And YOU wonder why We do what We do .... Question of the Day?

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Mr. Anatomy,

I come to you with a heavy heart because in life, you always want to feel you have change inside of you. My story; I went away on a white collar crime for the duration of about 18 months. While away, I did some soul searching and had a long walk with myself about my past transgressions with women. I am a "Preacher's Kid" that always found joy in the pleasure of not just one woman, but the honesty in dating multiples. After my short stint away, I decided I would have a new lease on life, find one woman, and make her my world. As advertised, I did just that. Got a great job, worked my way up the ladder, and asked a lady of my dreams to marry me and currently we are engaged. We have been dating for 2 years, but engaged for 1 and recently, my mindset took a left turn. I was asked to lead a team to open a new restaurant in the Midwest so I left my "Atl" roots for about a month, while I dug deep into my career. Fiance' and I had an understanding, as NOW, we actually live together under one roof. While I was away, it seems the "Cat" wanted to play. The other night, while assisting my heavily intoxicated fiance' into bed, I was a gent and plugged her phone up on charge for the evening. When I did, a message notification popped up from her (Lesbian) co-worker wishing her a good night. Well, I did what I had NEVER done before and dug a little deeper into previous text messages. Low and behold, one read, "Look at me talking to you like we have never "P-lucked" before! To which my lady answered, "Yes we did, and it was good, and YOU know it's yours to have again!" My first reaction was to awake my drunk fiance' and get to the bottom of this, but I sat there and stared at her for what seemed like an eternity! When I finally came to terms with this, and questioned her, she said, "I thought you would be Okay with it, shit, it was a girl!" And I thought, "yeah, a Butch, at that!" My question is ............

"Should I feel bad about awakening the sleeping GIANT in myself again? I tried it the right way, and it seems I was kicked in the nuts like a do-good-er!" I feel disrespected and Bitch-slapped! I am about to do me again!


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It wasn't Even About Me........Naughty or Nice! Question of the Day...

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Dear Mr. Anatomy,
I had an amazing weekend where your slogan, "Adults do what Adults want to do" came into play. I traveled out of town to work and do some training. Lately, my life has been a microcosm of one up and down after another. I am a young person who has had to grow up and be a woman in every sense of the word. My relationship, while less than perfect, is just that, my relationship and somewhere between I-Do, and playing housewife, I have lost the very essence of how a woman should feel. Today, I played sexy-bad-gurl and I feel wonderful about it. In the course of 24 hours, I was in bed with 2 different men, neither of which were my husband and for once in my life, I feel rejuvenated! One man was a co-worker from a different area, while the other was an important VIP I know from the community. The first may have been expected because of innocent flirting that finally blossomed into an evening, but the other took me by surprise because it wasn't supposed to happen with this stoic, poker faced individual......but was WONDERFUL on all accounts. I guess my question is,

"Should a person ever have to make excuses for what happens in their life? While I don't ever expect this weekend to be repeated. Is there a lesson to be learn from my walk on the wild side?"

Ma'am, as always, I would like to thank you for bringing your question to our forum. I have an answer for you, but not before my bloggers give you an intuitive spin on your question. From hence forward, I will address you as "Mrs. Attention" as we discuss this openly and look for an answers to your question.

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He left me when I thought he LOVED me ..... Our Question of the Day...

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Dear Mr. Anatomy, 
My life is spiraling out of control and I need a helping hand from you and your followers. I have been dating the same guy for over 6 years. We have invested in each other's lives from the very beginning and  we continued to love and respect each other right up until we decided to get married. He asked me to marry him in front of my family and his and together, we've been planning a wedding since last summer. However, in December we had a big fight about money and our priorities for the future. While I didn't think it was that big of a deal, he cancelled our engagement and started spending time at his best friends house because he said he needed some space to sort through his feelings. I was still seeing him and having sex.  In January, seeing him regularly became seeing him early in the week, and not on weekends! Then, out of no where, I didn't see him for one whole week. I called and called, but got no answer. Then, last Saturday, he finally returned my call and said something that has caused me to cry everyday, and take a leave of absence from work, as I type this to you. This Mother^#*ker said I got drunk and got married in Vegas!! Bullshit, I said....... Mr. Anatomy, my question is......

"Are men truly that heartless and cruel to leave one relationship for another and get MARRIED? How do I move forward when I am in deep depression from the hurt and shame?"

Ma'am, I am so sorry this has happened to you, but I see this as a sign of the times in relationships. Before I give you my spin, I will allow my bloggers to crack this open and share their views. From hence forward, I will refer to you as "Ms. Heartbroken." Please remain available for any questions my followers my have for you. 

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Should I Tell before He Does? ..... Our Question of the Day...

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Dear Mr. Anatomy,
As we all do, I have a past, and mine is a bit checkered. 5 years ago, I was up against hard times and I started to sell my services as an escort in the rather large city I live in. I had a select few clients and I was always safe and discreet with all that I did. I was a single woman, without children and I always went to remote places. I haven't done anything like that for about a year now because I have my stuff together, a new man, and a great new job. I told all my clients that I have retired, so to say, so please don't contact me. Well, the other night, while at a business function with my new boyfriend, he introduced me to his boss. When his boss turned to shake my hand, I and he instantly realized we knew one another from my escorting days. My expression said it all, and when my boyfriend asked, I blatantly lied because I didn't know what else to say. Since I knew this man intimately, I told my boyfriend I knew him from church vaguely, but didn't offer anymore information beyond that. Every since that night, I have had an uneasy feeling about lying to my boyfriend. We have been open and honest about "most" things in our relationship, but being and escort has been hidden very deep inside me! My Question is ......

"Should I come clean about my past? Or leave it buried where it is. I am a completely different woman, but if my boyfriend finds out, I want it to be from me!"

Ma'am, thank you for bringing you issue to our forum. I will give your question my full attention, but not until after my bloggers, and followers have had a chance to chime in. From hence forward, I will refer to you as "Ms. Escort." Please remain available for any questions my bloggers may have of you.

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Will the RING make things Change???? Our Question of the Day!

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Mr. Anatomy,
I didn't know if you were still accepting questions for your blog, but I am in need of your services in the worst way! I have been with my current boyfriend for about 3 years. Our relationship has been riddled with lies, deceit and some infidelity on both sides. I admit, I have stepped out too, but as a woman, I only ventured out because my boyfriend was not giving me the attention I needed. In the last year, however, we have both settled down and have gotten our relationship to a point where we both feel love has heeled our woes. But, Mr. Anatomy, yesterday, we went to the Obama Inauguration and at dinner last night, my boyfriend proposed to me in front of friends, family, and his work colleagues. I accepted but last night, while having sex, I couldn't help but stare at the ceiling and wonder, "is this really what I want?" I guess my question is ......

"After all this relationship has been through, will Marriage change our past and keep us moving in the right direction?"

Ma'am, I apologize, but I have been slacking heavily on my blog site due to heavy commitments in other areas of the "Anatomy Franchise" but my blog is what brought me the most notoriety so I will never totally abandon my roots. As for your question, I will allow my bloggers to take control and give you their opinion before offering my ideas at a later time. Please stay available for any questions my bloggers may have. We will address you as Ms. Engaged from hence forward.

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A Not so "Merry" Christmas for me... .Our Question of the Day....

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Mr. Anatomy,
Will you PLEASE post this question for me. I have a huge dilemma and have no clear answer in sight. I am a 27 year old man, and before I go into graphic detail, I know your followers are going to judge me as if this has never happened to anyone else. I have a girlfriend who I have lived with for over 3 years and we share a son together. Well, I have been cheating with a married woman who I met on my seasonal job at UPS. She called me last night and told me she has an STD and blamed her husband once she found out what it was. She said she took a chance that he was cheating, not really knowing what he would say but he apologized and they have both been treated. Now, I have to be treated to clear my drain pipe too. My question is ..........

"How the hell do I tell my "unsuspecting" Girlfriend/baby Momma that I may be carrying a STD without confessing I am cheating?" What my other lady did with her husband won't work on my lady cause I know she is faithful!! 

Oh what a web we weave.........! I definitely have a solution to your problem in more ways than one, but first, I will allow my dedicated bloggers to have a crack at solving your problem. From this point forward, we will address you as "Mr. Insensitive." Please remain available for any questions my bloggers may have of you! 


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Why Is Love So Hard ....... Our Question of the Day.....?

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Mr. Anatomy,
I recently got a divorce from my husband after an up and down relationship of 10 years. I loved that man with all I had. I loved him through poverty, I loved him through infidelity, and most of all, I loved him through the loss of his parents which ultimately changed his life for the better. At the end of this relationship, I got all big and bad and demanded a divorce and he reluctantly granted me my wishes. Now, it's been a year and although I have started dating again, and have a full time man, I can't get my ex-husband out of my head. When he comes over to get the kids to take them back to his house with his new lady, I completely breakdown inside. When I make love to my boyfriend, I can't help but see my ex and that helps me complete the task at hand. (LMAO) My Question is.......

"How do I move forward and put my life back together when I can't stop thinking about my past. I was a fool for moving forward, but what's done is done, right? I miss that man sooooo much!" 

Ma'am, there is a song that describes your dilemma, "When you Tryin to Love Two"  and that is how I will explain your issue but, I have some more words for you. I have to let my bloggers have you first and I will come back with my advice. Please stay available for any question my bloggers may have. By the way, you are now Ms. "2Love" and we will address you as such! 

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IS it LOVE at First Sight.......? Our Question of the Day!

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Dear Mr. Anatomy, 
I met a man at church last Sunday. He is new in town and recently divorced. We stood outside of the church for an hour or so talking and getting acquainted before deciding to make a date for the movies later in the day. Mr. Anatomy, we have truly hit it off and although I have never believed in Love at First Sight, I am starting to make a believer out of myself. I am a woman of Christian virtue but I am not perfect. He seems genuine and just as much into me as I am into him. I guess my question is .........

"Is it possible to meet a man and know instantly this is the person I would like to spend the rest of my life with? Will you ask your bloggers to share any similar experiences with me? 

Thanx for bringing your question to our forum. I have a little experience in meeting, greeting, and dating early and I will share my thoughts with you just as soon as my bloggers have had their time with you. I will address you as Ms. "LoveStruck" from hence forward and please remain available for any questions my bloggers may have of you. 

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Men do it, why Can't Women?...... Our Question of the Day!

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Dear Mr. Anatomy,
I am a successful author of several books and I travel the country speaking to people about investing and growing their wealth for the future. I have been single since I was 28 after a rough divorce from my husband. Now I am 39. Currently, I'm not dating because dating ends friendships. Recently I was in Milwaukee, WI. and I caught the last of a radio interview you did on the Michael Dresser show. In that interview, you said you were a reformed serial cheater and you can help men be the same. Well, what about the woman who don't trust men at all? Can you help us too? All I do is travel, meet business associates and call my "Guy of the moment" for that city to keep me tuned up. Yes, it's a lonely life, but I don't allow myself to get caught up where feelings are involved! With this approach, my voice mail is always filled with, "Why did you leave without waking me up?" My Question is........

"Am I wrong for loving men and then leaving them until I need them again? Some of the men say my approach is confusing. I say, it's sex, hugging, and catching a plane!"

Ma'am, while the franchise of Anatomy of a Cheater never judges, I do have a bit  insight as to why you are leaving these encounters the way you do. From this point forward, I will address you as Ms. "Financial" and allow my bloggers to speak first before I chime in. Please remain available for any questions my bloggers may have. 

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**How does a woman Break the Hold that "LIFE" has over You......!**

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Dear Mr. Anatomy, 

I have read so many stories like mine on your blog. Stories of unhappiness and disappointment from decisions I've made to stay in a relationship that is going no-where. As I send this email with tears in my eyes, I need your valued bloggers to walk me through the pain. I have been with my husband for over 12 years and we initially got married because I got pregnant and my family insisted I do the right thing and marry the father of my child. Now, a total of 3 children later, I feel like I am locked in a glass cage with no way out of my life. I am educated, attractive, and successful in my own career, I just like to LOVE my husband, but I can honestly say I am not in love with him. He is a great guy, great provider, but there is absolutely no passion that makes my eyes roll back in my head. For me, foreplay means nothing even as he tries to perform it. My Question is......

"Is this all life has to offer by way of love and relationships? I am spiritual and I've been to counseling where I've tried to find reasons to make this work, but what happens when it just doesn't work. Will God forgive me for giving up?"

Ironically, this is a scenario described to me all too often. The story of the young lady who marries early, has the family but seeks more by way of understanding in her own life. I do have a plan for women like you, but as always, my bloggers will speak first and I will follow with my assessment. From hence forward, you will be addressed as "Ms. Emotion" as we look for a solution to your issue. Please remain available for any questions my bloggers may have for the next 3 days.

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On the Down Low..but Somebody Has to Know! Our Question of the Day.

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Dear Mr. Anatomy,

I have done something that is strangely out of character for a man of my statue but I truly don't know how to stop this awful behavior. I would like to be life coached and now that you have my email address, I was hoping my first stop would be your blog to see if anyone else have gone through what I am. I am a man who have achieved a lot of success on many levels and women have never been a problem for me. I have been faithful in my 7 year marriage and I am certain she has too. My problem is I have been seeing another man for about 3 months. What started as some dumb type of fun, has become something I look forward to once or twice a week. I know a lot will be said and I was directed to your site by a really good friend of mine here on the west coast who you know well! Although I am being safe in my other activity, I am still having "relations" with my wife as well. My Question is ......

"Is there a psychological term for what I am going through? I am in my mid 40's, healthy and vibrant, but I can't understand how this has entered my life! Does this mean I am homosexual?" 

Sir, from hence forward, I will address you as Mr. Inappropriate to outline the fact that you are dealing with two people of the opposite sex, with one being your legal wife. I have a mouthful to say, but I will allow my bloggers to have first "voice" and I will chime in later. Please remain available for any questions that may be asked of you. 

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How STUPID can we be......! Our Question of the Day.

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Mr. Anatomy,
I am probably one of the few men that have read your book and agree with the hunger of men and their obsession to cheat. Why is it we have to have things that are totally off limits to us? You said it best when you said a man knows exactly what we want from a woman when we meet them for the first time. I am married, and have been for 17 years. My wife and I have had our ups and downs but through it all, we have continued to make it and forge ahead. About 4 months ago, my wife's best friend moved in with us after leaving her husband in California. She came back down south to get back on her feet. She and my wife were childhood friends but her friend wears it a lot better than my wife does. Looking at her, I see what my wife use to look like 10 years ago and 50 lbs lighter. The best friend and I have been sleeping with each other for 2 months non stop and I feel this is getting out of control. The problem is, my wife's friend says if I stop sleeping with her, she is going to tell my wife about everything and then will come on to her too. She says my wife was a freak back in college and they shared very intimate moments back then and she thinks she can stir those feelings back up with my wife if I stop sleeping with her! My Question is ..........

"What the hell have I gotten myself into. Like you asked of "Diamond" in your book, is this lady the devil? It seems I can't stop this even if I wanted to."

Sir, you have definitely gotten yourself in some deep quicksand and the more you wiggle, the more you sink. However, you've come to the right place. My bloggers and I will help you steer clear of this mess. From hence forward, your blogger name is Mr. Scared because she definitely has you on the run. Please stay available to answer any questions my bloggers may have. 

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Don't Ask......I won't Tell ! Our Question of the Day ..

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Dear Mr. Anatomy,
The other day, I got a text from a lady who wanted to know why my number was in her boyfriend's phone over and over again for a period of 2 weeks. After figuring out what guy she was referring to, I asked her to call me and I filled her in on exactly why her boyfriend was reaching out to me. I told her I met her boyfriend on a dating website and after going out on a couple of dates, we had sex; after which we text'd a few times and then the relationship faded. Of course, he never told me he was seeing anyone. My question is simple......

"When women find it in themselves to reach out to a woman through their man's phone, don't we as women have a civic duty to be honest?" 

Ma'am.... everyone sees exposing their intimate antics differently. While I have a full opinion, I reserve the right to answer your question after my bloggers have had a chance to address your concern. From hence forward, your blog title is Ms. "Imma Tell it" and please stay close to our blog for the next 3 days in case our bloggers have questions.

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I am LYING to the Man I LOVE......! Our Question of the Day

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Dear Mr. Anatomy, 
I am living a lie and I really don't know how to get myself back to respectability. I have been living a life of celibacy and telling the guy that I've been dating that the reason we are not having sex is I am cleansing my life and walking with GOD! However, I am lying and I have been secretly seeing my ex boyfriend who lives down the street a few miles. My boyfriend visits and shortly after he leaves, my ex boyfriend stops by to "take care" of my needs. The other night, my boyfriend came back to give me money for lunch and he didn't call. My ex boyfriend ran toin my daughters room, and had to hide for over 2 hours until my boyfriend left. I feel so bad, but I am addicted to my ex but he has a woman and child. My question is......

"How do I handle this volatile situation before it boils over? My boyfriend is a great guy, but Mr. Anatomy, I have lost myself in physical sex and love!"

Ma'am, Mr. Anatomy never judges, just answers the questions that are before me. Volatile is definitely the correct word to use. From hence forward, your blog name is Ms. "No-Sex" and after my bloggers give you their opinion I will follow with my response. Please remain available for any questions my followers may have. 

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He's Moving Too Slow....Damn !! Our Question of the Day

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Dear Mr. Anatomy,
I know this is the blog that will get me some results, and right now, results is exactly what's needed. I am a Pediatrician in the Greater D.C. area. I have been practicing here since I got out of school and joined a group. Well, when I was going through school and my residency, there was really not a lot of time for dating. However, now that I am working, doing my thing and "SINGLE" I am ready to mingle and get it on, so to say. Well, my problem is, I am dating this guy I met in church. We have a lot of  the same values, similar occupations, and comfort level. The problem is, it's been 3 months and "tha brother" can't take a hint. I am trying desperately to seduce him but he is taking  this gentleman thing just a little too far. Mr. Anatomy, I have read your book based on a co-worker's recommendation, and let me tell you, the naughtiness in THAT book has me hotter than ever! Mr. Question is......

"What do I do to speed up the process and get this guy to see my body they way I see his. I want some of the chocolate drop bad, but he seems to not see me in a sexual light!" You think he may be gay?

Ma'am, thank you for bringing your question to our forum. I will definitely give you my assessment  but not before our bloggers have had their chance. I will address you as Dr. Hot-Pants from hence forward! Please stay close to the blog the next 3 days to answer any questions my bloggers may have of you! 

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Dear Mr. Anatomy,
I am a Married and a very BISEXUAL FEMME woman. I am into the ladies but only with my husband, I do not have any attraction to another man at all outside of my husband. We do have 3 somes together but he feels that it is okay to go outside the marriage and deal with women on his own without me. He knew I was bisexual when we met and he has never had a problem with it. I know they say this life is every man's fantasy but is it being a hypocrite that I get what I want out of the situation being with him and a female and not allowing him to do what he wants also? My Question is .....

"Is it wrong of me to not want my husband to play outside of what we do together?"

Mrs. Femme, thank you for bringing your question to our forum. Before I chime in on your topic, I will allow my bloggers to have a crack at it. We have answered a question like this in the past, and I will try to find that reference to the past and post it for your review. Please remain visible and readily available to answer any questions my bloggers may have for you.

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Mr. Anatomy,
I come to you in a fractured state of myself and my confidence has been shaken. I've been seeing this young lady, for quite sometime and while I thought the relationship was going in the right direction, apparently, she found the need to write me a derogatory letter about our state of affairs. Like you, she is a blogger, (www.ebonyheights.org) and I have been going along with what she writes about our relationship because it was all in fun, and it gave me an alter ego of a successful, powerful man, with nothing to prove. However, in her last post about our relationship and affairs while I was traveling, something went wrong and she turned me into a spectacle and since my friends follow her blog, I have become the laughing stock of my office. When I agreed to be a part of this and share our experiences with everyone else, we had a few basic rules; To keep it clean, to make sure everyone else respected me in a positive way, and she would NEVER expose who I really am. Well, like she said in her blog, she did come on the road to visit me, but she left out one important detail that I just found out myself when I got this letter, and called her to confront her about her untimely departure! It seems, she met one of my ex girlfriends and she is under the impression I have been playing games with her so now she is trying to ruin my "real reputation" with this blogging thing. My Question is .......

"How do I stop the blogging creativity of my female counterpart and get things back to normal. She has seriously taken what we do intimately to another level and won't stop sharing our exploits with everyone else!"

Mr. Big, I have a lot to say, and since you reached out to me, I had to do my research and go to her blog to question the validity of what you are saying. To me, it seems you have been caught doing something wrong, and now you are attempting to clean it up. I commented on her blog a few days ago but I had NO idea how seriously real all this has become, but remember, you put yourself out there, so I'll let my bloggers speak, and I will then come back with a few words of my own. I will address you from hence forward as "Running Scared" to separate you from the ego she created. Please remain available for any questions my bloggers may have.

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Dear Mr. Anatomy,
My life is spiraling out of control, and I have little to do to stop it. I have been working as an escort unbeknownst to my mother and father for about 6 months. The other day, the guy who helps me maneuver through the maze of this lifestyle told me I am committed to him for another year based on what he has provided for me. I walked away because I don't like this and it's too much for me. I went to my pastor and reached out for his help. He was so supportive and went to my "sponsor" and asked if he will let me out of  this unwritten, unspoken contract. My supporter didn't want any problems with the church or exposure in my small town so he agreed to release me. However, he called me 2 days ago and offered me one last "hook up" and says it's a major client that is coming to town for a church convention and area revival. To my surprise, the person he is trying to get me to see is a part of the group that is coming to lead the convention for all the churches in the area. Lord, how did I get mixed up in all of this. I'm 23 years old, and was just trying to get money to help me through college. My Question is .......

"What do I do? I know I can't see the "client" that's coming in, but do I tell my Pastor what was supposed to happen with the member of  this "visiting group" that is coming to conduct this revival?"

First and foremost, let's call your "supporter" what he is; a PIMP? Now, with that said, I have too much to say about this topic, but as always, I will let my bloggers chime in first before I render my opinion. I will address you as Young and Confused from this point forward. Please remain available for any question my bloggers may have.

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