Bloggers Have More Fun......... Since that is the case, I am still using your questions to help stimulate the minds of the masses. Keeping with that spirit, the latest question to darken the doorstep of my email address Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com is ............
"What exactly is Romance?" Everyone talks about it, but few still practice sincerely indulging in making their mate blissfully happy! So Hurchel, ask everyone to start their answer like so; Romance to Me is....?
Come on everyone, let's explore this topic. This is one that is close to my own heart, so I will start out simple and let you guys go from there!
H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
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Romance to Me is a nice candlelight dinner with wine or champagne with fresh fruit in the bottom glass, milk chocolate and white chocolate covered stawberries and fresh pineapples, a nice hot bubble bath together with soft music playing. Good conversation, alot of foreplay and endless love making the rest of the night. And to finish the romantic night would be breakfast in bed followed by some morning love making. This would be one of the things that I would say is Romance to Me.
ReplyDeleteRomance to me is very simple,
ReplyDeleteIt's the thoughts I keep to myself as I watch you walk throughout our space. It's watching you in your underwear; watching you put your face back on when I have meticulously helped remove it! It's the look you give me when you're being pleasured but can't produce a sound because you are overtaken with erotic bliss! It's looking down in your face as I stare from above. Finally, it's the feeling of total satisfaction as you lay in my arms and I twirl my fingers through your hair! Your face says it all, with closed eyes and comfort, you say, "Job Well Done!"
H. Williams, MBA
What "being romantic" means varies widely from person to person, but at its core, romance involves doing something to express affection in a meaningful yet unexpected way. A true act of romance requires creativity and sincerity, often inspired by love (either its presence or its possibility). While harboring affection for someone might be easy, translating it into romance usually is not. There are millions of romantic ideas in books, movies and on the Internet, but true romance comes from within.
ReplyDeleteRomance is not "one-size-fits-all." The stereotypical icons of romance (roses, candles and chocolate) can only go so far. Think about what really gets that special someone excited. Recognize what makes your partner unique, and find/do things for them that only they would appreciate. What are their quirky (perhaps secret) interests, obsessions and fantasies? Whenever they're shopping, talking, or watching a movie, what makes their eyes light up? Pay attention! Being romantic means acknowledging how special a person is, and that means demonstrating that you know--better than anyone else in the world--what makes them unique.
Many forget to focus on the little things. Romance can be practiced every day, and it doesn't have to be expensive or grand. In fact, sometimes the most romantic moments are simple, spontaneous and free. There are millions of ways to say "I love you" and "I'm lucky to have you." Think of the world as your medium. You can write it, say it, sculpt it, look it, hide it, shout it, paint it, kiss it, fold it, grow it, touch it, and express it in unlimited ways. Couples should make it a habit to find a new way to be romantic every day by being creative and having fun with it!
Romance should never feel like a chore or work.
Romance to me is being able to catch your mate or person of interest off guard and enjoy the reaction.....Tanya, Author and Babygirl, those are great pointers to build upon....thanks for sharing
ReplyDeleteThanks Byron!
ReplyDeleteRomance is what you made up of it. There's millions of ways to keep the romance flowing in your relationship. If you want candy, roses, candlelight that's the mood you wanted to set. If you wanted a long walk on the beach and making love under the star that what you wanted. If you wanted to give your man a damn good head job while he's driving that's what you wanted to do. If you wanted to drive to the park in the rain and have sex in the rain that's want you wanted to do. That's the mood that was set for all the above and more to take place. Romance isn't planning when to be romantic it's making every moment your together romantic one way or another...
ReplyDeleteRomance for me is being in a state of bliss. Romance is the mental & physical seduction of the mind and body of the one you adore. I love unexpected & unplanned acts of love. It's that warm & fuzzy feeling of togetherness.
ReplyDeleteRomance for me is:
ReplyDeleteThe little things that he notices, sometimes expressing his feelings and sometimes not but you can tell by the look on his face that he is enjoying what he sees and is thinking. When he stops in mid sentence of what he is saying just to tell you he likes your new haircut or noticing your new nails, studying your hand in silence as he holds it in his. Showing that he cares about the little things, enjoys beauty and enjoys you.
Knowing that because of him you want to be a better you!!
Making love is just a piece of what romance is to me. It is everything that leads up to it and if it ends in making love good or ends in just cuddling together that is fine too.
To Tanya, Latoya, Babygirl, Byron, and Cindy Lou,
ReplyDeleteAll of you seem to stick with the "unspoken" theme, which is romance is 100% mental and is best administered at the hands of individuals that truly want to put effort before self! Romance, for many years, was thought to be physical love with a hint of creativity but we are now learning, Romance could simply mean, I thought about you in a seductive way! I think everyone should make it their business to express self through love and then try to communicate in a non-verbal way until complete satisfaction is achieved. Thanks to all of you for sharing.
H. Williams, MBA
Wow....Romance!!! A subject close to my heart, body and soul……I am gonna go back in time for a minute…..when I was married. My husband did not know how to romance. His thoughts on romance was buying me a gift…now don’t get me wrong..I love gifts!!! But, I would have loved it more if he could have done something spontaneous!! So, that was a short lived marriage. After my marriage, me and my girlfriends were sitting down talking and we all agreed that romance has left so many relationships and marriages. We began brainstorming as what we do….I came up with an idea to start a catering business..”Just for 2”….that business took us places that we never imagined!!!!! We were able to be creative and imaginative…we saved relationships and marriages. Just allowing the couples to sit, talk and be in an atmosphere that showed how to romance your mate!!!
ReplyDeleteSaying that, many people do not know how to accept romance because they do not know how to romance…Romance is simple! It is love affair, physical love and spirit of adventure!!! I have always chosen the spirit of adventure. I love to romance….whenever anyone that I am interested in, I believe that displaying romance in the beginning, it provides the foundation in which you want to build.
So ladies and gentlemen….Romance your mate…shoot for that starr!!!
Hey everyone...as I closed out my post something else came to mind....when I relocated I met this man who was very distinctive….yeah I will say that. For the privacy of parties involved I will call him “Other”. Other and I became very united in ways that I would have never imagined. Speaking on the romance topic……I or should I say we romanced “Other”….me and one of my girlfriends. Other said he wanted to see me with another woman. So my friend was flown in from another state to make this happen. OMG!!!! It not only happened once but twice. The time that I really remember was around my birthday and we went to the city…..Had gotten a room at a very elegant hotel. A romantic hotel. I and my girlfriend had really wanted to make this night special and romantic. We bought special outfits to wear for the evening…we had special music for the evening…we had special treats for the evening and we had a special time that evening. We wanted this night to remember for all parties involved. We had a very sexual night…me and her….her and me…..me and Other….her and Other…..!!!! It was my birthday and I wanted to celebrate but making sure that everyone was satisfied. I have done three-some’s before, but this was special…all parties were connected….that was a very romantic evening…We shared all aspects of ROMANCE……it was a love affair, there was physical love and definitely a spirit of adventure!!!
ReplyDeleteFrom "Other" to Anonymous" I am the "Other" referenced above!!!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the call and allowing me to expound on that amazing evening as well. Let me say this, to be invited to enjoy, participate, and completely indulge in a fantasy that came to life was a dream come true! You said a mouthful when you spoke of how amazing that evening was. Both of you put everything into what you were doing and to really see two women enjoy each other through love and touch placed my heart on the edge of my sleeves! To this day, I still think of that moment as one of the few that defined how am man and woman (or 2) should explore one another. Kissing, rubbing, hugging, touching, and sight took the breath of this man away. If I would have died the next day and called it a life, I would have worn a smile in my casket! 2 Beautiful women took me to the edge of where sex becomes erotic and then elevated me "Star"dom! Few ever experience ROMANCE the way the 3 of us did that night. If memories were a crime, all 3 of us would be serving a life sentence!
Thanks for Sharing .......
H. Williams, MBA (LMAO)
Romance is really an emotional attraction, not necessarily the material items. The material items are just a vehicle that people use to express that emotion to another person. It's that shared feeling you get when you don't want to be without the other person. It is that genuine sncerity that you really care for another person on a higher level an their shared acknowledgement of that feeling.
ReplyDeleteTo Other AKA Anatomy of a Cheater.....yes you were that man. Thanks for allowing me into you world and I always welcome you into mine!!!
ReplyDeleteAnonymous,
ReplyDeleteYou were one of the few that took "woman-hood" to the next level. 2 Pretty-gurls = pure passion of huge proportion! I was the student that night, or should I say each time she made her "landing" in our portion of the country. Every time the wheels of her plane touched our community, she brought the fireworks and you added the "match!" I was just a squirrel who kept gathering some "well-" you know how the saying goes!
H. Williams, MBA
Well....you were able to gather much for us. If I must say...that was beautiful relationship.....open.....open....open!!! That was some anatomy going on!!
ReplyDeleteAnonymous Ma'am,
ReplyDeletethe whole "Method to the Madness" about The Anatomy of a Cheater Franchise" is to uncover the uniqueness that makes everyone different! If we listen to each other, you will be able to find what you seek in the "man" you seek it in. The keys are transparency, truth, and COMMUNICATION! The 3 of us were total adults with one purpose in mind; "smiles through exploration!"
H. Williams, MBA
Anatomy Sir......exactly!!! We were able to talk openly about our desires, wishes and fantasy's!!! I listened you very carefully with open ears...not just my physical ears but my unique and inner ears.....being able to accept what one says and being able to accept what one does......Open doors..I may peek or I may enter....
ReplyDeleteAnonymous Ma'am,
ReplyDeleteI know it's been years since we have broached this subject, and what a place to do it, but here in this forum. You have just given me an idea for a topic one day. I would like to get 2 individuals together that are from one another's past and have them openly and honestly discuss the ups and downs of who they are. We learn by doing, and when we KNOW better, we DO better. Come Friday, I will hit the bit 4 (four) O (Zero) and I always told myself, with that age, comes wisdom of self. By the time you are 40, you have seen all of the situations that life can put you in, NOW, it's time to learn from those situations and not repeat the wrong where someone else had to suffer! When the 3 of us "rolled in the hay" there were NO hidden agendas! We all understood the importance of taking something away from our "Dance!" If more people started their journey with the "end" in mind, I promise you, intimacy would take on a new approach.
I sincerely thank you for opening your heart and the minds of our bloggers tonight!
H. Williams, MBA
Romance are those thoughts of singing a song, writing a letter or poem just doing something out of the norm.....nothing to cause a storm but to hold you close and warn..... Maybe I'll swim the Egyptian Nile to see you smile.... My heart is true as I pay homage to you......
ReplyDeleteThe above is what romance is to me without prejudice or motive...I love creating feel good moments that are everlasting and must admit enjoy hearing of them this day......we control how we make ourselves and mates feel...some are traditional and others like different and delve deeper into the desire for that pleasure ........ we must meet our mates where they are and create within that frame if will.....romance always should be clever and passionate at each level of sexual engagement as well as maintaining the relationship....your posts were very engaging and thanks for reading mine and remember to do something romantic for your mate or person of interest
I meant warm
ReplyDeleteByron, it's invigorating to see a man who is in touch with his "feminine" senses, if you will! Since I know you and your Mode of Operation, I know you practice the definition of what you preach. As we age, we understand the importance of educating the masses to love self through sharing experiences. If you know love, you share love; if you understand romance, you live romance! I can't say this enough.....Seek FIRST to understand, then to be understood! I keep quoting Stephen Covey's 5 habit because it's so powerful. And....habit #2 Begin with the end in mind! Both of those principals put you in the mindset of thinking about someone else FIRST, that's very important!
ReplyDeleteThanks for droppin your fishing line of KNOWLEDGE in our pond!
H. Williams, MBA
Lol well said Sir
ReplyDeleteRomance is the thought a person puts into satisfying you sexually and mentally.I once drove a country mile to experience that very feeling. I met him a life time ago in the 4th grade and he kept a candle lit in his heart for me every since that meeting. When I saw him again I knew that we would become one physically and hoped for emotionally. Well we accomplished both! The sex was mindblowing for both of us,we connected mentally as if we knew each for years. I knew that being with him I would never leave dissatisfied cause he crafted the art of romance way back in the 4th grade!!!!!
ReplyDeleteOh MY God.....
ReplyDeleteIt must be an evening of memory lane. I think I just might know who you are as well! Sometimes, I am able to pick up on key words and phrases and because I try to understand all the aspects of rolling in the hay, I keep a piece of others inside so long after the act has subsided. This must be the evening of smiles and romance. In life, my goal is to always leave a mark because by doing that, the feeling is so NOT like Monopoly....you don't just pass go and collect your $200.00, rather you want to pull the orange card and take a "Chance" at feeling like a million bucks. AND, if for some reason the race is a bit overwhelming, intermissions are there for us to catch our breath. As children, we carry crushes for many different reasons, for you Ma'am, it was because of your alluring smile from across the room. I am going to make our meeting in 4th grade famous. All they have to do is go to my website and take a "glance" at where you appear!
Thanks for stopping by and opening your mouth just enough to let "you" eek out!
H. Williams, MBA
Anytime sir!
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