The "Broken" Princess - Our Weekend (Thurs-Sun) Question of the Day...

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Dear Mr. Anatomy,
I am the "Shawty" in your last question that my 'soon to be lawyer friend' wrote you about. I was flattered that he likes me because when you are in a bad relationship, sometimes, it just helps to smile. He and I work together and I do like him and his honesty but I am in no position to start a new relationship. I have been with my boyfriend off and on for about 8 years and we have a son. My boyfriend owns several (not gonna say it) franchises and when we met, he was still married but has since divorced. Although he carries himself as a Thug at times, he is truly a great businessman. The problem, he can't keep his hands to himself. Some days are great, but then there are other days that if I look at him wrong, he says, "I know you ain't catching an attitude, because you know I have a remedy for that." My family has alienated me, my friends stay far away and I try to put on a happy face daily. My life is just seriously complicated. I guess I need a question, so here it is ........

"How can a man call you his "Princess" but fight you like his enemy in the streets?" I don't deserve this life because I am a good person, but I'm all my son has, so I remain steadfast through prayer!

Ma'am, from this point forward, I will address you as Ms. Princess and your boyfriend as the "mean, ugly, Ogre." You are in a dogfight, and if you remain, things may turn for the worst. I will turn this over to my bloggers and then offer an opinion much later in the process! Thanks for bringing your question to our Forum! 


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"Does (Shawty) want a Thug?" Mon-Tues-Wed- Question of the Day....

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Mr. Anatomy,
I have an issue with a woman. I work at (not  gonna say it) and there is a young lady that I am interested in at our firm. The problem is she is involved with someone else that has that bad boy image. Everyday she comes to work with a very negative attitude about what's going on in her home. People at work are whispering that there may be some abuse in her house, but everyone tries to stay in their own business. Well, we have had lunch several times and I like her a lot and I know she likes me. When she smiles, it seems like she releases some pain slowly, but when it's time to go home, her attitude goes sour again. When I try to get her to open up, she just replies, "You would never understand!"  However, I am a good guy; clean cut, 27 year old college grad. I guess I am like the "Carlton Banks" character on the Fresh Prince of Bel Air. I am very attractive, but just not a thug and I didn't grow up on the wrong side of the tracks! I am going to Law School at night to one day start my own practice. The firm we work at has already committed to making me Jr. Associate when I graduate. My Question is .......

"Why don't ladies like the good guys? They always want the bad boy image! Is it something they want that we aren't giving?"

From hence forward, I will address you as Mr. Good Guy. I selected your question because it hits very close to home with an issue I am counseling about currently. I would like people's input and true opinions before I go further. Thanks for bringing your question to our Forum!


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Mr. Anatomy,
I stumbled on your site using Google and have read some of your reviews on giving advice and real answers. The consensus is you are a person who don't stray away from the unique questions people want to know the answer to. With that, I have a situation. I am an attorney from Florida who litigates for political interest. I've been married to my wife for 2 years and she is of Cuban descent. While she speaks Spanish, I don't. Well, in my absence, she has rekindled an old friendship with an old male best friend she knew while in high school. She secretly told me his is gay, and doesn't pose a threat in any way to our relationship, however, I noticed, they always speak to one another in Spanish in my presence which really has me wondering what is being said. They both are fluent in English but choose to speak in their native tongue in the presence of others. She hired his company to do our lawn work and our pool maintenance. Even though he's the owner of the company and don't do the work himself, he seems to be at my house every time his employees come out to work.  My Question is .....

"Can a man and woman be platonic friends and trusted to do the "right" thing when no one is watching? and, How do I know he is truly Gay, are there tell tell signs?"

Your question is very unique in nature and as such, has been selected to take the Anatomy fanz and bloggers into the weekend. While I definitely have my opinion about platonic friendships with men and women, I will let my trusted bloggers address your concerns before I chime in. Bloggers, have at it, and thanks for being so loyal! 


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"Did he Truly Leave Me?" Tues-Wed-Thurs - Question of the Day

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Mr. Anatomy,
I have been dating the same guy for almost a year but have known him much longer. I am a single mother of 2 daughters from a previous relationship. My boyfriend spends all of his freetime from work with me and spends the night with me as well. When I asked for more of a commitment, he backs away and says "he cannot commit; he's not ready!" On Valentines Day, I found text messages between he and a co-worker that were completely inappropriate. When I questioned these text, he appologized and assured me it was just innocent texting and it would stop immediately! However, since that episode, things have been different and this past weekend, he said "I need a break!" Those words have devistated me and he has not removed any of his things from my place. Mr. Anatomy, "HELP," I'm 25 years old and he's 22. I know I might be young, but I am a very responsible adult. My Question is.......

"What does his words mean? Is this relationship over, or does "I need a break" mean more than what is said?

From this point forward, I will referr to you as "Ms. 25." I have my ideas of your relationship, but before I chime in, I will allow my dedicated bloggers to offer their advice based on your situation. The only commitment I need from you, as I do from all of my question-ees is this; please respond in a timely manner to any question they pose. Happy Blogging!!

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Mr. Anatomy,
You don't usually have questions from men, so I thought I would try my hand to see if you would publish a question that a lot of men want to know the answer to. You seem to have the crowd that don't mind tackling question everybody else run from, so here we go. I met a lady about three weeks ago that I have been looking at for about 6 months. I spoke to her every morning and even sat in my car until she pulled up and acted like I was just getting to work so I could walk in with her and spend a moment sniffing her perfume on the elevator.  We work for different companies in the same building. Well, we went out last week and after a long night of fun and drinking, I finally made it to her place. She had a beautiful condo in an upscale downtown building. I was impressed but when we made it to her bedroom and started to kiss and touch one another, she got up and got a Magnum condom out of her purse! I was like WTF and I thought to myself, "I can't fill that up! Who the hell you use to sleeping with? I'm not Shaquille O'Neal," but I used it and it wasn't the best I've ever been. I have kinda been avoiding her every since that night because she shocked me. My Question is ..........

"What exactly is the woman who carries condoms in her purse, a real woman, or a sleezy freak? Should I avoid her type?"

Sir, I don't avoid 'Men Questions,' women just send in more questions than us guys! I think this is a good one, so I have agreed to let it be our focus for the weekend. Bloggers, have at it! 

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Why have "YOU" forsaken Me!! Tues-Wed-Thurs Question of the day .....

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Mr. Anatomy, 
I know we all have problems, but mine has completely changed my life. I met a guy in October of 2009 after losing my best friend in the whole world to an untimely death. While we lived in different cities, we started by texting. He was just a very supportive guy who comforted me during my grieving period. Over the next few months, we talked and texted and truly got to know one another. Finally, it was time to meet so I scheduled to meet this man in April 2010. The day before I was to drive 4 1/2 hours, I started having anxiety and did some extensive research, only to find, this supportive gentleman was "Married!" He never told me this! I was completely devastated, but he begged me to come anyway and assured me they were not living a traditional marriage, as they are not together! We met, had a great uninterrupted  weekend, and our magic love affair began. Four months later, I was pregnant and in love but shortly after the baby was born, my downward spiral began. He moved to where I live, and all the promises of protection, love, and security was replace by insecurity, verbal and mental abuse, and a person struggling to take care of me and his child. I lost a lot with this man, and now, I live in his city and we are both at wits end with one another with financial troubles, fighting, his cheating and no desire to divorce his past. Mr. Anatomy, my question is ..........

"How do I move forward after investing 2 years in a relationship heading "no where?" I have a child in pampers, and a life in shambles!"

Ma'am, you do have quite the dilemma and I will accept the responsibility of Life Coaching you with open arms. While this will be a journey, you have to listen and attempt to understand my methods of improvement. My bloggers are sincere so bloggers, start your engines. 


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No More " Tequila" Sunrises..? Our Weekend Scramble & Question of the Day .....

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Mr. Anatomy,
I am almost ashamed to share my story with you, but I was directed to you by a friend who said you could help me sort through my dilemma.  Please don't judge me, as I would like to have an initial consultation to see if Life Coaching will help with my anger over this situation. Last month, I took a cruise with 5 other childhood lady friends. While on this cruise, something strange happened and the details are a bit sketchy as to how I got myself in this situation. We got off the boat in Cancun, we had a great night drinking tequila and dancing with the locals. Toward the end of the night, the liquor got the best of me, and we returned to the ship to turn in. When I woke up, I was naked, in the same bed with my friend with toys and other sexual items around me. My face was at her feet and her face at mine. I am a heterosexual woman who has NEVER even thought of interacting with another female. When I got up, I felt my body had been violated and probed without my permission. It was so "Awkward" that we still haven't discussed the extent of what happened that night. My Question is .......

"Was I set up or given some type of date rape drug by my friend?" I want to tell my Husband, but fear what he may think of me!"

You do have quite the "dilemma" as you have described it and I will certainly accept your situation by first letting our bloggers assist with the details of this boat ride to unwanted advances. Bloggers, please be sensitive to her feelings with only serious responses. I will monitor the postings carefully and remove anything that may attack her character. Let the blogging begin! 


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I'm In "LOVE" with a Stripper! Mon-Tues-Wed- Question of the Day ...

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Mr. Anatomy,
I'm a High School principal in California and I am also in the Army Reserves. I'm married to my 25 year old high school sweetheart. I was deployed to Afghanistan for 8 months with my reserve unit. When I left, our financial situation was really bad, but since it's just the two of us, we have always managed to just make it! Well, while I was away, my wife, told me she took a job as a cocktail waitress to make ends meet but when I got home, she told the truth, and said she has been stripping because it paid better than being a waitress. I was very angry and demanded she stop immediately but she said the club owner loaned her a lot of money to "help out" and she said she can't stop until her debt is paid. Since she is a teacher at one of the high schools, people are whispering all over our small town about what she is doing. I went to see her perform and sat in the back of the club. I was so disgusted, I left because I saw my wife naked on stage and men touching her to give her money! I can't even make love to her without seeing other men all over her.  My Question is ..

"Can a HUSBAND, truly love a wife that is a stripper? This is affecting our life, please Mr. Anatomy, I need help!"

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"I Cry When I Pray" ...The Weekend Fri- Sat - Sun - Question of the Day ...

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Mr. Anatomy,
I met a man on the internet 2 years ago who is in the Military. We talked back and forth and even went on several dates as we got to know each other. Finally, he asked me to marry him and against my friends and parents wishes, we got married in Las Vegas last summer. I moved from Portland, OR to Jacksonville, FL where he is stationed. Now that we are married, something changed. The nice man that I met, has become an asshole who is very secretive and mentally abusive! I am 6 months pregnant and he tells me I'm not attractive. He is away at school for 3 weeks and I decided to snoop around a bit. I found a trunk in the attic and to my surprise, it had literature about Witchcraft, Wicca, and Children of Artemis. I found photos of him dressed up and parading around with half naked women around a huge fire. I am a devout Christian and want to raise my unborn child that way. In the past, when I discussed my faith with him, he said, "Religion is something I'll get to One Day!" My Question is ......

"Should I leave him NOW while he is away? I'm scared at what he will do when he realize I broke into his trunk and found his secret life!"

Wow, talk about an interesting turn of events! I have to do some research about his "lifestyle" but while I do, I will request our bloggers give you some insight about your issue. Keep checking the blog, I am sure there will be some interesting responses! Bloggers, start your Engines! 


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Are "Single Moms" Cursed? Monday - Tues - Wed - Question of the Day....

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Mr. Anatomy,
I am a single mom of 2. My children are the most important part of my daily life so dating men has to take a back seat to the care of my babies. I've been divorced from their father for 5 years. I have a man I've been dating for 3 years and we live together. My problem, I seriously think he is cheating on me. As a single mom, a lot of my day is consumed by caring for the children and trying to get some "ME" time from a hard days work but when I do finally wind down, I have time to think and some things I see from my mate just don't add up. I haven't approached him yet, but I am NOT stupid either. Intimacy happens once or twice a month if I push the issue, but otherwise we are just existing. My Question is ........

Do a "Single Mom" just have to shut up and live her life in silence as your man does what he wants if she wants to maintain a relationship?

I had several "single mom" questions in my "QUEUE" and since a majority of them involved dating, I selected the one that represented a piece of what you all were requesting. I like the "Single Mom" questions and will give my opinion after the masses of the BLOG have spoken.......have at it bloggers!

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I'm Not the "Baby Daddy" Friday - Saturday - Sunday - Question of the Day

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Mr. Anatomy,

I'm losing my mind with deception so my cousin suggested I send you my question because she said you and your bloggers handle some strange but TRUE questions on this site! Well, I'm a truck driver in the U.S. Army stationed at Ft. Hood, Texas.  My wife is 6 months pregnant and that is keeping me up at night staring at the ceiling. After our last child, who is 3, I secretly had a vasectomy to keep from getting my wife pregnant again. So, imagine my surprise when she told me we were having another baby? Mr. Anatomy, I'm NOT the baby Daddy so we are both lying to each other. My Question is ..................

"How do I tell my wife of 8 years I know for a fact, the baby she is carrying is NOT mine?"

This is definitely a question that will require some thought. I must say, I haven't seen this type of deception that has the ability to alter the outcome of a new life. Bloggers, let's really give this one some serious thought and shed some light on this man's situation! 

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The "Real Housewives" of Anatomy - Tues - Wed - Thurs- Question of the Day

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Mr. Anatomy,

I have what I call the "NeNe Leaks" syndrome. (The Real Housewives of Atlanta) She filed for divorce about a year ago and now feels confused about making it official. It's a classic case of wanting her cake and eating it too! Men do it all the time and no one is phased by it. Women are so much more emotional. However, I know exactly what she is going through. I love my family so much but my husband and I just don’t have IT anymore. The IT is referring to the romantic side of a relationship. We have been through so much hurt and pain over the years, I don’t feel like it can be patched up. We can’t stand each other in sight but miss each others' friendship when apart. He will do whatever I asked at a drop of a dime and will give me his last. However, I think we are much better people apart. We are great parents and best friends but I feel like as soon as I sign the divorce papers, he won’t be there for “ME” anymore. I am not leading him on and he knows how I feel. We are at the end of our divorce, but I won't sign and make it official. My Question is .........

What can I do?  I’ve been reading your blog and I know people can be harsh, but I am asking for insight. 

Wow, talking about seriously being a problem. I know this scenario oh so well. I am counseling several couples with this similar issue. I will direct all of them here to chime in on how they feel to reach a solution together. 

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Is it "My Business??" Friday - Sat - Sunday - Question of the Day .......

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Mr. Anatomy, 
I work with the (Not gonna Say it) school district at one of the high schools. Well, the other day, I was leaving after a late evening meeting with the office staff. I got half way home, and realized I left my purse on the office counter when I signed out. When I got back, I heard a strange noise coming from the principal's office so I went closer to investigate. When I peeked in the door, the principal and the office administrator were on his desk having sex. Shocked, I close the door and quietly gathered myself before leaving. The principal is single, the administrator is married, and I am single too. I have been trying to get the principal to notice me for months, but now I know why he has been dismissing my advances. I am so mad. I'm a plus size lady, and she's an anorexic whore. My Question is ..........

Should I expose this relationship to everyone at work or just leave it alone? I am pretty upset because that behavior is inappropriate for work. What should I do Mr. Anatomy? 

This situation is hilarious and I will give you my opinion once my bloggers have had time to digest this. Bloggers, start your engines!! 

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Love MY Child or Lose your Wife ~ Tues - Wed - Thurs - Question of the Day

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Mr. Anatomy,
My Question is about my husband and the relationship he has with our son. When I met my husband, I was 6 months pregnant. Part of his approach to me was "I want to raise your unborn child as if he is my own!" I thought that was such a special thing to say to a woman considering his biological father is a complete Non-factor. We were married and began our life as husband and wife. Now, a year and a half later, that person who promised to be a father to my son, is not living up to his promise. He does NOT treat my son like his own, he makes differences in my son versus his real children from a previous relationship. It is so obvious that other people see it and privately ask me if he even loves my child? I am a Black lady and my husband is White. Our son is black and his other children are bi-racial. He admits there is a problem, but nothing has changed. My Question is .............

Is this grounds to leave my husband and ask for a divorce? I love him, but my child's happiness comes first! What should I do?

Ma'am, this is truly a touchy subject and I have agreed to accept your question in an effort to let our bloggers help sort through the maze you are dealing with in your life. I will offer my opinion after everyone else has had a say.


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My "Pastor" is a Player ...... Sun ~ Mon ~ Tuesday's Question of the Day.....

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Mr. Anatomy,
I'm mad as hell, and I am NOT going to let him get away with this! I attend (Not Gonna Do it) in (Not Gonna Say it) and my cousin confided in me yesterday that she is having a physical affair with the associate Pastor of our church ! He's the next in charge at the church, and he's behaving like a teenager. She's 24 and he is 49 and married. I am so mad, I want it to be known. She swore me to secrecy but my lil cousin is in love with him but he tells her the time is not right to leave his wife! But wait, Mr. Anatomy, the bad part about it is, I am involved with him too and he told me the same thing! My cousin has no idea he and I are sleeping together too. I am 2 steps from telling our Pastor about all of this and exposing everything. My Question is ...................

How do I handle this without hurting innocent people not involved? Do I tell, do I shut up, What? Mr. Anatomy, please help me?

Wow, this is a very volitle situation and frankly I have some advice, but it may not suit your needs. I will let everyone else give you their opinion, then I will divulge mine.

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I'm in a "REAL LOVE Tri-Angle" .... Thurs - Fri - Sat * Question of the Day..*

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Mr. Anatomy,

I'm in a 3-Way love affair! I live with man (A) that adores me. He gives me everything he feels I need and want.  He offers safety with some security but has his issues. He drinks heavily, and sometimes his finances are a bit shaky, but I love him. - -The second guy (B) and I dated for 7 years and it was a whirl-wind romance! He can be controlling, with his, "call me when you are running late, or where are you" type mentality. In our years of dating, he never truly committed or took me off the market so after being together for so long, I left and met the guy I currently live with. However, my heart is still with guy (B) because I'm "in LOVE" with him. Yes Mr. Anatomy, I have started back sleeping with guy (B) and he is asking me to leave my new man and he promises to give me everything I need once we are together again. Both are older men. My Question is .......

Mr. Anatomy, what do I do? I am highly confused because I love guy (A) but guy (B) and I have so much time invested. Intimacy is good with (a) when we do it, but (b) has my heart, soul, and attention during sex! HELP ME !!!

This is definitely a topic to ponder. Here at the Anatomy of a Cheater Franchise, we never judge, just offer ways to help with your dilemma. Bloggers, have at it, let's show "Ms. 3-Way" why stopping here was the answer to her prayers !!!!!

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Married to the "Church!" Serious Question for Mon - Tues - Wed - ........?

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Mr. Anatomy.....

My Girlfriend in Memphis calls you "Dr. Phil of the Internet" and your followers keep it REAL! She says you have answered some really bazaar questions, so I have a serious one for you. I live in the Northeast and it get's real cold here! My husband is a Pastor and has been for several years. It's hard to talk about intimacy with him. I want to "warm" the bedroom a bit but he is from old time "down South" and is very traditional. I'm the second wife and I'm considerably younger. (the first wife passed on) My Question is...

How can the "First Lady" introduce some heat in the bedroom without being too disrespectful to a man who keeps it missionary?

Ma'am.... your friend gave you some good advice, and I thank her tremendously!! Bloggers, let's help her out but let's try to be very respectful to her situation and husband's position. Have at it!!! 

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Excited and Confused ..... Fri - Sat - Sunday .. Our Weekend Question ......

Mr. Anatomy, 

I have a "huge dilemma" and I could use some advice. I've been invited to take a weekend trip with my supervisor to Las Vegas. I have never been to Vegas and really want to go. The problem is, he has a girlfriend who I've met, but don't really know that well. He says it's over with them but my friend saw them out yesterday holding hands and being close. My Question is .......

Should I go to his girlfriend and ask her if their relationship is over before taking this cross country trip to Las Vegas? Or, should I stop being 'stuck up' and live a bit?

Well bloggers, here is one for you to ponder. I have my ideas, but I seriously wish you guys would chime in before I give it a go. Let me know what you think!

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Can I Walk Away ..... Mon ~ Tues ~ Wed ~ Question of the Day ......

Mr. Anatomy, 

My Question for you is serious. I am lost in a relationship that I no longer want to be in. I have been married for 16 years and the marriage has completely run its course. We are just taking up space in one another's life and I don't know how to get out. Please don't tell me to get counseling, or turn to my faith, none of  that will work. I want a loving relationship where I matter to a man again like I matter to myself. I want to feel like a teenager in love and not just a mother and housewife.  Everyone thinks we are so happy, but when the doors are closed, life sucks!! My question is ..........

How do I get out of a relationship that I've been in my whole adult life, without affecting my kids negatively? I want OUT now!! Please help Mr. Anatomy.

Wow, I feel the strong conviction of this question and although I've had it about a week, I wanted it to be the beginning of a week so our bloggers could face it with fresh thoughts. Women that have been in this situation, have at it. I will say my peace and clear the runway for others! 

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"Should I or Shouldn't I" ..Fri ~ Sat ~ Sunday ~ Question for the Weekend

Mr. Anatomy,

I met a guy on a "Christian Dating Website" and while I try to  follow the teachings of the bible, I am still a human woman. I have been dating this guy for 4 months now and he refuses to have premarital sex. We're discussing a future, but marriage is still a little ways away. My Question is .........

"How do I tell my Christian friend I want to have sex? This is 2012 and my body has needs!" 

This is a very touchy subject, but, like with all questions, I don't judge individuals and the way they think. I just offer my honest opinion as to how I feel about the topic. Bloggers, start your engines and tell me how you feel about her dilemma. 

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Am I a Sucker For Love ...Tues ~ Wed ~ Thursday Question of the Day

Mr. Anatomy, 

You rarely have questions just for "US" men, so I got a very simple one that I want ladies to really answer. I have this lady friend who I talk to sometimes and I have always liked. Deep down inside, I don't think she likes me 'at all' but every now and again, I get a call where she invites me out to dinner. Well, when dinner is over, the check is always slid over to me. My Question is this ............

"Am I just a free meal to this lady? Do women really only call us when they are hungry for a good restaurant?"

You know what Mr. Man-type......, that is a really good question that I'm sure other men would like to know the answer to. We have all been through it and since our questions have been really serious of late, I thought this was a really good one to slow things down.  Happy Bloggin! 

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Did I fail My Child.........Question of the Day Fri ~ Sat ~ Sunday......

Mr. Anatomy, 

Without too much detail, I would like your opinion on my son's sexuality. My son went to a program where it was supposed to help at risk boys with their behavior prior to entering manhood. Well, I recently found out he was sodomized with a broom handle while taking a shower by a group of boys. My son is now confused about his sexuality. I am beginning to feel like a failure if my son is gay. I don't know why but in my mind it is OK for a girl to be with a girl, but not a guy with a guy. Maybe that can be a question of the day......(Our Question of the Day is)......

Why is it I feel that way and do others feel as I do about men vs women in same sex situations?

For me, it's not too often I know my subjects, but in this case, I have watched this child grow into adult hood. This tells me this could have happened to anyone, so I will advise in a very delicate fashion as I proceed. Dive in Bloggers and share your knowledge. 

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Am I Gay or Am I Confused ...... Mon - Tues - Wed - Question of the Day ...

Mr. Anatomy,

I appreciate you allowing me to come back to your blog site to address the mass confusion of gay / bi sexual men. I am the twin, Matthew from a few topics ago who interacts with men, but dodge the titles society has placed on me. I'm Not Gay, I'm Not on the Down-low, I'm just living my life.... My question is .......

Why must I be labeled as anything? I have a man friend in my life, but if I choose to date a woman, Isn't that my Choice? 

Well bloggers, he returned so I thought I would start the week with a very controversial topic in an effort to allow TWIN to answer all of your questions. Please, keep it respectful, but get out what you seek! 

Hurchel Williams, MBA

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Bigger is Beautiful, Right? Weekend Scramble .....Question of the Day...

Mr. Anatomy,

I am a larger woman who have my sights set on a guy who, I think, normally dates smaller women. I think I have all the moves of the next lady, and the looks too but often times my confidence isn't always there. My Question is .......

IF a man normally dates smaller, more defined bodied women, will he change his taste and date a larger woman? 

I honestly believe this is a really good question. I have known this to be the case in several situations and I look forward to the feedback. Let me hear you bloggers!

Hurchel Williams, MBA

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Chase the World, not the Girl...Tues ~ Wed ~ Thur...Question of the day

Mr. Anatomy, 

You never have "man questions" so I hope this gets posted. I have a problem with being alone. I have been a "sex fanatic" for years, but now I think I want to settle down and be with one lady. The problem is, I keep meeting women and it's not until after I sleep with them, I know whether I like them or not! If I don't like them, they have to leave immediately. If I do like them, I want to be around them and make them special. Problem is, there are few special ones, and more sex partners.  My Question is .......

How do I break the bad habit of wanting to be intimate with all the "Hott" women I meet?

Mr. "Man Whore," the term is Monogamy.....and I have several questions for you myself, so I will select your question. I have been where you are going and the ride comes with a lot of discomfort until such time "your plane" lands! Let's let the bloggers dance before I comment! Have fun everyone! 

Hurchel Williams, MBA 

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Can't Grow NO-MORE......The Weekend Wreck...Question of the Day....

Mr. Anatomy,

My heart is aching over this decision. After speaking with other women, I realized I am not the only one going through something with my soon to be husband; or maybe NOT! His "man part" is really small and he is a 15 second man, I am not an oral person so I am just frustrated! He is such a good man and excellent provider; My Question is .......

What do I do regarding my future with him if satisfaction can't be achieved?  

To my bloggers, I struggled over whether or not to put this question up in its present state. I do have my opinion on this question, but I will first let our bloggers ponder it before I render my response. Share your heart with the blog! 

Hurchel (Mr. Anatomy) Williams, MBA

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Can a "1 nite stand" be a Girlfriend..Tues ~ Wed ~ Thurs Question of the Day..

Mr. Anatomy, my friends and I want your opinion on something that may help us solve a debate we are having. This may possibly be your ....Question of the Day.....

Do Guys ever date a girl that sleeps with them on the first Date ?

Sadly, this question is near and dear to me, because YES, I was that girl. Met him in New Orleans, one thing lead to another and "bingo-BANGo" we were in bed!

Alright Bloggers, let's help this young lady with our opinions. We don't judge here, we just tell the facts as they relate to the subject. Let me hear ya!

Hurchel Williams, MBA

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