Dear Mr. Anatomy,
My life is spiraling out of control, and I have little to do to stop it. I have been working as an escort unbeknownst to my mother and father for about 6 months. The other day, the guy who helps me maneuver through the maze of this lifestyle told me I am committed to him for another year based on what he has provided for me. I walked away because I don't like this and it's too much for me. I went to my pastor and reached out for his help. He was so supportive and went to my "sponsor" and asked if he will let me out of this unwritten, unspoken contract. My supporter didn't want any problems with the church or exposure in my small town so he agreed to release me. However, he called me 2 days ago and offered me one last "hook up" and says it's a major client that is coming to town for a church convention and area revival. To my surprise, the person he is trying to get me to see is a part of the group that is coming to lead the convention for all the churches in the area. Lord, how did I get mixed up in all of this. I'm 23 years old, and was just trying to get money to help me through college. My Question is .......
First and foremost, let's call your "supporter" what he is; a PIMP? Now, with that said, I have too much to say about this topic, but as always, I will let my bloggers chime in first before I render my opinion. I will address you as Young and Confused from this point forward. Please remain available for any question my bloggers may have.
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ReplyDeleteChile please, yu need to stop and stop it now. I dont know why you are involving the Pastor in this mess....unless you are trying to replace the attention of one authoriative figure (the pimp) with another (the pastor). You already know the answer. 1. Stop taking calls from someone you claim you are tryig to break away from 2. find something else to talk to the pastor about ....communicating with this pimp is supposed to be over 3. admit to yourself that you loved the money and the attention of that lifestyle and get yourself some counseling to fill those voids 4. address your daddy issues
ReplyDeleteIf you are leaving the lifestyle then why do you feel the need to expose anyone else. You should leave everything behind if you are truly done with that way of living. It is not up to you to inform your Pastor on anything that someone else is doing. In the end the truth will come out and you won't have to expose anything. Something is telling me that you want to take the light off of you and your problem, by exposing someone else so you won't have the title of the bad guy. The truth of the matter is you are not a bad indiviual. You made the best choice for you at the time. You learn and you grew asa person. Let your past stay in the past and all the indiviuals in it.
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Dear Young and Confused,
ReplyDeletePray and ask God to show you what you need to do, then do it!! God is faithful in answering prayers!! You will know when He gives you the direction of what you are supposed to do!! Stop taking calls from the "PIMP" and change your phone number, plain and simple. My prayers are with you!! Remember "the truth shall set you free" and that is always so!!!
You all are true,my need for associating with my supporter was strictly for money and a better lifestyle. I came up hard and I got tired of seeing others have things that I couldn't afford and I willed myself to get past the shame and hurt of what I was doing. My friend from college told me he would protect me and show me a better way of "gettin it" as he called it. Well, here I am, lost, shame of myself, and broke. I went to my pastor because he has been an authority figure in my life since I was a little girl. The only reason I even thought of telling him is because of what he said to me in my confession session with him. God has a way of exposing things and sometimes the outcomes aren't nice. Hebrews 10: 22-23 "Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, with our hearts sprinkled clean from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure water. Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for he who promised is faithful." I thought that scripture meant I should share the truth. I don't know, I am just confused. I was hoping I saw that first lady on here or someone with a strong spiritual background could give me a voice of reason.
ReplyDeleteI know better, but sometimes, I just don't do right! Thank you Ms. Cindy Lou. Ms. Leslie, I am a woman.
Babygirl let me just say this, the trouble you are having is trouble that you have made for yourself. I'm not talking down to you or trying to put you down, we've all done some shameful things in our lives that did to get by.now that you are stepping out on Faith, you have to fully trust God in this intervening process. One thing that you said was that you wanted out of dealing with your pimp, a spade is a spade all day everyday, but then you say he offered you one last hookup. The fact that you mentioned it is indicative that you are giving it considerable thought. I WOULD NOT DO THIS IF I WERE YOU!!!!!! THIS IS A TRAP!!!!!!! YOU COULD LOSE YOUR LIFE OF YOU DO THIS” ONE LAST DATE”!!!!!!!!!! Men have an issue with their pride...if they feel like they own something or someone they will do everything in their power to control that. This man has been exposed by you to your pastor, a person that he thought he had the respect of, and he is angry about that, because he is a pimp first and foremost. Which means that he doesn't respect the rights of others in the first place. To ask you to do one last hookup is evidence of his lack of respect for you. The man is setting you up sweetheart! The best thing for you to do is to talk with your pastor and ask him to help you find a real job. Things may not be great in the beginning financially, but at least you will have started some where. I would hate to pick up the paper and read about some 23 year old woman found dead after meeting with a stranger. And the one last date could very well be with this pimp that you say you want to end it with, they do that every day, it's in their nature to be vindictive when they feel like they have been scorned. For your own sake, leave this life alone and let the people who want to be in it, live it. Now if this is the life you want to live it, and you might, don't complain about the beatings, rapings and other forms of abuse that coincide with this type of. You won't get a response from me or my sympathy.
ReplyDeleteI can tell that you have many things that you wish to achieve, such as obtaining a degree from a university. However, I must say that sometimes WE all can get so caught up in material gain. Never lose sight of who you are for anyone or anything! It's great to know that you trust your spiritual leader enough to help you through this matter. Now that you've fostered that trust, please know that he has your best interest at heart. I would personally speak with him in an effort to a) keep him in the now and b)show him that you're actively trying to do better. As fat as college, you have a number of options available to you to finance your educational career. Just know your worth and don't let that man or anyone else take you to a level where you have to feel the way that you're feeling now. May God bless you and guide you along your way!
ReplyDeleteDear Young and Confused,
ReplyDeleteThe voice of reason is God's voice!! He is the only one that can give you direction that will be right. He can do that through scripture and by you learning to hear His voice. Christianity is all about a personal relationship with God. The good book says my children shall know my voice. Seek Him with all your heart and I guarantee you will find Him and your answers. God wants you to know Him on a more intimate level. This is a season of growing spiritually. What you are brought to God will get you through. As I said earlier, the truth shall set you free. Speak to your pastor. Prayerfully think about mentioning the man in the leadership because that could just be a ploy of the ole devil and a lie that he is speaking. As Vyktoria said speak to your pastor and do it on a regular basis. There are some situations that we just have to walk through trusting God!
I would like to add that we all have skeletons in our closet but God is the best closet cleaner ever. He will remove those ole dry bones and fill you with a sweet aroma of love. There is name shame or condemnation for those who are in Christ dear!
ReplyDeleteThere is *no shame or ... (Autocorrect on phone ugh)
ReplyDeleteDear Ms. Young and Confused,
ReplyDeleteEveryone here has given you an earful of great advice, so I will try to close out this segment with my advice and a warning. You did the right thing by going to someone who you felt comfortable with and who you have a history with, your pastor. I seriously commend your pastor for being strong enough and courageous enough to make that step towards your PIMP and set him straight. Sometimes, what we can't do, we can always count on a man of GOD to take care of. My warning, stay away from those who mean you NO good will. You need to surround yourself with positive people and atmospheres of where you get your help. When you know better, you have to do a lot better to keep you on your path towards greatness. By NO means should you tell your pastor of your speculation of what his contingency may or may not do. First and foremost, I have a feeling, your PIMP is just trying to cause problems for you and the church so who's to say he is even believable? Let that go and let GOD deal with a potential problem. I appreciate you bringing your question here.
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