Thursday, December 15, 2011

Question for Thursday and Friday .............

Today's Question is real simple, but may offer insight for those on the fence when ending a relationship.
Our question today is ................

When in a relationship, whether marriage or just dating long term, when did you know it was over? How long did it take for you to accept this fate and truly move on?

This question has been sent to me many times in many different forms, so I felt today was the day to really get the opinion of our bloggers. Give us your true opinion, let me hear your hearts!

H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach,  Motivational Relationship Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
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Monday, December 12, 2011

Question from a Blogger ....... Monday and Tuesday's Question........

This question was submitted by a blogger to Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com to be discussed in our forum.

A female blogger asked:
"Would you ever make an intimate video with/for your significant other, loved one, or spouse?"

This question has been posed many times because of its relevance in the media with actors and celebrity figures having their secret videos exposed. I have an opinion as always, but I will share it later in our questioning period. Give me your feeling everyone.
H. Williams, MBA 
Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

Saturday, December 10, 2011

"The Weekend Run!" What were you Thinking......Sat and Sun's Question...

People, place, faces, and thoughts...... Today's question is strictly about a friend I spoke to earlier this week about her transgressions. You would have to know this "good gurl" to understand my surprise
of her frequenting a Strip Club with her man. So, this weekend's question ...........

How many of you "Good Gurls" have ever been to a strip club? Please indulge me and tell me; "What were you thinking while sitting there watching the show?" and Guys, have you ever taken a girl with you? Tell me about that experience!

When my friend told me she went with her boyfriend, I was like "WTF" you've been to a strip club, Ms. Goodie 2 Shoes!!! That told me the world has truly changed ! Come on y'all, talk to me, let's make this one fun! I'll see if I can get her to chime in too! 
H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
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Friday, December 9, 2011

"The Door to the Weekend" - - - Friday's Question 9 Dec 2011

In Previous years, my birthday was the day I used to truly celebrate the culmination of a year! It seemed, anything I chose to think of, I would try to package into one day of creation to seize a memory. However, today, as I embark on the gateway into my future, I use this birthday to ask a simple Question..............

As we age, how does one reach us to LOVE us, is it physical, is it mental, or is it a combination of both? 

Although, Adults do what Adults want to do, I truly feel "When you Know Better, you Do Better?" So internally, I feel with age comes wisdom! Give me your take as I celebrate my milestone birthday~ !

H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
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Wednesday, December 7, 2011

"Hump and Bump Days" to the Weekend - Wednesday & Thursday's Question ...

Today is the middle of the week. Typically, our minds are in "overdrive" by now. Since that's the case, let's challenge our thoughts, Today's Question is ...........

Have you ever left a stable but "not too comfortable" relationship, for another, only to find the grass "wasn't greener" on the other side?

You got on the other side of the fence and secretly said to yourself, "Damn, what have I done?" It has happened to the best of us. Did you stay and suffer or did you go back?  Let me hear your heart! 

H. Williams, MBA 
Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

Monday, December 5, 2011

The "Awakening to start our Week!" Monday and Tuesday's Question...

You've all heard the term, "If I knew then what I know now.........." you would probably do things a little different. OR, How hindsight is 20-20, well, keeping with that mindset, Today's Question is ..........

What mistake did you make in a relationship of your past, that if given the opportunity, you would completely do it over again and do it differently?  Was it something you did; was it something you said that completely changed the complexity of the relationship  with this person?

Let's talk about it! Remember the saying, "Those who don't learn from their mistakes, are destined to Repeat them!"

H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
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Saturday, December 3, 2011

The weekend "Walk in the Park!" Saturday and Sunday's Question.....

Bloggers Have More Fun......... Since that is the case, I am still using your questions to help stimulate the minds of the masses. Keeping with that spirit, the latest question to darken the doorstep of my email address Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com  is ............
"What exactly is Romance?" Everyone talks about it, but few still practice sincerely indulging in making their mate blissfully happy! So Hurchel, ask everyone to start their answer like so;  Romance to Me is....?
Come on everyone, let's explore this topic. This is one that is close to my own heart, so I will start out simple and let you guys go from there! 
H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
http://twitter.com/anatomyofacheat

Thursday, December 1, 2011

Thursday's/Friday's Question of the Day ..................

By Request, all questions are for 2 days,  to further Thoughts and Ideas on particular topics......!
Often times deception keeps a lot of relationships from reaching their full potential. So today's Question is a simply one ................

Have you ever been introduced to a friend of your mate/spouse/partner and you found out later, this person is a current or past sexual love interest? What happened? How did you eventually find out? What was the explanation? 

Please chime in and let us hear your voice !! I have been on both sides of this coin, so I understand "WHY" we introduce the other person and how deception plays a significant role in this exchange. (I'll explain later) 

H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
http://twitter.com/anatomyofacheat

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Tuesday's Question is Wednesday's Awareness. Please Read !!

By REQUEST, We will stay with Tuesday's Question, Please take the time to review what "Turquoise Eyes" had to Say within the post! 
Today's Question, like most, is based on a conversation I had with an individual about real life occurrences. For me, inspiration comes in many forms. To "Ms. Turquoise eyes", thanks for allowing me to use your material for my bloggers. Today's Question is ..............


Is it possible to "LOVE" so strong that it becomes detrimental to your health? IF so, how and when do you say, "Enough is Enough" and either seek help or terminate this union all together?


Yesterday, while flying back to Dallas, I met with "Ms. Turquoise eyes" on one of my plane rides and what she shared with me was shocking to say the least! She was told, "If you leave me, I'll kill myself!" At the conclusion of this blog, I will tell you how that promise played out! VERY scary indeed! 
As always, I will request her to log on and share her story! 

H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
http://twitter.com/anatomyofacheat

Saturday, November 26, 2011

Continued for Monday 28 Nov 2011 ..........

I wish they all could be "California Girls!"  This question defines the differences in cultures and what I would say, "differences in location as well!" My friend from California says, "All I want is a connection with another person! Something rewarding, either "man or woman!" Today's Question is ........

Is it possible to seek a new relationship without a clear direction? I mean, is it just the 21st century or what? All she seeks is a connection! Give me your thoughts. Do you think she will be happy with either a man or a woman or  will she lack something that one or the other can provide? 


Let's dissect this one bloggers and at the end, (or sometime this weekend) I will have her chime in with her true feelings! Let ME hear ya. She is the "J. Cali" Syndrome. (LMAO)

H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
http://twitter.com/anatomyofacheat

Friday, November 25, 2011

Friday's Question of the Day .............

Today is Friday, so let's keep it simple .... Today's Question is .....


Have you ever caught your man/woman cheating? You had all your facts; or they were caught almost in the act!  Did they lie or come clean?  Explain ...........! 


I was speaking to one of our bloggers about this in a personal counseling session and I told her I would bring this question forward to see if she is alone or if this happens more than we care to speak about. Later, I will explain her situation.

H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
http://twitter.com/anatomyofacheat

Thursday, November 24, 2011

Happy Thanksgiving To all.......Question of the Day ......

Keeping with the tradition of the holiday, Let's make today's Question a bit fun. This has actually happened, especially to Men! 
Today's Question is .....................


Have you ever dated more than one person at the same time, and had to decide who's Holiday Festivities to Attend?


You may find this ironic, but it happens to MEN all the time. This is what separates the men from the Boys. You can cheat, but the HOLIDAYS get you every time because your mate always expect you to be there! 

H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
http://twitter.com/anatomyofacheat

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Wednesday Question From a BLOGGER .........

BLOGGER REQUEST  -  -  - BLOGGER QUESTION  - -  -  QUESTION FROM BLOGGER !!!!!
Today's Question was completely written by one of our Bloggers!

Ladies, with the total honesty of your soul, please speak up. Today's Question is ...........


Do you or have you ever sacrificed your own sexual pleasures to spare the feelings of your mate because he can't get you to that orgasmic place? If that answer is yes, do you secretly pleasure yourself? I also need to know, what's the reason you are not being honest with him about "NOT" getting your jollies too?

As a Blog Administrator, I try to always allow the masses to be heard. One of our ladies was passionate about this question and wanted to get the honest opinion of others. With that, Laissez les bons temps rouler! (Let the Good times Roll)

H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach,  Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
http://twitter.com/anatomyofacheat

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Tuesday's Question of the Day .......... Don't Forget to JOIN the Blog Site!!

Today is Self-Evaluation Day !!!
Take a look in the Mirror and Examine what you see.  Today's Question is ............


Are you a Damn Good Woman? -  Are you a Damn Good Man? Forget your indiscretions, Are you the perfect mate for someone else?


Tell me about it.... I call it the "M. E." Syndrome! Do you have everything going for you and that PERFECTION intimidate the right person from coming into your life? (I'll explain "M.E." Syndrome later)

H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 
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Monday, November 21, 2011

Monday's Question of the Day ..........

To all of my amazing bloggers, thanks for a great weekend of exceptional thought and sharing. Whenever I get a question that I feel will provoke idea exchanges, I try my best to bring it forward! My email address at the bottom of the page invites you to share your ideas. With that, today's question is ...........

"Does having sex HAVE to be a clear sign of connection OR, can the act be like riding a bike; something recreational? What's the Norm, and why?"

I've had both, sex for clear connection and intimacy for recreation, and as I get older, my mind says I value friendship more than I love someone who loves ME........! (Figure that out!) I'll explain later.

A blogger's mind is a sharing tool and (she) wanted all of us to help with her dilemma.

H. Williams, MBA 
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
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Saturday, November 19, 2011

Saturday and Sunday's Question of the Day....

We will keep it short and simple. While out partying with friends, I was asked to post the following question. So to Claude's request, I ask.....



How do you know when you're really in love?


Let's talk about it......

H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
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Friday, November 18, 2011

Question of the Day ..........

To Follow up on yesterday's question, I venture to expand the real statement that "No One" really wants to touch, so here it is....

Is Anyone truly happy in Relationships? Think about it.....everyone wants to get their "happy ever after" BUT, I want you to really think before you respond: Do you personally KNOW any couples married or in an extended relationship, that are truly living a happy, blissful, Life? Or do we just settle and stay in these relationship until which time we can't take each other anymore and change our situations?

If you know of happy people who are married, or in a serious relationship, let me hear you. However, if you don't, I want you to expound on my theory as well. Let's discuss this openly and honestly until we are all in agreement! (yeah, right, agreement) LOL. Maybe we can find solutions to make life better!

H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
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Thursday, November 17, 2011

Question of the Day ..........

Today's question is simple, sweet, and to the point......


Simply, are you where you'd like to be today? Are you in the loving relationship you choose to be in? 
Why or Why Not? or Are you simply existing until such time something new appears?


Do some soul searching with this questions and tell me who you see in the mirror! 

H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
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Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Question of the Day ..........

"The mind is a terrible thing  to waste!" The UNCF made that slogan famous and on many levels, it's perfect to churn the spirit of inspiration inside of us. However, today, I want to explore your interpretation of those words. Today's Question is .............

How many times in your own life have you had to pull from your sexual subconscious to reach your orgasmic goal? You are with one, he or she is working you over, but mentally, you are pulling from another source (thinking of someone else) to push you over the hill !!  I know it happens, I just want to know when and how it happened to you! Explain, give us a bit of yourself. 

Let's make today a mentally stirring day where our end result is a smile of mass proportion! 


H. Williams, MBA 
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker, 
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 
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Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Question of the Day ..........

Today, let speak to the inner desires of self thought versus reaction; how one either restrains self, or releases the secret inhibitions based on our hidden desires. Our question today is loosely based on a conversation I had with a friend a few days ago. I felt this question had the propensity to evoke thought among our dedicated bloggers. 


Have you ever had a secret desire to date/fool around with/ or have a relationship with someone you knew was completely off limits? By off limits I mean, a boyfriend of a friend, a friend of an ex boyfriend, etc. A relationship, that if exposed, would be frowned upon by others. Did you do it anyway? How? What was the outcome? 


Tell us all about it. We are all human, let's seek to learn from the secret rendezvous of your past. If need be, you can start it by saying, "I haven't but I had a friend who........." (wink-wink) 

H. Williams, MBA 
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
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Monday, November 14, 2011

Question of the Day..........

It's Monday everyone! Time to dust off the cob-webs from the weekend, and start fresh on a new week of discussions. I sincerely appreciate all of you that have made this blog a success. Remember, I can't do it without you. Thanks.......and with that said, Today's Question is .......

Has intimacy (sex) ever made you call in, go to work late, or leave early; when you knew, it was for NO other reason but a "booty call?" IF so, let us hear it and explain why this was the case. 

For me, let's just say I was young, care free and got a call that she was passing through town!! Only here for an hour or so to refuel!

Keep it honest, keep it entertaining, and keep it 100% real.


H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
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Saturday, November 12, 2011

Question of the Day.....

I would like to thank everyone for your participation in our First Fantasy Friday....It was GREAT !!!! So, today's Question is.....

What makes you happy in your relationship? At the end of the day, is it sex, is it togetherness, is it love? Exactly what makes you happy to be in the arms of another?

I hope to hear from you and I will leave today's question up for the weekend to allow your thoughts to marinate. Good Thinking and ........Let us Hear Ya!

H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Friday, November 11, 2011

Question of the Day- 11.11.11.....Go to UStream.com and type in Anatomy of a Cheater to see me LIVE !

Because of our special evening planned tonight, I feel the need to set the tone.... Today's question is:


Describe your sluttiest moment! When you looked back and said to yourself, "that was a slut moment, if I do say so myself!" Me, well, let's just say mine involved 4 ladies (I'll explain later....)


Let me hear ya, and don't hold back! It's Friday....and the weekend is here!!!  Let's Go!!!


H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater


Thursday, November 10, 2011

::GET YOUR QUESTIONS READY !!! I WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU !!! IT'S THIRSTY THURSDAY!!

This is your time to talk...your time to vent.....I've been asking all of the questions...now it's your turn..!! Let's GO!!

The only rules I have is keep it REAL and Keep it SEXY! Ready, set......BLOG ! 

H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

THIRSTY THURSDAY !!!

GET YOUR QUESTIONS READY....ASK WHAT YOU WILL, MY ANSWER JUST MY SURPRISE YOU...OR NOT...

Question of the Day.....

With all the success from yesterday, let's keep that fire burning. So, we talked about scratching itches, Now, answer this......

What's the furthest you have ever traveled to get your itch scratched? In Ebonics (how far did you travel to get you Some?) AND ....... When you got there, was it WORTH it? 


The only rules I have is keep it REAL and Keep it SEXY! Ready, set......BLOG ! 

H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

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Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Question of the Day.....

In my life, there was always someone who made my toes curl. In the sexual sense, someone who knew my needs and met them continuously. "Whew!" (wiping my brow) Today's question is.......

Do you have a secret "itch scratch-er?" Someone you may or may NOT still see that whenever you did interact with them, you knew it would be fireworks romantically? Someone who, even today, just the thought of them makes emotions crawl down your back! 


Come on, let's talk about it. Explain what they did to make you, "wipe your brow!" 


H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater
WilliamsHjr@anatomyofacheater.com
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Monday, November 7, 2011

Question of the Day.....

In life and relationships, we rarely get a chance to "Do Things Over" or try it again. Last night, I witnessed my neighbors having a squabble which escalated to the authorities being called and each of them sleeping separate of one another! So, today's question is.........

IS there a past relationship that you wish you could "Do Over?" Share the intimacies of what happened and why it ended and why you care to try it again? 

Remember.... we all make some mistakes, today, for the sake of conversation, let's try to right a wrong!  
Come share with us and let's make this a fruitful exchange!


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H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 
Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

Sunday, November 6, 2011

Question of the Day.....

Since it's Sunday, let's slow it down a bit and truly reflect on happiness. A happiness that makes us smile and enjoy the sincere comfort of another person. So, our Question for today is:

What is your favorite ROMANTIC past time with your significant other? What truly makes you feel connected when you are in the presence of the one you care for the most? 

Give me your heart, and let's really explore your ideas of being WHOLE with another! 

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H. Williams, MBA
Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,
Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 
WilliamsHjr@anatomyofacheater.com