Chase the World, not the Girl...Tues ~ Wed ~ Thur...Question of the day

Mr. Anatomy, 

You never have "man questions" so I hope this gets posted. I have a problem with being alone. I have been a "sex fanatic" for years, but now I think I want to settle down and be with one lady. The problem is, I keep meeting women and it's not until after I sleep with them, I know whether I like them or not! If I don't like them, they have to leave immediately. If I do like them, I want to be around them and make them special. Problem is, there are few special ones, and more sex partners.  My Question is .......

How do I break the bad habit of wanting to be intimate with all the "Hott" women I meet?

Mr. "Man Whore," the term is Monogamy.....and I have several questions for you myself, so I will select your question. I have been where you are going and the ride comes with a lot of discomfort until such time "your plane" lands! Let's let the bloggers dance before I comment! Have fun everyone! 

Hurchel Williams, MBA 

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

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Can't Grow NO-MORE......The Weekend Wreck...Question of the Day....

Mr. Anatomy,

My heart is aching over this decision. After speaking with other women, I realized I am not the only one going through something with my soon to be husband; or maybe NOT! His "man part" is really small and he is a 15 second man, I am not an oral person so I am just frustrated! He is such a good man and excellent provider; My Question is .......

What do I do regarding my future with him if satisfaction can't be achieved?  

To my bloggers, I struggled over whether or not to put this question up in its present state. I do have my opinion on this question, but I will first let our bloggers ponder it before I render my response. Share your heart with the blog! 

Hurchel (Mr. Anatomy) Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 

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Can a "1 nite stand" be a Girlfriend..Tues ~ Wed ~ Thurs Question of the Day..

Mr. Anatomy, my friends and I want your opinion on something that may help us solve a debate we are having. This may possibly be your ....Question of the Day.....

Do Guys ever date a girl that sleeps with them on the first Date ?

Sadly, this question is near and dear to me, because YES, I was that girl. Met him in New Orleans, one thing lead to another and "bingo-BANGo" we were in bed!

Alright Bloggers, let's help this young lady with our opinions. We don't judge here, we just tell the facts as they relate to the subject. Let me hear ya!

Hurchel Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 

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Lady on the Edge...... Sat ~ Sun~ Monday... Question of the Day.....

Dear Anatomy,

I have been referred to you by a good friend of mine. She says putting my question out there might help me get some clarification with my issue.

Here is goes!! My husband and I have been married for over 8 years and things are definitely at a breaking point.When we got married 8 1/2 years ago I would have never thought this man, whom I respected as a man, would turn into the biggest loser, in my eyes!! About 3 years ago my husband got into an altercation with a guy at a club on the west coast. Well, no charges were ever filed, that we knew of, at that time. March 2011 there was a search warrant out for his arrest from this altercation and the cops came to pick him up. He was later released but the charges were not dropped. After the long journey of court dates we found out that he will only serve community service and 3 years probation. I said all of that to say....Although he has a charge on his record, that does not mean life has STOPPED!!! Bills are still due, children have many needs and our bellies need to be fed. This man has a Masters degree in Biology. He feels like its his right to have a perfect opportunity handed to him. If he can not work in the same field that he was in prior to the arrest, he will not do it. I mean it has gotten truly horrible that he's not trying at all. I would respect him more if he would just work at McDonald's, a Donut shop, walk some dogs or something that doesn't require a background check. I just want him to be a man. I am starting to learn there are two types of men in this world. A MAN that is the sole provider for his family and a man that acts as a lil bitch!!! I am at my wits end because he finds no shame in asking his parents, my parents, my sister and friends for money. I now have a friend at work and I don't think I want to go back to my husband because his actions are disgusting me. One last thing, I don't knock him or put him down in his face so that's why I'm seeking advice. Please Anatomy, what do I do?

Sincerely,

Struggling to Respect

H. Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker, 

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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The Cougar and the Cub ........ Thurs ~ Friday ~ Question of the Day...

Mr. Anatomy, I've been dating this younger guy for about 4 months and while his total obsession of me was cute in the beginning, I am starting to think that maybe my cub is a little too dependent on the Cougar ..... Today's Question Is ......... 

Urban Cougar: An older woman, typically early thirties to mid-forties, who has abandoned traditional rules of romantic engagement to pursue a younger man as her target!

Is it normal for a younger guy to "Always" want to be around when dating a "Cougar?"

There is a 10 year difference with my man, and I swear, every time I leave home and try to visit my friends in a social setting, my cub wants to tag along. At first it was so cute, but I'm starting to think I've done something to him that may have scarred him for life.

Hurchel Williams, MBA 

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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Temptation is testing me ! .... Mon ~ Tues ~ Wed Question of the day..

Mr. Anatomy, my relationship has hit a wall and it has been at this stand-still for quite sometime. Last week, a new Co-Worker of mine actually made an advance at me and it felt so good to be noticed by someone. My Question is ............

It pains me to roll over and make love to my husband, but I'm tingling for a true outsider/stranger at work to touch my body. What's happening to me? Am I being tested? 
(Tempted and Willing!)

Lately, I've been getting several questions from bloggers and since my audience has grown significantly, I allow the masses to assist with answering my questions. With that said, go ahead group, tackle this one! 

 Hurchel Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker, 

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

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Tell Me Why this Has Happened .......... Question for the Weekend ....

Sometimes I get questions from Bloggers that I feel have the "strength" to be my Question of the day. This one came in from someone I actually know. She wanted me to address it to you, my audience. With that said, Today's question is ..........

My husband has a daughter with another lady. Oct. of last year, he left our house to live with her and only comes home during the day to check on me and my 2 children. However, 2 weeks ago, he slowly worked his way back to my bed permanently and now only goes there to "check" on them. Why has this happened, what do you think is going on?

Of course, I have my opinion, but I will save that until such time everyone else has had a chance to dive into our question and give her an opinion from both sides. Happy Blogging. 

Hurchel Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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Am I a Priority ?........Tues ~ Wed ~ Thursday, Question of the Day.....

In life we always want to be important to someone, so much so, we sometimes feel we are more to someone than we may truly be..........Today's Question is ........

Are you thinking you are more to someone than you are? What are you doing to make yourself a priority in their life? Here's a hint, "sex ain't enough!"

Often times we get comfortable thinking sex, affection, and just being in someone's life is enough to keep the relationship viable. To that, I say, dig deeper and find a sustainable solution to how both people should feel so there are NO questions who we are to each other. Let me hear your thoughts !!!! 

Hurchel Williams, MBA 

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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The Things "We Do!" Sat ~ Sun ~ Monday....Question of the Day ......

When in a relationship, often times both parties do and say things to express themselves and make their counterpart feel a certain way. With that in mind, let's explore those 3 magical words. Today's Question is.........?

Why do we say "I Love You" to someone we are in a relationship with when it's clear we don't? I mean, granted, we may have a strong liking, but LOVE, come on ...... you just met them on Tuesday and this is Friday !!!!

Talk to me people. What triggers these false feelings so early after meeting another person? I just wanna know, talk to me, and explain why?

Hurchel Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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A Question of Judgement ...... Wed - Thurs - Friday's Question of the Day

When you are dealing with the truth of someone's past, is it right to judge them? Often times I speak in riddles or even in poetic review in a means to garner a stronger understanding. My weekend shook me at my core, "Homelessness now has a face" so today's Question is.....

If my heart was Gold, but tarnished along the Way, are you telling me it can't be polished for the future, in an effort to change my life for a better Day ? 

This speaks to the propensity of others to judge you because of your past. Until you walk a mile in someone's shoes, don't judge them. Underneath, they are the same as they have always been. Whether homeless, disenfranchised, or just on hard times! 

Hurchel Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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A Different Direction ......... A Question of Sincere Pain of Others ........

Today will take us off guard, just as the situation caught me off guard. I was sitting in a coffee shop late last evening and I look up at a familiar face in an unfamiliar situation! Today's Question is........

What's your feeling when you witness someone you know completely out of character and your eyes lock with each other? Is it pain, is it Sorrow, or is it total disbelief?

I will open the discussion so you completely understand that this situation is NOT what you may think. In life, there are some things we should see, and there are some situations that need our assistance. Open your heart and let your voice be heard !!!!

H. Williams, MBA 

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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Question of the Day...... Thursday and Friday ..........

The Mighty Clouds of Joy said it best when they sang "I've Been in the Storm.......Too Long!" It's an old Gospel song, but let's make it relevant today! Today's Question is ...................."

Is it EVER OK to go back to a relationship/marriage that you previously left, and try it again? Why or Why Not?

There are a couple of people on my "life coaching" list that are currently pondering this question. With total anonymity, I share this with the blog to seek different perspectives from the masses. Let us hear your voice!

H. Williams, MBA 

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker, 

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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Monday - Tues - Wednesday ----- Question to Ponder ......

Love and the purpose of a committed relationship is a good thing. Often times when we find it, the acceptance gives your core a warm and secure feeling. With that thought in mind, today's Question is.......

In your best explanation possible, what gives you a warm and committed feeling for another human being? What makes you feel safe when a sincere connection is made?

Take us to the depths of your mind, take us to your water, then allow us to drink. Tell it only the way YOU can about Self; We're waiting!!! 

H. Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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Daily Question for Wed-Thurs-Friday ! Question of the Day ........

Love, sex, and Marriage ......... NOT !! Like the Show on HBO's Big Love .........

"Could you date multiple Men/Women and make it work?" This topic was on Good Morning America and Polyamorous Societies are popping up all over America; What do you think?

Let me hear your voice. I try to keep our blogging society on the cutting edge of what goes on around us!

H. Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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New Year's Eve ~ New Year's Day ----Question of the Day ..........

Typically, with a New Year comes a New Direction with a New Attitude. Today, let's keep it simple. Today's Question.......(finish this sentence)

With life and my relationship, this year (2012) I plan to ....................?

Let it all hang out. If you are feeling it, let us know about it. Have a great start to your new year and your new life! 

H. Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

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When We love you, we ........? Question for Thursday and Friday....

Scenario; I am in one of my many cities for work; a member of my sponsor team invites me out for a drink with she and her boyfriend. I noticed, the whole night, she is very attentive to his needs. She rubs his back, his neck, fetched popcorn from the bar, and is always at an arms reach; my assessment, "He could care less about her continued affection! Finish this Statement for our question of the day.......

When in a relationship, "When we love you, we show it by ...?"

Share your heart with me because there are so many ways to say those 3 words but sometimes we just don't take the time or show the effort to reciprocate!

H. Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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The ultimate Regret ....... Question for Tuesday and Wednesday.........

Whenever we get afraid, or do something that is totally unmentionable, we have a tendency to call on a "higher power!" Typically, It sounds something like this: today's Question is to finish this sentence......

Lord, If you let me out of "this," I promise, I won't do anything like this again. My Question, what is the "This" in reference to your life??? Did you ever do it again ???

H. Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays To all..........Question of the Day

Let's keep it simple as we reflect on who we truly are. Today's Question..............

Can you look back in your past and find one or two circumstances that altered the way your life turned out? 

Often times People judge us and don't quite understand our plight......help us understand the events that shaped your life. Let us hear your hearts.

H. Williams, MBA 

Life Coach,  Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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Brain - Teaser for Thursday and Friday ....... Question of the DAY....

This is a question I get on a regular basis. I have my own ideas of happiness, but let's get the thoughts of the masses............Today's question is ........

Is it OK to date and/or eventually marry the ex-boyfriend/girlfriend of one of your friends? Why or Why Not?

Everyone has an opinion but I guess your ultimate happiness is what's important to you! Let's see how everyone feels about this one.

H. Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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"The mid-week Thought" Tuesday and Wednesday's Question ......

People like simple, so without extra commentary, let's keep it simple. Today's Question is .......... 

In this holiday season, while surrounded by others, do you feel alone in some way? Are you lacking the holiday spirit? If so, Why? 

We all need something to put us in the mindset that suits us best, let's talk about it! 

H. Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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It's The Weekend YET Again........Saturday and Sunday's Question ......

K.I.S.S. ------ Let's Keep It Short and Simple today! ......... Today's Question is ................

What is the ONE thing you need in a relationship to consider yourself happy and fulfilled? I know it varies from person to person, so share your version.

Since I'm in Memphis, TN this weekend, I think a lot of "Where it all Began!" Where I got my foundation into what I coin as "life" and the direction I took. I've seen several friends thus far and have been encouraged by their maturity and growth when we discuss their relationship view from the TOP. I'm doing extended sessions of coaching today and tomorrow gathering future questions, are you next? contact me!

H. Williams, MBA

Life Coach,  Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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Question for Thursday and Friday .............

Today's Question is real simple, but may offer insight for those on the fence when ending a relationship.

Our question today is ................

When in a relationship, whether marriage or just dating long term, when did you know it was over? How long did it take for you to accept this fate and truly move on?

This question has been sent to me many times in many different forms, so I felt today was the day to really get the opinion of our bloggers. Give us your true opinion, let me hear your hearts!

H. Williams, MBA

Life Coach,  Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

http://twitter.com/anatomyofacheat

Question from a Blogger ....... Monday and Tuesday's Question........

This question was submitted by a blogger to Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com to be discussed in our forum.

A female blogger asked:

"Would you ever make an intimate video with/for your significant other, loved one, or spouse?"

This question has been posed many times because of its relevance in the media with actors and celebrity figures having their secret videos exposed. I have an opinion as always, but I will share it later in our questioning period. Give me your feeling everyone.

H. Williams, MBA 

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

http://Twitter.com/anatomyofacheat

"The Weekend Run!" What were you Thinking......Sat and Sun's Question...

People, place, faces, and thoughts...... Today's question is strictly about a friend I spoke to earlier this week about her transgressions. You would have to know this "good gurl" to understand my surprise

of her frequenting a Strip Club with her man. So, this weekend's question ...........

How many of you "Good Gurls" have ever been to a strip club? Please indulge me and tell me; "What were you thinking while sitting there watching the show?" and Guys, have you ever taken a girl with you? Tell me about that experience!

When my friend told me she went with her boyfriend, I was like "WTF" you've been to a strip club, Ms. Goodie 2 Shoes!!! That told me the world has truly changed ! Come on y'all, talk to me, let's make this one fun! I'll see if I can get her to chime in too! 

H. Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

http://twitter.com/anatomyofacheat

"The Door to the Weekend" - - - Friday's Question 9 Dec 2011

In Previous years, my birthday was the day I used to truly celebrate the culmination of a year! It seemed, anything I chose to think of, I would try to package into one day of creation to seize a memory. However, today, as I embark on the gateway into my future, I use this birthday to ask a simple Question..............

As we age, how does one reach us to LOVE us, is it physical, is it mental, or is it a combination of both? 

Although, Adults do what Adults want to do, I truly feel "When you Know Better, you Do Better?" So internally, I feel with age comes wisdom! Give me your take as I celebrate my milestone birthday~ !

H. Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

Http://twitter.com/anatomyofacheat

"Hump and Bump Days" to the Weekend - Wednesday & Thursday's Question ...

Today is the middle of the week. Typically, our minds are in "overdrive" by now. Since that's the case, let's challenge our thoughts, Today's Question is ...........

Have you ever left a stable but "not too comfortable" relationship, for another, only to find the grass "wasn't greener" on the other side?

You got on the other side of the fence and secretly said to yourself, "Damn, what have I done?" It has happened to the best of us. Did you stay and suffer or did you go back?  Let me hear your heart! 

H. Williams, MBA 

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

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The "Awakening to start our Week!" Monday and Tuesday's Question...

You've all heard the term, "If I knew then what I know now.........." you would probably do things a little different. OR, How hindsight is 20-20, well, keeping with that mindset, Today's Question is ..........

What mistake did you make in a relationship of your past, that if given the opportunity, you would completely do it over again and do it differently?  Was it something you did; was it something you said that completely changed the complexity of the relationship  with this person?

Let's talk about it! Remember the saying, "Those who don't learn from their mistakes, are destined to Repeat them!"

H. Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com
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The weekend "Walk in the Park!" Saturday and Sunday's Question.....

Bloggers Have More Fun......... Since that is the case, I am still using your questions to help stimulate the minds of the masses. Keeping with that spirit, the latest question to darken the doorstep of my email address Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com  is ............

"What exactly is Romance?" Everyone talks about it, but few still practice sincerely indulging in making their mate blissfully happy! So Hurchel, ask everyone to start their answer like so;  Romance to Me is....?

Come on everyone, let's explore this topic. This is one that is close to my own heart, so I will start out simple and let you guys go from there! 

H. Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Relationship Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

http://twitter.com/anatomyofacheat

Thursday's/Friday's Question of the Day ..................

By Request, all questions are for 2 days,  to further Thoughts and Ideas on particular topics......!

Often times deception keeps a lot of relationships from reaching their full potential. So today's Question is a simply one ................

Have you ever been introduced to a friend of your mate/spouse/partner and you found out later, this person is a current or past sexual love interest? What happened? How did you eventually find out? What was the explanation? 

Please chime in and let us hear your voice !! I have been on both sides of this coin, so I understand "WHY" we introduce the other person and how deception plays a significant role in this exchange. (I'll explain later) 

H. Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

http://twitter.com/anatomyofacheat

Tuesday's Question is Wednesday's Awareness. Please Read !!

By REQUEST, We will stay with Tuesday's Question, Please take the time to review what "Turquoise Eyes" had to Say within the post! 
Today's Question, like most, is based on a conversation I had with an individual about real life occurrences. For me, inspiration comes in many forms. To "Ms. Turquoise eyes", thanks for allowing me to use your material for my bloggers. Today's Question is ..............

Is it possible to "LOVE" so strong that it becomes detrimental to your health? IF so, how and when do you say, "Enough is Enough" and either seek help or terminate this union all together?

Yesterday, while flying back to Dallas, I met with "Ms. Turquoise eyes" on one of my plane rides and what she shared with me was shocking to say the least! She was told, "If you leave me, I'll kill myself!" At the conclusion of this blog, I will tell you how that promise played out! VERY scary indeed! 
As always, I will request her to log on and share her story! 

H. Williams, MBA

Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,

Author, Anatomy of a Cheater 

Williamshjr@anatomyofacheater.com

http://twitter.com/anatomyofacheat