Mr. Anatomy,
I need your help, and in the worst way. I have accepted my boyfriend's proposal for marriage and that is supposed to be a good thing, but I have one slight problem; that damn baby-moma and those bad ass kids! When we were dating I just tolerated the kids and the constant calls from the "Dragon-EX" but now, since he has asked for my hand in marriage, I am seriously having second thoughts. Everything his kids do, he thinks it's funny, and I am annoyed! His son (6) put ants in my car, under my mat and as I was driving I was being bit. His daughter (8) poured all of my shampoo out of my bottle and replaced it with Liquid Tide for washing clothes. The "Dragon-EX" lives around the corner and it seems every time I am visiting, the kids just kinda show up with her knocking at the damn door! I feel Like I'm hangin out with the Boondock's kids, Riley and Huey! My Question is.........
"How do I handle this unfortunate situation? I think I "hate" his kids and he won't take my feelings serious. He is laughing with them, but the sh*t ain't funny!"
Ma'am, first and foremost, let me thank you for bringing your situation to our forum. While unique to you, I can assure you, you are not alone in your quest to break your man away from his past. From hence forward, I will address you as Ms. "Tortured" and try to find a solution to your problem. First, let's see what our bloggers have to say, then I will give you my opinion. Please stay available for any questions my bloggers may have of you.
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I've been in this same situation before and it isn't a good one to be in. On one hand you love your fiance but the children and the ex are making it hard to bare. You need to seriously sit down and make a decision for yourself on whether or not you can deal with the children for a lifetime because they're not going anywhere, in regards to the ex, she needs to know her place and if she doesn't he needs to put her there, he's allowing her to do it, therefore it will never end
ReplyDeleteWell, that should have been stopped along time ago now it is okay for the children to act the way they because they got by with it for so long they have NO RESPECT for you and neither does the baby momma ( dragon Ex) Until your fiancee put his foot down and lay out the rules of what he is NOT going to tolerate then it will continue to still happen. Your Fiancee would need to PUT his foot down and be a man and GROW-UP that behavior with the children is NOT cute anymore. If you get married and no rules are established then it WILL not work out again you will be tolerating and then it becomes TOO much for you and you will get tired. Talk to your fiancee and tell him what you are not going to put up with and have him SET those rules. Hope this helps!
ReplyDeletewow...putting ants in your car constitues assualt. there is nothing funny about that. How can you consider a future with a man who would allow anyone to treat you this way?
ReplyDeleteMr. Anatomy of a Cheater,
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for making my question your topic. I don't know what to do. I love this man and he is good to me, but that damn ex girlfriend about to catch a "beat down" and I ain't playing. The other day, I was sitting in the living room, she walked in, didn't speak and walked right into the back of the house to address my fiance'! When I confronted her, she said, "You ain't married yet, I got his kids so until you are important, you ain't important." It took all the Christian inside me not to whoop her ass! She is testing me, but he did put her in her place that day. However, the kids were here and saw our exchange. The little "princess" as he calls her, said, "my daddy and my momma getting back together and you gone have to find you a new man!" Mr. Anatomy, I love him, but this is testing me. Whitney, I'm with you, he better get this sh*t straight, or I am gonna lose it and then leave. Precious, I told him I couldn't tolerate this treatment and he says, "you are letting her get under your skin. She knows we are engaged and it's killing her!" He is so not helping the situation. Yes Leslie, f***ing ants! Can you imagine how I felt when I found out that little bastard did that! Yes, you gave me the right name, I am Ms. Tortured!
Why in the world would you allow children to disrespect you.. Is this man claims to love you and want to make you his wife Then he needs to treat you as a queen and teach those kids how to treat you right You should put your foot down long time ago They only treat you the way you allow them to treat you I would not to put up with that at all!!!
ReplyDeleteQuestion.....why did you accept his proposal?
ReplyDeleteI would attempt to come to some type of common grounds because if not the relationship wont last past the "I dos" Good luck :-)
ReplyDeleteAgain, he (fiancee) will have to put his foot down and do it in front of you and let the ("dragon Ex) know to respect you. He can tell you until he is blue in the face, but I say show me that you are serious and you love me and want me to Have respect. Have him tell her in front of you! I wouldn't care how much it is killing her ( dragon ex) she needs to be put in her place in front of you by your fiancee. See how much he really loves you, if not what is he scared of?
ReplyDeleteI agree with Phyllis i would give him the ring back until he got his ex and kids in control
ReplyDeleteLadies, I thank you from the bottom of my heart because he keeps telling me I'm being petty and I should just be happy to be getting married! WHAT THE F*CK, I said! He says other women would be fine just getting married to a NBA Baller. He is sweet, but he is so passive when it comes to those savages and that damn Dragon EX! Phyllis, I accepted the ring because I love him, but I promise, love don't conquer all. I don't have kids yet, and living like this, I probably won't! I told him, you are only home some of the time anyway, and that's why I think those bad ass kids are like they are. He feels guilty because he travels so much, but I remind me, that lil Ho get's more than enough support. I went to the finals the other night with him to watch Miami win and I am at the concession stand and who do I see, but her trifling ass. I asked him, did you pay that bitches way down here, and he said yes, because he wanted the kids to come. I said, we could have brought them. I feel like a damn fool sometimes!
ReplyDeleteIm missing something here. How can you love a man and not love his kids. (Bad or not) When you agree to marry him you are agreeing to take on the whole package. There seems to be a lot of unhealthy feelings here. If you are unable to build a healthy nurturing relationship with his kids you should not Be considering a future with this man. I child will always know they are not being loved and will never respect you. I still stand my ground that your man should have handled the disrespect long ago. I can't believe he is considering to pursue future either.
ReplyDeleteMr. Anatomy, I don't know if I am supposed to answer right away but I'm enjoying this. And, he is reading this too. He said he got an opinion but he don't wanna hurt anyone's feelings. Do you care if he chimes in? Jacklyn, I don't wanna give up this ring, but I'm being tested. The other NBA wives and girlfriends say they go through this all the time. Leslie, I love his kids, but I don't ever see a good side of them. They are always talking crazy to me, or doing some mischievous stuff to me. One day, he left me home with the kids, I went to let the dog out and let her pee, those savages locked me out for over an hour. Do you know how hot it gets in South Texas? I was pissed!
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Respect is something u teach your children...they are kids!! The father is responsible for teaching his kids to respect u! There is nothing funny about disrespectful malicious behavior! The baby mother should be put in her place but you have to consider the possibility of the kids being put up to some of this behavior...there is no way you can marry this man if you have hatred towards his children...they are a part of him! I would talk to him be completely honest and remember actions speak!!! Good luck!
ReplyDeleteMs. Tortured,
ReplyDeleteWhile I am not quite ready to give my opinion, I am trying to keep up reading as well. Tell Mr. NBA Baller, he is welcomed to say whatever it is he wants to. We like to hear both sides here! My blog is his stage, go ahead!
Where was the switch at Mr. Tortured?
ReplyDeleteMr. Anatomy and your fans. This lady ain't got nothing to worry about. I am handlin my business with the kids and their mom. See, me and my ex been friends since we were little and she knew me when I was climbing this ladder. So we like friends but we couldn't make it as a couple because she was so jealous. All we doing now is raising our kids and keepin it real. I love my fiance' because she is always there for me. She put her career on hold to help me with mine. When Shaunie approached her about Basketball Wives, she didn't buy into that dumb shit. So she ride or die. I know just about all of y'all on this blog would die to be in her shoes. I respect women, but my ex and I are parents and I raise my kids the best I can. I don't believe in spanking them because I grew up in Philly and my parents beat the hell out of me. I allow my kids to be individuals because I don't see them as much as I would like to. I really wish my girl would be friends with my ex and everybody just get along. I am not leaving my fiance' but my baby momma gonna always be close by because of the kids.
ReplyDeleteNBA Baller
You need to run like HELL!
ReplyDeleteI have been where you are and have the T-shirt! Keep the ring and take it to the people that buy gold. Can you say dollar??
SS - Memphis
Then you have to wonder is he still creeping around the back door. It is TOO familiar territory they are too comfortable with each other do he do so she (ex dragon) can keep her mouth shut? MMMMMMM? not saying that is going on , but sounds real wierd to me. I say just wait don't do it make him prove that he loves you by laying down those rules! Hope this also helps you!
ReplyDeleteOr any disciplinary action?
ReplyDeleteAmen anonymous.....Please let him chime in!!" I would love to know what kind of grown man allow his children to respect woman he claims to love.. why do you care about how other women are being treated if they choose to allow that's on them!!! If you expect you to love his children and be respectful to them and they need to be respectful to you... can I break it down to you sweetie those kids were here before you came and ill be here when you leave so if you truly love him ya gotta get right and work this out and just fyi the ex go anywhere either you have to work together for the greater good of those kids clearly both of their parents are lacking in and discipline... my ex has moved on and I don't care for you girl however I would never allow my children to be disrespectful to her or would allow her to be as disrespectful to them
ReplyDeleteThere is a difference between loving him and loving the life. I am only able to go by what is being posted here and it seems this type of behavior has been going on for some time. You have allowed it. I don't really get the impression that you really want advice; what you want is someone to tell you to go ahead and marry him. You aren't tortured, you've settled. Maybe you should take a step back and ask yourself why you have accepted being treated that way.
ReplyDeletesorry i am typing and working at the same time i meant to say it seems do he do for the (ex dragon) to keep her mouth shut so she won't spill the beans? HMMMMMMM? Ijs..
ReplyDeleteCant wait to hear the responses to this one..lol
ReplyDeleteWell, money and material things can NOT buy you happiness and that is the truth , because when you depend on material things and money to allow yourself to be happy it does not work, take a look at ALL the Super Stars that have alot of money and is MESSED up in the head , low self esteem , on the verge of cimmitting suicide and turning to other forms of thing to make them happy like drugs, and etc. Money is the ROOT of ALL evil. I am happy with just having what I have right now because I am still blessed. As far as being in your Fiancee shoes no thanks because my PEACE of MIND, and happiness is more important than to be Disrespected and treated as a DOOR MAT and actually being tortured. I tip my hat off to your FIancee (NBA BALLER) if she likes it then I love it. People are now being caught up it status quoes. Ijs...
ReplyDeleteMr. Nba Baller. You don't have to beat your kids to discipline them. Don't make excuses for your lack of participation. Who didn't get beat when they cut up as a child. Discipline is an action because you CARE not because you are angry and is best done before you get to the point of anger. Discipline can be as simple as taking every enjoyment away from them (cell phones, xbox, playstation, day trips with friends....whatever) I understand the life long friendship. But if your friend/ex is really being a friend they would not involve themselves in any activity that would cause drama in your life..... There maybe plenty that want to be in your fiances shoes but I don't think you will find one on this blog. ~LKJordan
ReplyDeletePhyllis, I am a doctor by trade and I am not chasing a life style or money. I am mixed, Middle Eastern and African and my father has a huge business in Saudi Arabia. I have always had the finer things in life and I was a Laker girl a few years ago. So, don't misunderstand me, I have my money, but I love my man too! I just need us to settle this because that chic is disrespectful with her ghetto ass! SS in- Memphis, I would give him the ring back before I pawn it or sell it. My friend in L.A. told me Mr. Anatomy had some real bloggers who didn't give a Sh*t about hurting feelings to get to the truth, and she didn't Lie. I love this feedback! My God, you guys bring it! Thanks !!!!
ReplyDeleteMs. Tortured
Which one of y'all are dying to be in her shoes?????Mr. Baller please explain why we should be dying I really want to know cause I don't hear nothing she said worth dying for, prison sentence, maybe but dying? Please expound!!!
ReplyDeleteDamn sure aint...ain't that much money in the Federal Reserve for me to deal with some lil bad ass kids....
DeleteOh I had to read again, I got it! You right I would like to be in her shoes, to take one off and tap some azz!!! Cause she's the one wit no kids but is the only one who recognizes that the behavior is not cute but very disrespectful and should be addressed by a "parent "!!! Not laughed off by ill equipped parents. I surely wouldn't want to be around as they become teens cutting her brake line and putting antifreeze in her Starbucks!!
ReplyDeleteMs.T I'm happy to see that you have a pretty head on your shoulders.. it simply boils down to this those kids will be there for life so you need to educate your man on how you want to be treated he needs to get the x out of the the picture unless she is contacting him about the children she needs to move on do you need to stand up to the kids and show them that you will not be played with there would be no way in hell I would let children disrespect me or anybody that I claim to love nobody can make you do anything you don't want to do so either you put your foot down and stand your ground ok how you wanna be treated if you're not willing to do that then just move on and if you love him that much wanna stay did you have to figure out a way to do with this head on... we are only here to give the advice only you can make a change!!
ReplyDeleteOK ladies, especially Sherita, you got jokes. Where do you live, I will send some of my teammates that are single your way and let's see how you act when we treat you like gold. Phyllis, I'm feeling you, you told it like it was. Yep, she got money, probably just as much as I do (her family that is) but it ain't about that, it's about her trying to understand how my baby momma is. Mr. Anatomy, this blog is alright, I been reading some of your old material and then I checked out your TV commercial. All good shit! I'm feelin ya! I treat my girl good, but my kids, just having some fun, they don't mean any harm. I really didn't think it was really that big of a deal. My ex is just being an ex because she ain't with me. SS-Memphis, so, you would pawn a brother's ring, for real for real? So you like one of those chics in Hustle and Flow, got to get daddy his money!! LOL .....Memphis Crazy, I like coming there to play, y'all wild!
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Wow! It's just like with a woman that has kids...total package. If u want him u have to want the kids too. For lots of reasons1. What kind of person would keep someone from their kids. That's not at all right and u would feel like a horrible person for it. 2. He obviously loves them and wants to b n their lives. That in itself is a rarity and u should be proud of him for being a good dad. 3. Everyone has baggage. U have to find someone with baggage u can deal with and help tote. Now u could marry the guy and end up evil and miserable at the end of it all or if he's willing to work on puttin his children in check then maybe it could be the happy Brady bunch ending. Orrrrr...u don't marry the guy and move on to find a guy just as awesome without Huey as the ring leader. Just remember u reap what u sow and life is short. Don't waste one minute of it trying to change what can't be changed. Let real shit be real and if u can't deal with bad ass kids, there is nothing wrong with admitting that ands tryin something new. It takes courage to start over and step outside our comfort zone.
ReplyDeleteNothing I have read is funny in this post. First people will do to you what you allow them. If this is going on during the courtship it will continue in the marriage. Instead of talking about it you need to be about it. Stop whining about they are driving you crazy and dont respect you that is evident. And yes this even includes your fiance. STOP BEING A DOORMAT GIRL.
ReplyDeleteA man that loves you and has a heart for you will PROTECT you. He will not view any affront to your sensibilities as funny ....no matter who the sourse is (baby momma, children relatives) He seriously needs to look at this as though it was happening to him. What if YOU had a baby daddy that would walk up in the house and disrespect him. Or you children did shit to him like what his children have done to you. When he brought it to your attention all you said was "He is just jealous I am with you and the children are just having fun" No he would put up with that all of 5 minutes. He would give you instructions of you need to straighten dude out about respecting me and get your children in order or I am out. Any self respecting adult would do this. Does not mean he doesnt love you just if he was in this situation he would not tolerate it. Part of self esteem is self preservation!!!.
He needs to sit down with all parties and let them know he has made his choice in a mate and it is YOU. Let them know that they must respect you. He needs to tell the baby momma that making the children a party to grown folk business is not acceptable and if she cant stop she needs to stay away. For the record I dont care if she has had 12 kids by this man she is an EX. Her only juridiction is over the children WHILE they are at home. He shouldnt be telling you you have to understand shit about her feelings. She needs to get her ass in counseling so that she can move on.
Yeah baller if you look back i am the jokester of the bunch but I mean what I say. By you continuing to say that its jus not a big deal leads me to believe that you not taking her feelings about this very seriously. Try listening, really listening to her and watch the inertaction with your children. Would you put up with it? would you think its cute? if you love her and repsect her try to help her by making her life with your children a bit smoother. Oh and it dont take a NBA Baller to treat me like gold, jus a man who would respect my feeling and treat me like the woman that I am. Everything that bounce a ball aint "gold". I hope you know that im jokin sir!! :)
ReplyDeleteBut um rahhh Brother man if you got one who lookin for a Sounthern Gal to tickle his fancy let Mr. Anatomy know and he can hook a sista uppppp (children must be well behaved))!!!!!!!!!!!! LMAO!!!! but fa real doe bruh!!! LOL mama didnt raise no fool!!!!
ReplyDeleteMr. Anatomy, you got some real characters on your blog, I'm diggin that. Sherita, you still never said what part of the south you in, Southern Girl, I know it's either Mississippi or Atlanta, it's just the way y'all clown! I am gonna treat my shorty good, just as long as she try to fit in with the kids. I can have a lot of women, but you only get one set of kids that are yours so you can't replace them, for real for real! Hey Sarah Pendleton....Big Ups to you, Yep, I am a good Dad, there ya go, give me some props! She got y'all thinking my kids are real bad, NOPE, they just like having fun!
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Ok, Baller, I wasn't going to respond, but here it goes..... I stand by my statement, advice is not wanted, affirmation is. She may be a doctor but as you pointed out, her family has money, not her. If you loved her and wanted more than just a "ride or die chic" you would not allow your children or your ex to disrespect her in any way, shape, form, or fashion. And if she really was "that chic" she would allow herself to be treated that way, especially by her man's EX AND HIS KIDS. Sooooo stay, get married, enjoy your life. Just don't whine and complain about shit that you never really wanted to change.
ReplyDeleteLadies, I am so not whining, I was just reaching out to Mr. Anatomy for some advice. I love my man, but he wouldn't go to a counselor so I brought it to a Life Coach to see if I could get some clarity. I've never said I have an issue with my fiance' my issues is with his past. I didn't sign on to be abused and I am not a joke or a laughing stock either. I like what you said Dea, if the shoe was on the other foot, he would try to beat someone down! We got 2 years invested and his mom feels the same way I do. She says the problem is he sparing the ROD!
ReplyDeleteI'm in Memphis sir had a shirt stint in ATL never lived in the Sip, next time yall come to Memphis (without them chirren) lol holla at cha girl!!
ReplyDeleteOkay...I got so aggravated I could barely read all of the comments... NBA "BALLER" from your written words, you clearly sound as if you are really young and just getting used to having money...you know the kind, never take anything serious until the shit gets real...OR you are older and still immature. If you think all women would die to be in your girl's shoes just cause you have a few dollars, you clearly have life and bullshit fucked up because no woman will continue to accept the bullshit you allow your ex to do, let alone not discipline your bad ass kids!! A boy would think it's funny but a Real man would do whatever it takes to keep his fiance' happy. See how the words are different?? BABY MOMMA - FIANCE'....different words different meanings, different lanes. As bad as society is toward our children, you would want to teach them how to act in public and treat other people, but it won't effect you, until they embarrass your dumbass in public. See, it's always "cute" when they do it to someone else, but when they embarrass you, then you are going to want to do the fool. By then, it will be too late. You need to teach the lil ruggrats (for a better choice of words) something other than terrorizing your fiance'. I mean seriously, that is what a real man would do? The generation that exists right now that is tearing up everything, killing folks and all of that is because of dumb asses like you...They let their kids do whatever, no respect of person or authority...and we wonder why this world is gone to hell.......I could careless about your money, because as soon as your ass gets hurt, the NBA will QUICKLY replace your ass with someone else and there goes your endorsements...if you have any.... Try getting a book and read to them. As far as your kids mother, that broad shouldn't even have that much clout. She needs to stay in her lane and respect your woman...better yet, YOU NEED TO RESPECT YOUR WOMAN....Seems like you want the dessert with your meal....and that shit don't always digest properly. You need to grow the hell up...get some coaching skills because you keep doing dumb shit like this, not only will you run thru many women, but the right woman won't deal with your ass because you can't even run your own house. Quit laughing jackass, the joke is on YOU! Peace.....
ReplyDeleteLet's take the proposal out of it...those kids and the ex got on your nerve before he asked you to marry him, which means you should have said something then. Dont wait until you get the ring and then start having issues when the issues were there all along. You havent been honest with because lets face it, you probably acted like it was funny too or the ex's tactics didnt bother you. Being honest from the beginning would have save you from having the isue you have right now.
ReplyDeleteYes, some of us (Memphians) are wild but back to you. I love a "When Man...." He knows when to love, when to cry, when to hold on and when to let go, when to whip your children's ass, when to tell your ex to grow the f**k up cause it's over if it's really over. Put yourself in her shoes you wouldn't want her ex coming through the back door or the front without calling or letting you know they were on the way. All BS aside, if you love her there needs to be respect coming from all sides, you, kids, ex, family and friends....And I would only sale your ring IF.....lol!
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OK OK OK, let me slow down for I have to go HAM on somebody. First, Ms. Sherita, I am diggin that, I don't know what's up with Mr. Anatomy and his fans, but everybody checking in from MEMPHIS. Man, you must have Memphis on Lock. I'm gonna have to call Penny and see if he know some of y'all. Y'all representing strong, Damn. NOW, RealityCheck, you don't know me, so you can't give me no bullshit opinion like you better than me, Yes, I got a lil Money, and yes I'm from the inner city, but I'm doing my thing. If I get hurt, you ever heard of Lords of London? It's an insurance policy against my body! You sound like a bitter chic that lost a man, or can't find one. I'm not tryna clown you, so why you tryna clown me? I take good care of my kids, my girl, and my EX because that is what a man do. He don't forget where he come from. You know what, I am gonna blow this blog up. I am gonna call some of my NBA buddies and tell them to chime in. Mr. Anatomy, I know you don't mind. Check this out. I will have a few stoppin by. I will show you the kind of clout I got.....Potnah!
ReplyDeleteNBA Baller
Is Any one else from Memphis?
ReplyDeleteNBA Baller
Youngsta...nobody is trying to clown you...you are clowning yourself by allowing your kids to act and treat your lady that way.....and then not making your kids mom respect her...she is your EX not the next...You SHOULD take care of your kids, because they are YOURS....You SHOULD take care of your girl, because you gave her a ring..I'm far from bitter, I just tell people things others wont...I am familiar with "Lloyd of London"...and I know exactly what they do...oh and yes, I have a man...and options .....and a damn good one and I don't want for anything...so don't get it twisted...My opinion is just that MINE...but you are on a public blog so it is what it is....
ReplyDeleteYou not spending a lot of time with your kids is NOT a reason why you should not disipline them, let them be individuals but instill in them right now what they need to know, and that does mean tapping that A$$ every now and again, they will love you for in the end if its done in LOVE, I guarentee you, if you dont discipline them now someone later on will, and they wont have ANY love for em when they do. My ex husband and I co parent and we have rules we follow, one is RESPECT MY HOUSE...dont show up unannouced even if you have the kids...a courtesy call is all it takes. You and your girl could be doing something and you dont want any interruptions. Your ex and your girl being friends...that takes time, and if YOU dont take the time and let everyone know their place your life with your girl, there's always going to be confusion. If you love her like you say you do, start implementing some rules for your three relationships your girl, the kids and the ex.
ReplyDeletepenny knows all of us just about. we attended elementary and high school together.
ReplyDeleteNBA Baller it is not about blowing up this blog it is about getting a better perspective on how to treat your woman with respect. Ms. Tortured I guess you have to determine within yourself how much you have sold your self respect for. All money is not good money and all men are not good men. Walk away while you can with your dignity intact...well at least what you have left.
ReplyDeleteWhat's up everybody, I came on to support my boy! Why y'all hating on the NBA and it's lifestyle. I hate to tell you, but what she experiencing is Hatred because baby momma want to be in her shoes. You know what, (damn, I almost called your name) I can't get with this anonymous stuff, but anyway, smile in her face and keep it moving. My wife gets the same treatment from girls I use to mess with before we were married. They are all over, some straight up groupies that love to f*ck up your life because we ain't down with them anymore.
ReplyDeleteD - OKC Thanks for all the love for OKC Y'all
Hey Baller this is a blog respectfully ageree to disagree. No need as Dea said to blow us up but you can let them chime in and have their say in this give and take conversation where we give advice and take it as well. Nobody knows everything thats why we are here to learn from one another. i respect everything everything everybody has to say "especially" if i dont agree with it because i jus might learn a thing or two!!
ReplyDeleteWait a minute, who knows Penny? What's up Memphis. Lakers in the house!!! Mr. Anatomy of a Cheater, what do you have here? I am liking this, but old girl done started a fire storm that we gone have to put out! All y'all know women gone always try to mess up a good thing, I am seriously starting to hate baby mommas because they can't never let go. The NBA is a brotherhood and this type of shit happens everyday. Don't let his pass mess up y'all future!
ReplyDeleteBig B - Lakers for LIFE
See this is what I am talking about ...Thank you sweetheart...
DeleteNo one is hating on the NBA and it's lifestyle. Issue was taken with the lack of leadership and representation of manhood to this woman. If he does not stand up for her and stop being dismissive of her concerns, then eventually he will be the catalyst in his woman becoming bitter, heartbroken and just through.
ReplyDeletewe understand the hating DOKC we jus saying that he needs to discpline the kids more and listen to his girl cause if the shoe was on the other foot wouldnt he want her to react positively or jus laugh it off and say oh they playin!
ReplyDeleteNow y'all know I've been quietly patient with some of these questions. I'mgetting up out of my sick bed to say what needs to be said. 1st off, if the baby mammie and those bad ass kids live close enough to see the fiancée come and go, the baby daddy keeps her that close so he can do some quick hit and goes. This dude is not a man, yet! He thinks its harmless that his children pull life threatening pranks. it matters not that this lady, his lady, is being hurt and bothered by this mindless behavior because this guy is just as big a kid as his children are. Lil lady fiancé, if you really like/love this idiot, I suggest you do one thing, and I won't post it yet. But if Mr Idiot doesnt like the something I will suggest, then you staying in that relation will only be for the material gain and you will just have to suffer the physical pain that this relationship will bring
ReplyDeleteoh and why do you guys always think somebody hating on yall???? you been blessed to be where you are making the money you makin. Not everybody hates on you casue we aint you, we can make statements about the situation and not be hating. dont be so sensitive bout yo dough i aint!!!!!! can i borrow 50 cents though???
ReplyDeleteSee Kimberly Michelle that ain't even fair. I keep her in the same community to be close to my kids. I've been rollin with her since I was real young but the physical left a long time ago. Why can't we just be kool without somebody thinking I am still hittin that? OK, Kimberly, where you from? You down south too? Why don't y'all just tell me where everybody at so I can stop asking. Mr. Anatomy, where you at? You need to get this to be a reality TV show or something. I am still working my phone and text, I ain't finished, I am trying to reach Metta World Peace, that's my dude and he will tell it like it is.
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Big B it is NOT Ms Tortured that is about to let the PAST mess up their future it is NBA Baller that is doing that. Since you guys are in such a tight knit brotherhood why dont you guys employ some professionals that can teach you how to handle these baby mommas and the type of drama they cause. Let me recommend one that is outstanding in the field his name is Hurchel Williams MBA he is the owner of this blog hit a brotha up you will be glad you did
ReplyDeleteBig B most of his went to high school wit Penny even though he been MIA . but he has been doing awesome things here lately for the youth and i give him his props on that but i need to see him at more of our events. lol ask him bout us, i already know his word for me gon be CRAZY!!! Bring his azz on !!! we aint skeed Baller!!!!!!!!!!!lol lol
ReplyDeleteIt is funny how people will hold onto someone that they have history with never mind the fact that it is a bad history. NBA Baller the physical may be gone for you but the ex did not get the memo She is definitely still hot in the tail for you.
ReplyDeleteTo Ms. Tortured, NBA Baller, and the Rest of those NBA'ers stopping by.
ReplyDeleteI surely appreciate the love, and looking at my numbers, you guys have brought a lot of fanfare my way. Now, to the issue at hand. Baller, if you love your girl, you have to make her understand that she is the most IMPORTANT girl in your life, point blank! I am sure there is a reason you put the ring on her finger and not the baby momma. I'm not taking anything from her, but she is where you have been not where you are going! If you are trying to keep her happy, I understand that too, but not to the detriment of your fiance'! I know you are wealthy, and have the fame, but at the end of the day, a woman has to have that respect and expectation of if she's not happy, it's your job to make her that way. I can't call the kettle black myself, BUT, I always made ONE respect the OTHER or I wasn't going to be a part of it. Baller, start with respect for your girl first, then, everything else will follow. AS for the kids, you got to sit them down and let them know who is important in the house and how the hierarchy works!! If that don't work, call ya Momma and send them to her for the summer. I promise they will come back "changed" children!
Mr. Anatomy = Hurchel Williams, MBA
Thats GAME!!!!! On & off the court....it is what it is! U cant beat em join em..... Just learn how 2 njoy the life u living or leave.....DEAL
ReplyDeleteW/it... u already know Whats up. Trust "your woman n u wishing" Lmao!
Wooowwww! Lol
ReplyDeleteif dat dont work send to them TT Rita for the summer!!! Day 3 they will be singing her name in Swaheli!!!!!!!!!!! lol but seriously listen to Mr. Anatomy!
ReplyDeleteSherita, you got some real personality, Shit, y'all southern girls gonna make Big B visit Memphis real soon! I was talking to Mike Tyson and he said Memphis like a mini Atlanta without the gay dudes. (I ain't hating on gay guys, so don't blow up my website ladies) Every time the Lake-Show come to town, we get mad love there! I ain't mad atcha!
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OK, who is this Mr. Anatomy cat and why y'all not using your names? I am G. Davis from the Orlando Magic. I wish I could drop a picture in here. My boy said y'all was clowning the NBA, we can't have that ladies! Baby Momma Drama is out of f*ckin control. This shit gotta stop. Man, don't let yo girl get disrespected, that ain't real. Every time we get somebody worth having, Baby Stanki Moma trying to mess shit up. Man Please! What's UP Memphis and everybody checking in. Mr. Anatomy of a Cheater, I got to check you out for real!
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we blog from Facebook therefore it appears we are anonymous on his blog. Nobody hiding here but yall!!!! What cho name???? Im Sherita from Memphis.LOL!!!
ReplyDeleteSherita, are you the spokeswoman for the city? Eugene Nook Pratcher, what's the name of his spot? When we come in, all we ever go is to some joint name the Rendezvous. I like barBque, but we be wanting some soul food! Hey, shot out for all my NBA Bros that came to help me out, 1 love Gents, I owe y'all one.
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yes im the unspoken spokes woman today! Nooks place is called Opinions, a resturant and lounge wher he has a live band on saturday nite and other happenings through the week. He has awesome food and award winning wings. I can also turn you guys onto my girl Kim for some home cooking, thats if she up to it, only 15.00 per plate, that includes dessert. So get up with me or Hurchel, mr. Anatomy about a visit and we can show yall some real southern hospitality, NO BABY MAMA DRAMA, what you do when you get here is on you!! LOL!!!!!!
Deletedid i say 15 i meant 50!!!!!!!!
Deleteand depending on your menu it may be more than that, send me your menu and we'll get it together, give me a tentative date of arrival and we'll have it hot and ready! if kim aint feeling well my girl Lena got yall. both are awesome cooks, I'll be your Host!!!!!!!!!
Deleteand we accept tips!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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He knows jus about all of us personally, Mr. Anatomy that is. You guys should tell a friend to tell another to check out out his website, blog, book, etc!!! He is the truth and could definitely help you guys out with some life coaching. YALL NEED IT!!!!!!!!!!!! and dont be complaining bout them baby mamas, YALL gave them those titles they didnt take em!!!!!!!!! Do they not sell condoms or Mirena where yall at???
ReplyDeleteG Davis im talkin to you!!!
ReplyDeleteBoy please! you only keep these people this close to you because you trap checking and set tripping. If you think decent, productive, self respecting members of society will tolerate and or condone you and your kids blatant disrespect for other peoples personal spaces and proper borders, then,you are a fool with pennies. and when the pennies quit raining down you will be stuck with undisciplined, ill mannered, spoiled brats who probably.wont know what a G.P.A. is or much less care. I guess I'm so comfortable with simple things
ReplyDeleteKimberly Michelle, why you clowning my boy and our lives in the Association. I am CJ from San Antonio and y'all need to back up just a bit. I gotcha back Kid, don't let them talk about things they don't know. This life is short lived and then you pass on through it. Kim, where you at, what city you representing?
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Rendezvous ain't what it used to be so you get no props on that. I know Opinions is in business to make money and since I've never visited it I have no opinion of it, no pun intended. There are lots of venues in most major cities that most of the franchisers will never get to explore, I know if im reading these comments others are as well, and i know if i ever get a booking for any of you leaguers, im canceling it personally! your attitudes are all elitestatbest, but your aptitudes are straight third world! I wouldnt have any part of any you that have blogged thus.far!!
ReplyDeletewell that answers that question!
ReplyDeleteSherita, sho ya Right! You rollin out the red carpet. I promise when the season starts, we gonna tell Penny to show us that spot Opinions and ya might wanna be there!
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hell im the tour guide when you come G! jus hit me up
ReplyDeletemiller.sherita@gmail.com lock me in and we can plan it out!
ReplyDeleteSherita, I got you locked in, don't be missin when we roll through. Kimberly Michelle, sorry if we made you mad. It was all in good taste. We good Peeps! Mr. Anatomy, man, we love this blog. We reading shit from last year. You are making a good name for yourself. Keep up the good work. Consider your book, Bought!
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I certainly appreciate all the love this evening and ((((((((Please))))))))))))))) Don't forget to check out the Float On Cruise Flyer. We are educating the Ladies and Empowering the Masses!
ReplyDeleteOpinions Restaurant & Lounge IS THE NAME OF OUR SPOT. WE ARE A FULL SERVICE RESTAURANT THAT OFFERS LIVE ENTERTAINMENT. AND PENNY IS MY HOMEBOY SO IT'S FOR SURE ALL GOOD!!!! AND THANKS A L;OT FOR ALL THE SUPPORT FROM OUR SUPPORTERS, AND KIM INBOX US FOR A PERSONAL INVITE THIS SATURDAY NIGHT AND THEN YOU CAN HAVE A OPINION!!! LOL BUT FOR REAL YOU WILL ENJOY. WE HAVE Devin Dc Crutcher PERFORMING LIVE..
ReplyDeleteSee, I had to come to the blog and read the bulk of this mess to get the gist of this sticky situation. This read like a sketch of a script for basketball wives. This girl is blinded by fame and someone elses fortune. She likes the drama of it all, it is too evident. When I read the part about the dragon ex at the game and the idiot baby daddy financed it all, it was so obvious that my original opinion of him keeping his ex and their kids that close is because he has the best of both worlds and he is taking full advantage of that situation. This girl doesn't need or want advice, she just wants an audience for her tantrums. Any self respecting young lady would have popped both of those kids on the behind a long time ago.
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Kimberly Michelle
ReplyDeleteOne time, in my rough and ready days, I dated a big drug dealer (King M). When I grew tired of the games and the baby mamas, I went back to my own home. You see, I had the sense to know that that situation wouldn't be permanent. And I started seeing a deputy sheriff (Jody C). The one night that I decide to let jody come over to visit at my house was the one night that my ex decided to pop up. Jody and I were sitting in my bedroom looking at photos, king knocks on the door and pushes past me saying that.he needs to use the bathroom. King speaks to jody and goes to the bathroom and turns on water like he's really using it, flushes, exits the facility and enters the living room. I calmly walk in and ask king to leave and he states that he's not here to block and that I should go and entertain my company. Like a dummy, I go back and ask jody to use some of his sheriff pull and ask king to leave, but he wouldn't, and I wasn't mad at him for not doing it. But when king went into my bathroom and took a shower and asked me to take my company to another room because he was going to bed, I had had enough of the charades! So when king had to move his car to let jody out of my driveway, I locked him and his ways out and washed.my hands of both of them.
jody pulled my sister over a cpl of days later and they dated for a brief period until I told her who he was and he eventually married a friend of my sisters. And king never stopped popping up until I started popping off shots.
Im not suggesting that you start popping off shots but you cant stop something that he allows to go on. And he is allowing it! But you are equally to blame because you stay. And I think you stay because you know if you go he will be on to the next in line. The baby mammy has her check set for the duration and a home of her own, so if it isnt you Thats his extra, it will be somebody, trust and believe that. The only question is whether you have enough dignity to walk away or will you stay to see how long you can put up with this madness while you try and capitalize on you an 18-21 yr paycheck... Im just saying what needs to be said.
It truly grieves my heart to read about such immature and irresponsible behavior of grown adults who are parents as well as role models. We as parents are responsible for the children that God gives us which includes teaching them how to behave and respect others so they grow up to be respectable, successful and productive adults in society. We also will be held accountable by God on how we raised and taught our children, which encompasses setting an example for them. Children also need love and attention from their parents. If they don't get the right kind of attention then they will act out to get the wrong kind of attention because attention is attention. It is not about the quantity of time we spend with our children but the quality of that time we spend with them. Children need to feel loved!!! They feel loved when they have boundaries set and are disciplined! I included some scriptures below to give you food for thought.
ReplyDeleteProverbs 13:24(AMP): "He who spares his rod (of discipline) hates his son, but he who loves him diligently disciplines and punishes him early."
Proverbs 22:15: "Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him."
Proverbs 23:13-14: "Withold not discipline from the child, for if you strike and punish him with the (reed-like) rod, he will not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell."
My boys are not perfect but they do know how to come and apologize asking for forgiveness when they know they have been disrespectful plus they know how to treat others with respect. IJS