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Mr. Anatomy, I work with the (Not gonna Say it) school district at one of the high schools. Well, the other day, I was leaving after a late evening meeting with the office staff. I got half way home, and realized I left my purse on the office counter when I signed out. When I got back, I heard a strange noise coming from the principal's office so I went closer to investigate. When I peeked in the door, the principal and the office administrator were on his desk having sex. Shocked, I close the door and quietly gathered myself before leaving. The principal is single, the administrator is married, and I am single too. I have been trying to get the principal to notice me for months, but now I know why he has been dismissing my advances. I am so mad. I'm a plus size lady, and she's an anorexic whore. My Question is ..........
Should I expose this relationship to everyone at work or just leave it alone? I am pretty upset because that behavior is inappropriate for work. What should I do Mr. Anatomy?
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Lmao... Expose someone to everyone at work because he doesn't want you? Would this behavior still be "inappropriate" if the principal had YOU on his desk sexing? Get over it and find a new crush!
ReplyDeleteI agree with Keegan...let it be what ever is done in the dark will always come to life just move on and find someone else
ReplyDeleteI agree with jacklyn wen she agreed with keegan :)
ReplyDeleteEva Araiza and Jacklyn Sparks both of you are sooooo original. Glad you have individualism! This lady is hurt, give her some pointers. Somebody dun stole her Man and she had to watch them get busy! :) :) :) LoL
ReplyDeleteWTH....you can't steal something that never belong to you!!!! If he wanted her she would be on the desk having sex!!! You can't make someone want you MOVE ON
ReplyDeleteMr. Anatomy, thanks for letting my question be chosen. That took a long time because I submitted the question like 2 weeks ago. I was going crazy with this information and they don't know I know they stay at work late to "have relations!" I believe they did it again the other night after a basketball game here at the school. Keegan, I'm mad because she knows I like him and she was the one telling me to keep trying to get him. She told me I needed to be more aggressive. I have been working extra hard to get noticed. I am a real pretty plus size lady and I know I am better for him than some fly-by-night married hussy! Yes, it would be inappropriate to have sex on the desk and I wouldn't lower myself to do that. I know people don't know what's going on in this office and I feel like I should let them know he's not as professional as everyone thinks he is.
ReplyDeleteI Don't think you should expose it to your co workers,that's inappropriate and messy. IF your concerned @ his behavior at the workplace contact the Board of Education. Now as far as your crush,there is nothing you can do about him not wanting you. Just count it as a blessing. What kind of man would have sex at his school? #yucky
ReplyDeleteOk, ok. Sorry..that was harsh..nutn its true..thats being selfish!! You cant want to expose something thats supposed to be nuña bizz. cuz it didnt Works out for you..
ReplyDeleteShe needs a bottle of here favorite drink and find a victim for the night pronto...well , thats not good advise..never mind ..im not good at these things..im kinda evil if you ask me lol..oh well ..")
That woman that got him is sick in the head though for telling you that..you should be carefull with her...
ReplyDeleteDear Plus Size Lady,
ReplyDeleteI admire you for going for what you want, but you have to understand, he has made his choice, let it go. Why be messy and try to shoot down his happiness. Now, your friend, she was wrong to tell you to go after him if she was playing "hide and go sleep" with the Principal. That is just plain wrong, however, she never thought you would find out and her rationale is probably to keep the relationship hidden. What better way to throw you off than to tell you to go after the very man she is screwing. AND, trust me, he knows you are interested in him. The two of them have talked about it and probably shared a laugh a two about their antics and presumed "secrecy!" My advice, let it go, don't embarrass yourself by being petty because your ego is scorched. Go find your own workplace hookup. If you are all you say you are, someone will take the bait! (smile) I have known several plus size ladies that have learned to "twist" with the best of them. That is my day 1 assessment, see you again tomorrow after more people have had a chance to chime in.
Mr. Anatomy = H. Williams, MBA
Wow, talking about the REAL Sex Education One On One! LoL.. What a Lesson! Hmmmmmm.....Why tell it sounds like someone is Hating that they are not the actual one that is getting that Sex Education treatment.. Don't tell honey because what is done in the DARK will ALWAYS come to the LIGHT remember that! Next time you accidently see that just bust in and say Can I join the CLASS NEXT round? Sorry just kidding had to say that.. LOL..
ReplyDeleteBut @ the school???? Come onnnn! Lol
ReplyDeleteDear Ms. Plus Size
ReplyDeleteI am in agreement with Stephanie Anthony! Don't expose the affair to anyone in your workplace. It could make the situation very volatile for all involved and may cause retaliation against you if found out. Eventually the truth always comes out!! Move on to find someone that is worth while and would treat you right. The Principal is not worth your time or energy. If you do feel you need to expose them, take Stephanie's advice and go to the board of education. This behavior should not be going on in the workplace but before you reveal the situation check the motives of your heart. Don't shed light on the issue with an angry or jealous heart. Let vengeance be God's like the good book says!!
I'm with Precious bust right on in there.
ReplyDeleteI think you should keep all that you know to yourself. The only reason you want to tell is because you want him and he don't want you. After all you have done to show him you like him and he has shot you down. She's not the reason he don't want you. Your not his type he might not like plus size women. She told you to go after him harder because yes she is sexing him, but he is still fair game, are she just wanted to see you make an ass out of yourself to keep running up behind a man who don't want you. You can't get mad because he don't want you. Plus she's doing something you said you would never do. Which is having sex in places where you shouldn't have sex. Which is why she has him. It not about right or wrong places it's about the moment. I love having sex in places you shouldn't. It's a thrill in it's self. If that man wanted you on desk and you told him NO you don't do that you would have lost him anyway. Because he's a thrill seeker and your not. Take it as a lost and keep it movin. Find someone who not a thrill seeker unlike yourself. Find someone who's just flat out boring too. That way your in your safety zone. And don't have to worry about a thrill seeker taking him from you. Oh I am a plus size lady too. And I'm pretty too... But me being me I would let her know I saw them and that BS she told me was cool. and after I told her that she couldn't say two words to me. But that's just me!!! Sex in places you shouldn't is fun you should try it sometime. You'll like it! IJS
ReplyDeleteMy advice to you is to put down that hatorade and keep your mouth shut. You did not witness sex with an adult and a minor but two consenting adults. If he has chosen to ignore you for whatever reason come to terms with that. It may not be because it is the affair but simply because you are NOT his type. Focus on someone that is available and wants you. Do try on and walk around in those bitter shoes you may not be able to take them off one day when the right man comes along that is suited for you.
ReplyDeleteHey plus size
ReplyDeletehad close to the same issue w/a friend/married co-worker once in my life....she was so tough I couldn't get any of the men in our area to notice me. She has since divorced and remarried and apparently found Jesus....anyway she gave me the same advice except it was like a challenge (get him if you can sort of thing) i did and lets just say it wasn't all that.
Ms. Plus Size, I say beat her at her own game. Keep on being "sexy as you want to be!" You don't have to lower yourself and try to get him to take you to his desk, but try to let him see a different side of you. Sometimes when all that sex and firework stuff is gone, they want somebody who's smart and can hold a conversation. If it was me, I wouldn't give up, I would make that heffa work to keep him entertained. You would be surprised at how a lot of men like bigger girls, it's almost like a hidden fetish. Girl, don't run, make her keep him! See, you know they getting busy, but the secret is, she don't know you know! And don't tell nobody nothing, all is fair in sex and sneaking!
ReplyDeleteErma from *New York*
I really hate that you even referenced yourself as a "plus size woman!" So your are big, so what, don't buy into the stereo types of others. Just say you are a woman on a quest to date the principal. If you look in the mirror and you see more, then there is more of you to love. Don't let names others place on you become you! Plus size woman, is just another tag society has placed on us to categorize who they want us to be. I date a man, so that makes me GAY, right, but I also date women, so people say I'm on the 'down-low!' Well, my name is Matthew and that is the only name I answer to! Keep your head up, Mr. Anatomy, I have everybody in Atlanta reading your blogs. Keep up the good work, we all are noticing your strides! I like that title one of your bloggers gave you, The "Dr. Phil" of the internet!!! (see, I do read)
ReplyDeleteMatthew in Atlanta, GA
Are u upset cause its inappropriate behavior or because it wasn't you on that desk? Leave it alone move on and let him degrade her on the desk in the car etc. you deserve better. Hell at least a nice hotel room.
ReplyDeleteGreetings Ms. Plus Size,
ReplyDeleteI'm curious to know what have you done to gain his attention? Try something out of the ordinary like send an anonymous gift with a sultry note. Put something on his mind. Make sure you look appealing everyday with a nice fragrance. Confidence is key.
Precious, I like your idea, I should just bust in with a cape on and noting else. Some of your think I'm hating on the administrator that has his attention now, however, that couldn't be farther from the truth. I know I was getting somewhere with him but all of a sudden, he kinda stop receiving my advances. Ms. Erma, I agree with you, and that is why I am not playing her game. I don't want to be sprawled out over his desk, I want the comfort of his house. I know he's single so why can't we spend a quiet evening at his house. Matthew, thanks for the advice, I embrace being a larger woman and I guess you are right, what people call you is what you accept. Thanks for using yourself to make a point with me, I take that and understand your point. Byron, I have been really nice to him, I sometimes bake goodies and make sure he's the first to receive them. I also overheard him telling someone he loves to see his ladies in black, so I went out and bought some black outfits to appeal to his eyes. I felt like I was getting somewhere until the desk episode occurred. Now I'm back to square one. I like his mind so I am gonna go for it.
ReplyDeletePlus size woman no More, Just a Beautiful Lady!
Now that I have more information it sounds like your so called "administrator friend" took the information you supplied to her about liking him as a challenge for her to approach him and get the goods. She may be silently jealous of you for some reason and felt this was an opportunity to prove to herself that she could get something that you wanted but don't have yet. She is not to be trusted!!!! Women do things like that when they feel threatened by another woman. I say go for it then. Show them your class and your beauty!! Don't talk to her anymore about him or your plans. Confide in someone else!! Keep us posted on how it goes!!
DeleteDear Ms. Plus Size Woman,
ReplyDeleteIt seems today, our bloggers have given you insight to a better you. No longer should you feel you have to degrade self by giving yourself a title that labels your size, your direction, or your self esteem before others can see your light. Be your own source of light to cast a positive shadow on self for others to see. If you want the Principal, go after him, but do it in a way that you will respect yourself in the morning. Don't compete, because your journey won't be pure; set your own rules and goals for where you want the relationship to go, and stick to them! If he won't play the game your way, walk away, but walk away with your dignity intact. There is always someone out there to bask in your glow. You can be an example for others in your situation. So you saw a sexual act; keep living, I promise you will see another! Don't be the source of the rumor, as equally, don't be the RUMOR, either! Show the Principal your good side and I promise, you will enjoy the victory much better if you are his selection!
Mr. Anatomy = H. Williams, MBA
Girl, hold your head up. The other lady probably gave him some because she felt threatened. Keep trying because life is a competition. Let your professionalism beat her at her own game. Man, what these people have said clearly is keeping it 100, I am new to this blog, but I'm trying to figure out how to join this page. Help me Mr. anatomy of a cheater, how do I join the page and have my picture on the side with the others.
ReplyDeleteOne white-chocolate lady in Montana.
Oh Lawd- I would like to take this to a different level here! The level of a parent!!!! Turn that shit in!!!!! I would not want my child going to a school where the principle and anorexic whore are flinging sex all over the office!!!! They are not setting a good example. take that shit home, hotel street corner hell even the church if you have too but not the high school. TURN THEM IN. Send me the information I will turn them in myself,of course only if you like!!! Enough said and probley too much,sorry!
ReplyDeleteIf YOU wanted to keep it professional since they obviously lack it why expose it to EVERYONE at work, when you take it to someone higher. YOUR motives arent right, you(I wasnt done) YOUR motives aren't right, because you're mad it wasnt you! Do you really trhink he ignored your advances because of her, NO, ma'am. He's just not interested in YOU. Any single man, if he's attracted to you, would have given you some indication that he was interested too. Dont get mad at the skinny chick because he's NOT interested in you. It may only be the sex he's interested in with her anyway (she is married) My advice, IF you must or feel someone should know, then take it to someone they report too, and leave the pettiness EXPOSING alone.
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