of my own happiness and destiny. I would hope that my friend would understand and would be happy for me rather than jealous, realizing that their relationship is over and they have the opportunity to move on as well to find their own true happiness with someone special.
ReplyDeleteI am going to say No? Why if u are still friends with the person . It makes a get together ackward... New couple watching the old couple, then you get flash backs of " They did not do that with me Episodes." What if they share a child? Now you get to hear what Your friend is not doing for his/her child all the time.
ReplyDeleteI would like to clarify my statement above, it really depends on the circumstances as well and the time line of the relationship. Of course I would not want to hurt my friend on purpose either. I would take into consideration how long they had been split up as well. I am not cold hearted and I do value my friendships!!
ReplyDeleteIt would be awkward, burbI think mature adults can handle it better than others because of the fact this is a moral issue than anything. For example, I became friends with my soon to be ex's boyfriend and I would be okay with him dating and marrying her because I know the type if person he is, but that's not the case for everyone.
ReplyDeleteI agree Byron, it definitely depends on the maturity of the individuals. I have not experienced it personally but have witnessed it in the lives of some of my friends and because of their maturity it worked out fine.
ReplyDeleteI witnessed that during my years coaching youth basketball and a couple of parents were divorced and married ex-spouses friends. It can work, but it's up to the individuals. Thanks CindyLou
ReplyDeleteFor me, I feel like LOVE can seemingly conquer all. As we get older, we understand those who know us best and how to pull the best out of one another. I don't condone it, but it does happen and sometimes, the mistakes your friend made, may not be the same direction you covet. If your friend has love for you and there has been a substantial amount of time in between, these unions can work. This world is small, and sometimes we all will have to cross paths again. I say discuss it on all fronts and if all parties are agreeing, seek to understand, then to be understood! Follow your heart and make something magical out of your old roladex! Do you and have fun, this is the 21st century. Get approval from the old friend, and then laugh at it over a few libations!
ReplyDeleteH. Williams, MBA