Let's keep it simple as we reflect on who we truly are. Today's Question..............
Can you look back in your past and find one or two circumstances that altered the way your life turned out?
Often times People judge us and don't quite understand our plight......help us understand the events that shaped your life. Let us hear your hearts.
H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
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After making a very poor decision early on in my marriage, I did a lot of soul searching. That is when I realized the truth about where my value came from. That realization completely changed my whole perspective in regards to every aspect of my life. I no longer felt a need to seek the attention/affections of a man to feel loved nor did I need to strive for social status or money to feel important.
ReplyDeleteThere are so many people that find their value in having a mate; in a job; whether they have money or not; or even in material things. Then when that value item is gone they have a hard time coping because their self worth has taken a blow.
Finding where your value truly comes from gives you freedom to love, laugh and live because you are not relying on outside sources to feel your self worth. You are able to have healthy relationships since you are not expecting anyone person to fulfill needs that are impossible for a person to fill. You are able to love them unconditionally without any expectations.
CindyLou thanks for your thoughts and photo to place a face with these inspiring words.
ReplyDeleteWhat shaped my thus far is fractioning the law and how it has caused me so much grief trying to repair my image. Many regrets, but it happened by not using good judgement and being in control. This is hindering my progression, burbIbremain steadfast and abound with Gods favor to restore my self image. Oh yes I wish I can turn back to that moment, but I can't and can only make better decisions henceforth....
I find it easy to look back and think of various situations that i feel impacted who i am...to pick one or two a bit more difficult. i think being abandoned at an early age has seriously changed the way i deal with people and relationships. i have a tendency to feel inadequate or "lesser" in a lot of circumstances but put forth great effort to hide it. losing my grandfather, who was the only person i ever had changed me greatly as well. i all of a sudden became very alone. dealing with the abandonment taught me to be independent to a fault, possibly causing the demise of a cpl very important relationships, but upon losing him i began to lose sight of my independence and question my usefulness and purpose and ability. my life has not been the same since and im not sure it ever will be. im working every day to regain my sense of self and worth and realize that i belong and ppl need me in their lives just like, i need ppl in mine....
ReplyDeleteI can think of many moments that impacted me,some favorable while others were not. Howevwer, the two i wish to share for this post are the first Oratorical debate I won and the loss of my Daddy.
ReplyDeleteThe debate was in 1990 and i was 16 years old, my senior year of high school. I won 1st place in the local, state, regional, and semi-national. I can in second place in the nationals. This win made me realize the power of my voice. Not the audible one, but my thought process. I became determined to use my mind to better my life and those around me. With each win and applause I felt my destiny shaping. I went on to become a columnist for a local paper on a volunteer basis and even did some freelancing. I am on the path now to taste that greatness I felt back then.
The loss of my dad this year really made me realize that I had a fear of how powerful I could become. My dad whispered, "Baby you are a vessel chosen by God to help his people.... DO IT." He asked me to spread my wngs and see the world that I dream of everyday. He said my dreams were bigger than Texas so leave and follow your dreams. He said I made him believe that he was the best daddy when he knew he had not been and that if I could speak life into him that I should do it to the nations... Not just those in my circle. As I held him and watched him take his last breath, a new breath of resilience was birthed into me and I awakened. I am still unmasking, revealing what I am to be......