People, place, faces, and thoughts...... Today's question is strictly about a friend I spoke to earlier this week about her transgressions. You would have to know this "good gurl" to understand my surprise
of her frequenting a Strip Club with her man. So, this weekend's question ...........
How many of you "Good Gurls" have ever been to a strip club? Please indulge me and tell me; "What were you thinking while sitting there watching the show?" and Guys, have you ever taken a girl with you? Tell me about that experience!
When my friend told me she went with her boyfriend, I was like "WTF" you've been to a strip club, Ms. Goodie 2 Shoes!!! That told me the world has truly changed ! Come on y'all, talk to me, let's make this one fun! I'll see if I can get her to chime in too!
H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
http://twitter.com/anatomyofacheat
This Good Gurl has been to a strip club. But to sit and watch I went there to watch my sister audition for a job there. When all eyes fell off of her I joined in her act to help her out. After all was said and done she got the job and they offered me one. I kindly declined the offer. But it was fun to help my sister out.
ReplyDeleteThe Reason For the Question:
ReplyDeleteYears ago, when I was "sales Repping" for Newport Cigs, I walked into this drug store and while working, I met one of the managers. (if memory serves me correctly) She was the "key" lady, you know, the one with all the access to stuff, well anyway, Ms. Key lady is 110 lbs soaking wet and looks like anybodies school teacher or librarian. After visiting the store a few times, she and I become real good friends because she is SO out of my NORM! We started a relationship kinda behind the scenes and she was my "it thang" for quite some time. Quiet, meek, mild, but explosive is how I would characterize Ms. Key lady as our relationship progresses. But alas, our lives went in separate directions and we lost touch until recently. (Thanks FB)
Well, as we are talking, she tells me, "Oh, I've been to strip clubs with my new man!" I'm thinking, REALLY, your little, should be on the first Pew, ass? Are you serious? Then, if that wasn't enough, she told me Mr. Wonderful even took her to a place where you could walk around naked.......WHAT? A freakin Swingers Club!! I'm floored, Little Ms. Key lady, Little Ms. School Teacher, I am NOT believing this. So, I had to pose the question I did, because bloggers, IF this lady can got to a strip club, swingers club and talk about it, OH MY GOD, watch ya daughters, because she HAD "MR. Anatomy" Fooled! I thought I was pushing her parameters when I was with her! The JOKE was clearly on me. She hid that inner-freak Well!
NOW, let me know what y'all think!
H. Williams, MBA
I took a girl I was dating to a "hole in the wall" strip joint and found out she used to date one of the strippers. She revealed that it was a fantasy of hers to be with a woman, but I took it a bit further for her to show me her interactions. The manager and I were associates and he let us have the VIP room for few so I can watch them. It was an eye opening experience because I really became intrigued by their activity and how sexy they looked. I was truly fascinated and it aroused my inner freakness. Lol
ReplyDeleteI ended up in a strip club about 2 or 3 months ago for the very first time in my life. It was a unique experience to say the least. Observing what was going on look just like empty sexual stimulation. There was no deeper connection what so ever. I believe that there is a big difference between sex and the art of making love. Sex to me is empty once it is all said and done. Making love with someone is a passionate union between two people in the privacy of their own bedroom. You are experiencing your loves body, soul and spirit. It can be as kinky as you want it to be but it is between you and your man. It is a deeper more intimate sensual experience that draws you closer to one another each time you share yourself with each other. It can be truly a beautiful and rewarding experience!!
ReplyDeleteBabygurl and Byron,
ReplyDeleteAs always, thanks for sharing in our forum. For me, strip clubs were always an outlet and I seriously went for the entertainment, however, just like a casino, once inside, it is hard not to be drawn in and "think" you have what it takes to bring out the right lady and take her home. For me, over the years, it became a game. I am a bona-fide researcher so I took it to heart to understand the patterns and actions of the females. First, I mastered listening to them as they would try to draw money from me. Then, I would go on a very slow night to get more one on one time. Since typically, I was business traveling, I had more availability than most. And here is the major key, I would slide them $2 or $3 dollars every few minutes as if they were a timed parking meter! This way, they understood that you knew this was a job for them. (giving away valuable secrets here) Well, I won that battle and I have several "Strip Club" friends around the country. For me, it was never to master the strippers but moreso to understand why they did what they do. NOW, much deeper, I learned later in my life, if you walk in with a woman, or a group of women, it gives you more credibility and the others who worked there would flock to the ladies with you.
As I got older, like anything else, when you master the art, it becomes old news, and I can seriously tell you, I haven't been to a Strip Club in probably 10 years or more. For me, no matter where you are, it's not the best evening value for my money!
H. Williams, MBA
CindyLou,
ReplyDeleteI chose to address you separately and give you a personal "welcome" to my forum! I've noticed you have frequented us often with your presence. I can sincerely say, I appreciate your honesty and please continue to be as candid as you have since joining us.
Now, your comment: I can appreciate your view from the top, so to say! Yes, walking around a strip club, one can ascertain exactly what you have outlined, it's an empty feeling of short pleasure! In the very beginning of my life, I visited strip clubs while in the military. While most of my fellow Marines spent a fortune trying to find themselves on stage, I spent the minimum it took just to maintain my seat and get bits and piece of slow affection from the subjects. Now, let me clarify this, while overseas, strip clubs take on a different dynamic all together, but the premise is still the same; entertain until such time you are broke or have an illicit idea to take home with you for your mate! Speaking to ladies who have visited clubs with their man, the ladder takes on more value than the dollar figure. If she wasn't bisexual, she was merely going to promote a more stimulated sex life. For women I have talked to, they took on the "do whatever works" model and normally got their bang for the buck at the end of the night. (no pun intended) For the purpose of this question, I feel a woman should do whatever it takes to please the ideas of her mate. I learned from a "really good teacher" that you can recreate whatever fantasy you need to to get you over the top with your loved one BUT, when it's over, one has to learn to leave that "advantage" right there where it was summoned up to keep that relationship fruitful. Remembering everyone IS NOT the same, is another lesson you must pull from this little frolic, and always helps when you are creating passion with a focal point. In this life and as we get older, you learn to do what works, however, this is the key, PLEASURE the mind, and the body will follow!
Thanks for Sharing your heart and ideas to make us successful!
H. Williams, MBA
Thank you Anatomy for my personal welcome and giving me the opportunity to allow my voice to be heard. I am glad that I had the opportunity to meet your acquaintance. I will never forget our first meeting and the two flights we shared with one another. They were most pleasurable and entertaining. You are a remarkable young man!! I will be back!!!
ReplyDeleteHey CindyLou.....Although I appreciate your post and the fact you mentioned the "Art of Making Love". Most people lose interest in their mate after physical changes that bring about seeking the "athletic build type" on the outside; can you still feel passionate about "the Art of Making Love" to your mate if he gained a few pounds over the years without prejudice to the change?
ReplyDeleteWTH shouldn't "good gurls" go to the strip club with her man? It makes for one hell of a night. I have always believed in pleasing my man. And trying new things is one of them. I have never tried anything I didn't enjoy just as much as he did. The thing is NEVER try anything you don't think you will like.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous,
ReplyDeleteNever did I say good gurls couldn't go to Strip clubs, I just wanted to know what you were thinking when you did! I commend you for trying new things. IF you read my earlier post, I feel a woman should do whatever she's comfortable with and whatever deemed necessary to keep her man where he needs to be mentally with her. In this life, we get one, maybe two true shots at happiness, when you find that "great shot," protect that investment by growing and sharing together. You will always feel more rewarded this way. COMMUNICATIONS IS THE KEY !!
Thank you truly for stopping by and offering an opinion on our topic.
H. Williams, MBA
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ReplyDeleteTo Byron,
ReplyDeleteI can only speak from my own experience and yes, I can still feel passionate about "the Art of Making Love" as my partner physically changes because I don't see and feel with my eyes, I see and feel with my heart and mind when it comes to making love as well as the relationship. As I mentioned in a previous blog, it is a mental connection with me that flows into the physical. When feeling that connection I desire to give of myself so my partner may have the most pleasurable experience possible from what I feel deep in my core. But there has to be that mental connection!!
Thanks for your personal insight to my question and mental stimulation is important for me as well. Thanks again
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