Dear Mr. Anatomy,
I know this is the blog that will get me some results, and right now, results is exactly what's needed. I am a Pediatrician in the Greater D.C. area. I have been practicing here since I got out of school and joined a group. Well, when I was going through school and my residency, there was really not a lot of time for dating. However, now that I am working, doing my thing and "SINGLE" I am ready to mingle and get it on, so to say. Well, my problem is, I am dating this guy I met in church. We have a lot of the same values, similar occupations, and comfort level. The problem is, it's been 3 months and "tha brother" can't take a hint. I am trying desperately to seduce him but he is taking this gentleman thing just a little too far. Mr. Anatomy, I have read your book based on a co-worker's recommendation, and let me tell you, the naughtiness in THAT book has me hotter than ever! Mr. Question is......
Ma'am, thank you for bringing your question to our forum. I will definitely give you my assessment but not before our bloggers have had their chance. I will address you as Dr. Hot-Pants from hence forward! Please stay close to the blog the next 3 days to answer any questions my bloggers may have of you!
Hurchel Williams, MBA
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I'm sorry to have.to suggest this, but, yes this brother is gay! again its just my assumption based on the info you've provided. Seriously though, you may want to try and engage him in some conversation that would suggest just what you have on your mind. Some men do need a little coaxing. Also, as a side nite, have you met any of this guys friends, I mean the male and female friends, mainly, I'm concerned that if you haven't met any of his guy friends then he's definitely hiding something and it just very well may be that he'sgay...
ReplyDeleteI don't think he's gay but he might not be ready. Then u have to think that he might not be getting your hints. So u could just stop hinting around b straight forward. Also u say u met him in church..... Could it be that because of his religion he's not doing the sex b4 marriage thing?
ReplyDeleteI am just concerned that something else is going on. He spent the night one night and whenever he had to change, he went in the bathroom and closed the door. I was like, "really!" I dropped my housecoat right in front of the bed, and when we cuddled, I spooned him, and not the other way around. I laid there in a hot bed of lust. In your book Mr. Anatomy, you said sometimes men get sex from elsewhere while they are breaking you down. (Terri, remember) Do y'all think this could be the case with him?
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Well Dr. HP smile yes I too believe he I'd gay or St the very least just not sexually attracted to you. However you only gave us your feelings we really need a past situation between the two of you in order for us to give a good account of what we think is going on. Patiently waiting ............
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ReplyDeleteOk.... (Clearing my throat)! He is not gay! Lets break the story down you met him at church and you share similar values. Delete the occupation and comfort level part because those are separate. If he has a value system then it may mean he is a true gentleman and wants to approach you based on what he sees in you. He may see a lady who he does not want to lose by coming on strongly, he may see a lady who gets hit on by everyone because of her profession so to not be taken lightly he has pumped the brakes. I laugh when women say they want a good guy but when they get one who does not sex them immediately they shun him off them get pissed when six months later he is engaged and they are still single. I think if you really like him then wait just as women say if he likes me I am worth his wait!
ReplyDeleteOK OK y'all Miss Thang is chiming in! Everyone knows my blog ebonyheights.org is down and dirty, but I keep it real. Dr. Hot Pants closed mouths don't get feed. Your a grown woman so act like it. Go after what you want, but remember communication is key. If you have not had a discussion about what you both want out of this relationship. How does he know that you want to Fuck if your playing guessing games. When it comes to sex it is best to be straight forward. It doesn't means he's gay it just means that maybe he looks at you in a certain light and doesn't want to jeopardize the possibility of something beautiful. If your just looking for a fuck maybe this is not the Guy for you.
ReplyDeleteSexual compatibility is one of the most important factors in any relationship. Even if either of you want to wait to have sex you should be atleast discussing it, expectations, desires, what ever. I suggest you just talk about it. By having open conversation, you 1. open the door to the possibility, 2. get a feel for where he is with you, and 3. gives you an idea if you really want to venture that way. You two may not be into the same things. Thats something you should know before having sex. I'm a little old fashion when it comes to who makes the first move. I always think the man should be the first when it comes to first incounter. Once the first time is over then aggressiveness on the females part has its place. Discussion can be initiated by either parties. Its really up to you how you want this relationship to move forward. Knowing him better is a place to start
ReplyDeleteIs he a virgin? This man might We can't assume that every man we meet is interested in jumping our bones. He might honestly have a lot of respect for you and want to make sure that the time is right before going there. Sex can mess up a good thing if done at the wrong time. Maybe he's trying to make sure that he's prepared to go there with you. Then, he may also be fighting temptation. But for your sake, I really hope he's not gay because that will warrant a different response from me :RUN! P.S. when you spooned, you couldn't feel anything? Girl you better use those senses that God blessed us with and do some searching. I can figure out in one encounter if a man is webe trying to save his royal penis for marriage! *disregard last sentence: I meant well packaged lol
ReplyDeleteNo she spooned him. not him spoon her Vyktoria Newman
ReplyDeleteThanks Leslie. Ok now I'm worried....
ReplyDeleteWow I'm truly shocked at the stances being taken here. Next blog!
ReplyDeleteHurchel has to comment first right?
ReplyDeleteNope I just hear bs in the responses. When the man gives the woman the sex and less of the love she gripes but when he seeks to possibly take his time to sex her brain and not just her body he is gay. She doesn't want a man she wants sex. She should be real about her expectations. There are plenty if men who would rock her world and care less about her values. I'm just saying
ReplyDeleteI write fiction I chose not to live it. A duck is a dang duck....
ReplyDeleteI understand but the basis of the blog is that we don't judge the person bringing the question forth or the people responding.....she is looking for answers as to how to handle her unique situation. #IJS
ReplyDeleteI'm not judging her. I have been her. My lol came from the responses that he is gay, small penis etc. I'm saying she should reevaluate what she wants at this stage. It sound like she needs some get right and not mr right
ReplyDeleteI apparently get judged each blog and I will continue to tell them how I feel. Unfortunately, Jesus didn't make us all with the same thought process.
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure that Tanya Angelique fully understands they way you run your blog Author Hurchel Williams
ReplyDeleteWe let them have it on this group! Lol
ReplyDeleteDear Ms. Hot-Pants,
ReplyDeleteYou truly don't have a dilemma, you may have just run into a gentleman with morals. Maybe he is still trying to figure out what it is he wants with you. Now, I fully understand that you guys went to bed and cuddled/spooned but all men are not beast.... YET! You need to talk to him openly about his sex life, past women, etc. I have heard horror stories about forced sex or sex too early. I have always been an advocate of letting life take its own course. When I was younger, my best friend in high school forced his girlfriend's hand after she told him wait until the next week. Well, we were young and he was horny; let's just say, he went down and got his red-wings, and they weren't shoes! Point, let him come around at his own pace and communicate with him openly about what you want. You never know what his hold up could be, but it may shock you. Proceed with caution. There was another story like this with one of our bloggers from ATL, I will send him an email and ask that he comes on and share his story for you. His issue was, as he put it, he stayed in the brains line too long and when it was time to get his "extended anatomy" they had ran out. Women, is it truly the size of the ship, or the motion in the ocean?
Mr. Anatomy = Hurchel Williams, MBA
I say appreciate the gentlemen! It will come in due time. YOu never know what battle that he may battling and may not be comfortable. Give him some time you may find out that something may have happened to him that causes him to take his time. Good Luck girl, I understand the feeling. Pray about it! LOL Dance Walk somethingYou never know, he may have HIV and don't know how to break it to you. Wait on him.
ReplyDeleteHOLE UP WAIT A MINUTE!!! SOMEBODY DONE TOLD SISTA MA'AM WRONG!!! Glad u were here Monique to regulate!!! Bet they gotta say 37 hail Mary's to comment on dat blog!!! Geesh Louise!!!!!!! I STILL SAY THE PALLYWACKER IS LIL!!!!!
ReplyDeleteSherita ,Author Hurchel Williams, is like Hugh Heffner and we are THE BUNNIES you know we gone hold this blog down cause in reality they must be what ANATOMY APPROVED LUV U GUY'S. We not changing what works! !!!!!
ReplyDeleteStop playin Author!!! Even if the motion is there you gotta have a damn buoy or SOMETHING??????
ReplyDeleteI say just have an open conversation with him about it and see what his thoughts are. He may not be ready for what you are wanting from him.
ReplyDeleteOkay this is my in put Sista.... See we ask for a man to loves us, respect us, and treat us kind etc.......y'all get my point. But as soon as they don't jump our bones when we want them to we say they gay, or have a Lil wee wee and all of that. Respect the fact that he has morals. He has a profession that he may not want to sleep around either. What you should do is be patient or keep it movin. Because if he was talking about getting in your panties before you were ready you would be pissed. Men have feelings too!!! But I would ask to his wee wee just in case it's not worth waiting for!!! Lol
ReplyDeletelmao....y'all too stoopid....but I do understand. me, myself, I like the lil pallywackers myself. I wanna keep my ovaries until they get too old to work, not have them pushed around like a bully in the playground. to each her own though, and the lady doc may just be hormonal. btw, Lady Doc when you were cuddling and spooning, did he even get an erection that you noticed?
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