Dear Mr. Anatomy, (www.theanatomyofacheater.blogspot.com)
I know you don't do your blog anymore but I have a question that has been burning inside my heart that truly could use an answer. I have been faithful, God-fearing and have always tried my best to be a good person. I pray and pray for a man, but the men I attract are either married, or just looking for a good time. Most of my friends are finding happiness, relationships, and eventual marriage. Not to be a "hater" but some of them are borderline loosey-goosey with their "Coochie" and I refuse to lower my standards to pursue the wrong type of "pleasure - happiness!" So, I guess my question is .....
"Why has Thou Forsaken ME?" I have tried my best to live right and follow the word of the LORD, why am I still alone?"
Dear Forsaken-ed,
I haven't retired, but I have been very busy with "LIFE" and haven't blogged since Oct of 2014. For those who follow me faithfully, I am truly sorry. However, your question has been asked many many times by women so I felt it moving to assemble the right individuals to try to give you a true perspective on what you have asked. After my truest bloggers answer you to the best of their ability, I will come back and close it out with my take on your question. Please remain available for any questions they may have of you.
Hurchel Williams, MBA, PHR
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You have to be specific with your prayer pertaining what you want in a man....then if you are waiting on God then do just that. Because the bible say a man that find a wife find a good thing....ask God to work on you and if its of God....he will show you both and he won't be married or belong to anyone else.
ReplyDeleteStop comparing other folks stuff to yours they shit prob stankin to high hell. Don't take yourself out the game cause you ain't gon find nothing at home moping!!! TRUST ME BEEN THERE!!!! and this here too pussy spring back into shape stop withholding it cause he may say he waiting but he still screwing jus not you. Not saying give it up to everybody you meet jus don't deprive yourself of your pleasure cause you think he TOOK yo goodies! Them yo goodies hell be GOOD TO EM!! I aint never been married and really haven't made an effort to be married but I know men don't think like we do and if you expect that they will you will never be married.
ReplyDeleteGod will not bring a man that is fit for you until he feels you are truly ready. Many times we look around at what other people have in relationships and say I want this, and that, I will take some of that, oh and a double dose of that too. But we forget that along with what we are asking for comes the things we don't want and are not ready for. Look at this time as preparing you to handle the hard times, the downs, because no matter how great the man is they will come. Become a woman of strength within yourself, finding perfect peace every step of the way knowing that regardless of when or if God chooses to make you the wife of a man you have the strength and knowledge to conquer any storm.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Lena DeLacy Muhammad. Your focus should not be on finding a man but instead on building your relationship with God. When God is ready, the right man WILL FIND you. Pray for God to fill you with content and completeness and while He is preparing your husband for you. Most importantly, don't look at what your friends have in a relationship and compare your current situation with theirs. It puts envy on your heart and how can God bless you and answer your prayers when you harbor such negative feelings about the women you call your friends?
ReplyDeleteI can relate to you .. It can be discouraging .. I have dated and dated I have opened my heart so many times just to have it broken ... The best advice a friend gave me was write a list of qualities you want in a man .. Pray over that list ... Don't settle for anyone that doesn't have all the qualities you desire ... Trust in God he will send you what you need .. ( trust me I know it is hard I am going through something similar ) pray and occupy your time .. Spend this time focusing on you ..
ReplyDeleteSometime when we find ourselves alone it is the opportunity to learn to love ourselves. The hardest thing in live is learning to love life when nobody is around. Take this time to enjoy you and the life that you have been blessed with. Stop looking at other people. You never know what goes on behind closed doors.
ReplyDeleteI say stop looking. Let him find you. I'd also like to know exactly what type of man your looking for. Could it be that your standards are so high that no man could meet them?
ReplyDeleteOne word...Discernment
ReplyDeleteJesus done kept ALOT of women SINGLE!!! JS
ReplyDeleteAlso learn to ejoy dating not every date is going to lead to marriage or a relationship Some just lead to a friendship or a full belly
ReplyDeleteI believe that when it is our time is when we are blessed. I would rather wait patiently without envy then get the wrong man and end up heart broken! Have fun and enjoy life while you are waiting. You never know what tomorrow will bring.
ReplyDeleteBtw the ladies above have some fabulous advice! My papa aways said, "what we are waiting for will happen when we stop waiting and when we least expect it".
ReplyDeleteAll great comments, my advice.... God will send him. And when he does you will least expect it..Be specific, don't rush God, Trust God, and wait! #itsnotyourseason... Oh but when it comes... Watch God bless you!!
ReplyDeleteSometime what we are looking for is right in our face...are you overlooking someone because he doesn't meet your standards? If you truly wait on that man from God he may not look like you think he should look he may not have that job you think he should have etc etc...also be careful what you ask for marriage is a lot of hard work. Continue to work on self and be patient God will send him.
ReplyDeleteEveryone gave some great feedback. What I will add with my personal spin is consider how you use the meantime. As you wait you must be waiting with intention. This intention means that you are preparing yourself to be a wife. The Word says he who finds a wife.... So you are a wife in spirit before you're one in the natural. Therefore, do a gut check. I made space in my closet for my husband, space in the dresser drawers, in the bathroom then began to thank God daily for him. I prayed for him before he ever showed up in my life. Just a few nuggets:-)
ReplyDeleteI have to stop and make an observation .......... Ladies ... and the man or so that has replied ..... I truly assembled the right group of people, I am inspired by what I am reading. YOU guys are seriously digging inside and sharing the best of who you are .... PLEASE accept my warmest Gratitude for her ..... #WontHEdoIT #BlessingsFlowthruOthers #KeepITcoming
ReplyDeleteHey Mr-Anatomy Hurchel Williams sorry just now seeing this. My thoughts to the writer is to be patient, know what she wants but don't set herself up for failure just for the title. No man is perfect so he will not meet every single standard but he can meet most. Enjoy your single life while you can cause your time to be Mrs. Will come when you least expect it. I'm on my 3rd so I'm speaking from experience. Don't rush.
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure what I could add to what has already been said because it's all spot on. I would be interested to know how long she has been single, if she's been married before or not and what she has done to prepare herself for her mate in the way of becoming the woman that God desires her to be inside?
ReplyDeleteAre your actions meeting your words? The keyword is "you", are attracting these type of men. So take a long look in the mirror. Your reflection is not the image it should be to attract what you want. You say you are praying for a man but are you praying for the man you want because there is a difference. Most importantly are you truly ready to receive that man. Please stop focusing on what others do or with others have because it is irrelevant. They have simply attracted what they've been looking for. The best advice I can give is for you to focus on you and being that woman who a man of quality and substance can recognize and appreciate. Lastly, be patient with the process and happy with loving yourself until he finds you.
ReplyDeleteDear Forsaken-ed, I have read this post a few times and the biggest thing that pops out is ur vision and how green the grass really is where u stand. You commented on hpw others relationships grab ur attention with their happiness and vows. Trust me when I say being married TODAY isnt something to glorify (for most). Surely a person isnt supposed to get married with the thought of " If it doesn't work then I can get a divorce" or " I need security so lets do a prenump" or " Im 40 now so I may as well marry. Im getting old and lonely". Marriage isnt as spirtual as it once was. The divorce rate is 57% and then there are many still unhappily married with no way out. Marriage can surely be so beautiful and joyful but it takes so much more than love to make it happen. Yes while being single lonliness can set in. But the worst form of lonliness is being lonely and you have someone there. Now ur lonely, empty, unhappy and lusting something more but handcuffed. Lonliness when your single can be changed because your not restrained or limited to one. Truth is many married people want ur status. I say enjoy ur freedom. Be happy and enjoy ur space while u can and be careful of what u ask for. Both sides has its positives and negatives so make the best of where u are
ReplyDeleteGod hasn't shown you your husband just yet because it is not His timing just yet. He has a purpose for you so let Him fulfill you until the right time comes along. Enjoy life and the strength He has given you to live life as a single woman. Keep trusting in Him! He knows what He is doing smile emoticon
ReplyDeleteAnd another thing. Millions of people get married before God making all types of vows and promises. Claiming their soul mates. Claiming its forever. Claiming God had his hands in the gathering of them. BUT AT THE SAME TIME each has a back up plan. Why have a back up plan for what we feel like God has put together. If he is perfect then would there need to be a WHAT IF! Maybe ur prayers have been heard but he figured ur better off single. I just dont think God picks our mayes for us because if he did then there would be no need to look for one, date around or over think the relationship. IT WOULD SIMPLY BE! If he did pic our mates the divorce rate would be 0%. And then what if u do find this mysterious mate,, yall get married and it last only for 5yrs. Whould ot be Gods fault for matching up a bad pair lol? People find their mates...not God (
ReplyDeleteAre you what you're looking for? What you compatible to what you think you deserve? What are you bringing to the table....other than what you want... what you deserve.....how you want it.....then what it should look like! In a marriage 2 halves don't make a whole...2 wholes should make 1......Seems that you are seeking a husband for all the wrong reasons. You're seeking God for a husband....but the bible tells us to seek God first......then all these other things will be given unto you. And there is nothing you can dangle over God to give you anything.in your timing ...oh God I did this... I am doing that....so now bless me. Exactly you have actually given your own self praise. . So there's no need for him to praise you for your well doing or even bless your works. Stand down hunky and allow God to do a work in you ...first. A man somewhere seeks a you however until you humble yourself and get your house in order.....you will continue to create those same situations...looking for your husband in the same Ole places.....attacking the same Ole thang. Seek God for yourself, He knows what you need and when you need it. Trust Him with your whole heart, petition His courts with praise and thanksgiving. Ask for what you need not what you want......allow Him to be the desire of your heart.......then watch Him give you more than you ever expected in a way you never would have imagined.....be blessed
ReplyDeleteWe can never manipulate God in doing anything for us by trying to do everything right then expect Him to comply to our requests. It does not work that way. Like Alisa said, get your house in order so God can bless you with that which you desire.
ReplyDeleteDear Forsaken,
ReplyDeleteThe beauty of me closing out this post is I actually know you and I know you are a woman of GOD who struggles in the area of finding your soul mate. I don't believe your standards are too high, but I do feel you miss opportunities based on the ways they are presented. Everyone knows I am a bit unorthodox in my advice, so here we go again ...... First, I want everyone to repeat after me ..... A) There are NO single MEN. B) IF he tells you he is single, refer back to A, there are NO single men! So, now that we have that understood, we can move forward. Don't miss your blessing just because the man that shows interest in you is, how do I say this politically correct, "Is Involved with someone else!" Most of you know my history, I was married for 16 years, had everything a man could want but infidelity, on my part, ultimately ruined my marriage. What you don't know is this, before meeting my eventual wife, I was dating someone else! Also, most of you don't realize this, I was married a second time for a short stint to another nice lady but we rushed into it and didn't truly get to know one another which ultimately caused our demise. No, no, no, before you say how can he give advice, and can't get it right himself; its simple, I knew me, but SHE wanted me to change. (A whole different topic) So, my point is this, both times I took the plunge, I was involved with someone else. What does that say about men ..... we are simple creatures, we don't like being alone and we sell our souls for the woman who comes along and "seems" ideal for OUR situation! We know from DAY 1 if you are marriage material, it's up to you to fit the mold and become equally yolked with us. That was the secular answer, now, lets get into the Spiritual answer. YOU are a God fearing woman, I know you, and I believe you have prepared yourself for your husband. My prediction, he is just beyond your reach. You have come 50% of the way, and Your Lord and Savior Jesus Christ is about to reveal to you who HE has chosen for you. The ladies on this post were DEAD SET RIGHT when they told you to get SELF in order because your breakthrough happens just when you feel GOD has forsaken you. Remember the poem "Footprints in the Sand," well, I would venture to say, HE is carrying you right now during your most troublesome time within. I praise a GOD that answers prayers, I praise a GOD that comes on HIS time and not ours, but most importantly, I praise a God that says the faith of a mustard seed will move a mountain from here to there! Nothing is impossible, and to prove that, I am going to Life Coach you for free and help guide you to those who spiritually will show you ways to "Confess with your Mouth" and watch your blessing flow...... and watch "The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the LORD." There is a man today looking for 2 things, A treasure, and favor from his Savior! Let him find you My sister!
Mr. Anatomy is Hurchel Williams, MBA PHR
AskMrAnatomy@anatomyofacheater.com
Beautifully said Sir Mr-Anatomy Hurchel Williams
ReplyDeleteThat's why I love you Mr-Anatomy Hurchel Williams...you are brutally honest and nurturing in the same breath!
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ReplyDeleteMr-Anatomy Hurchel Williams are you going to open up your blog again?
Yes Lena DeLacy Muhammad, I am ..... I am moving in a whole new direction and helping others is my passion. It's time consuming but I have great followers like you and others that take their wisdom and give it to others so I'm just the vessel!
ReplyDeleteWell spoken Mr_Anatomy Hurschel Mr-Anatomy Hurchel Williams.
ReplyDeleteI love what you said H. Gives me hope. My faith is strong and I believe The Lord will give me the desire of my heart. That one true companion who will make his life with me and me alone. It's been a really really rough two months but through prayer and patience and of course my amazing friends I have made it out of the valley and am on top of the mountain. God is indeed good and I am beyond blessed to be one of His children. Glory to God our Father. He carried me through a dark time and led me to the light at the end of the tunnel today. He will do it for all of His children and I have the young lady who posted her question to you in my prayers. Miss you manne.....����
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